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Welcome to to Ask Good Questions Podcasts, broadcasting live every Wednesday,
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six pm Eastern Time on W four CY Radio at
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W four cy dot com. This week and every week,
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we will reach for a higher purpose in money and life,
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as well as a focus on health and wellning. Now,
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let's join your host, Anita bell Anderson as together we
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start with Asking Good Questions.
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Hey, and welcome to the Ask Good Questions podcast. This
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is your host, Benita bell Anderson. I'm so excited to
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have you here today because we have got somebody that
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transformed his life and has some very definite opinions about
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what are some really good ways to do that? So
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with that I would like to welcome to the podcast
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stage Stanley Bronstein.
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Hi, Benita, thank you for having me.
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Yeah, thank you so much for being here. Well, for
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those of you that this is your first time meeting Stanley,
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like to give you just a little a little bit
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of a heads up on who this guy is. He's
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an attorney, he's a CPA, he's a life coach, and
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he's a multi book author that has focused on two
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big missions, helping people reach their maximum potential and helping
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those who need it to lose weight permanently through healthy,
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sustainable lifestyle change. And one thing I always say is
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health is your first wealth. So he is, He's lost,
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and over time he lost a total of two hundred
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and twenty pounds, and he's maintained that he uses that
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as part of the learning and the story that he
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has around about what really drives lasting change, including willingness, belief, discipline,
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and commitment and how to align mindset and healthy eating
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and healthy movement for life that keeps getting better. So
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with that, Stanley, is there anything he'd like to add
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to that.
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Sounds good to me? I'm ready to roll when you are.
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Well. You built a career around money and business. So
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when did you realize that health was another form of wealth?
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Probably, you know, forty years ago, but I didn't do
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anything about it. Yeah, you know, I mean I think
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it's I've known for a long time health is another
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form of wealth. I mean, I've been around a lot
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of people have very I have a lot of money
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who are not healthy or are miserable for other reasons. Yeah,
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it's just too by having money helps and it's nice,
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but it is not everything.
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No, And I've seen way too many times where you
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can have all the money in the world, but if
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you don't have your health, you're miserable and it's no
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fun because you can't do anything.
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That's absolutely correct.
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So you said that your peak weight was three hundred
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and sixty seven.
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Yes, right here, here's a picture. Three hundred and sixty
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seven pounds. I had a fifty eight inch waist. Well
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today I have a thirty waist.
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Good for you. Well, what was it that made you
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say something has got to change?
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Well, as I was getting ready to turn fifty February first,
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two thousand and nine, little over seventeen years ago, I
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wasn't at my max weight then like you saw in
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that picture. My max weight was three sixty seven, but
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I wasn't three twenty. It was four months from my
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fiftieth birthday. And to be honest with you, I was
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disgusted with myself. I, you know, had a lot of
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success business wise, but I said, Stanley, you're blowing it.
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I mean, and you know, you keep putting it off
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and putting it off and putting it off, and one
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day you're going to put it off a little too
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long and it's going to be too late.
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Yeah.
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So I asked myself when I woke up that morning,
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I said, where am I going to be in five
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years if I keep doing what I'm doing? And I
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didn't like the answer because the answer was dead. And
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I decided right then and there that I did not
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want to be dead.
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So well, I might hazard to say that I might
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hazard to say you asked yourself a good question.
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Yeah, I think everybody should ask themselves that question all
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the time.
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So what was the question again? You asked yourself?
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Where am I going to be in five years if
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I stay on my prison course? In my case, dead?
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Because to be honest with you, I was committing what
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I call slow aside. I was slowly eating and drinking
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myself to death. Yeah, slowly, yeah, but nevertheless, you know,
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I was doing it to myself. And so I turned
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to my wife and I said, I'm done. I'm cooked.
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I mean I'm toasted. No more. Yeah, I said, I'm
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going to stop tolerating BS in my life. And the
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first person I'm going to stop tolerating it from is me.
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Yeah. After all, you're the only one that's You're one
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hundred percent responsible for your own life and not anybody else's.
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Yes, and I took personal responsibility, which is a very
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important part of what I've learned and a very important
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part of what I teach when I work with others.
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But even when you take personal responsibility, you know, there's
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a funny thing about blame. The blame game. Yeah, you know,
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everybody wants to blame somebody else, and then when they
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finally get around to taking personal responsibility, they want to
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start blaming themselves. Well, there's just one problem. Blame is irrelevant.
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Blame does not fix problems. The only thing that fixes
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problems is figuring out what needs to be done and
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then doing it. So little side note here. If you're
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a politician in Washington and you're listening to this, stop
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blaming each other and start fixing things right, work together,
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blame doesn't and going to get us there. That's my
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political side note for the book.
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Okay, well, what do you think the real cost of
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being unhealthy is?
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Well, let's I'll put it this worth an example, Okay,
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every time I was getting going to a Chinese buffet
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for lunch at work, every time I was coming home
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from work and drinking a bunch of scotch, sitting on
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my butt, eating a bunch of unhealthy food, getting no exercise,
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I was knocking days, weeks, months, years off of my
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life and worsening the quality of my life while I
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was alive. Yeah, so that's the cost of living an
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unhealthy lifestyle, right, and healthy eating is just a part
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of that.
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Well, what would you say, I mean, because you know,
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I don't think when somebody makes a major change like that,
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I think you pretty much have to do it one
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thing at a time, like I don't know, and maybe
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you can, maybe some people can change a whole bunch
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of things at the same time. But what would you
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say were the core habits? Okay made losing it possible.
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Okay, first of all, this has been This was and
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has been and continues to be an evolutionary process. Yeah.
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I did not instantly flip a switch and instantly turn
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into the person I am today. No, the person I
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am today is who I have evolved into over the
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last seventeen plus years. Now, well, a lot of this
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depends on where are you at health wise. You know, me,
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I had not had a stroke yet, I hadn't had
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a heart attack yet, my knees hadn't given out yet.
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All those things were probably coming, but the necessity to
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do it all at once was not there. Right.
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But some people, sometimes you're making me think of You're
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making me think of a member of my family that
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we lost last year who was fifty eight, very successful
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guy in business and with his family, and he doesn't
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come up from their exercise room and he had a
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heart attack and he died right there in the exercise
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room in their house.
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Yeah.
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So I mean, you know, it's like sometimes you don't
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get a check to fix it. But hopefully, if there's anything,
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I always try to make these podcasts so that somebody
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will go out and take some action and do something.
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So hopefully what you're sharing today is going to help
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Some people, say Okay, can we elaborate turn around?
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Can we elaborate on your family member example, for a
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moment without getting too deep into it. Okay, you he
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was exercising, good, But there may be and there may
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have been other factors. There may have been dietary factors.
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There may have been stress factors. There may have been
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genetic factors. There may have been environmental factors. It may
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have been many things. You know, you don't know. I mean,
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I pride myself in what I do every day. But
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as you sort of were hitting at, you know, I
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could cross the street and get him by a bus
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at any time. I mean, you don't know. All you
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can do is focus on what you can control and
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what you do have power over, and do the best
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you can with what you're giving. Does that make sense? Yes?
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Well, what let me ask you some mills. What did
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you have to stop believing about weight loss?
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Okay? Well, many things. First of all, weight loss is
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easier than you think. All that's involved in weight loss
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is permanent, lasting change making permanent lasting changes. That's the
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whole key. I had lost weight many times in my
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life life, but I did not keep it off because
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the changes I had made were temporary, and I would
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go right back to my old bad habits, and then
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lo and behold, the weight would come back on and
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all the problems would resurface. So I guess what I
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had to believe. What I had to learn was that
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first of all, I could do it believing in yourself
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and then becoming permanently willing to permanently make changes for
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the rest of your hopefully very happy, hopefully very healthy,
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hopefully very long life. Now, this whole experience taught me
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some things along the way. I learned from the experience
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was that I'm more powerful than I ever imagined, way
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more powerful. That's a change that I had to make,
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realizing that most of the limits I were feeling were
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in my head and that in reality I was capable
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of so much more. But let's take that a step further.
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If I am more powerful than I ever imagined, what
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does that say about anyone who's listening to this podcast.
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It says that they too are more powerful than they
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ever imagined. That's because I am no more special. If
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you're listening, I am no more special than you are,
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and you are no more special than I am. The
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truth is, we are all special, and every one of us.
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We are all capable of so much more than we
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ever imagined. So it's you have to change what you
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tell yourself. And here's another change. You really don't have
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to change what you tell yourself. You get to change
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what you tell yourself. It's a privilege to change your life.
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It's not something you have to do, it's something you
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get to do. It's a privilege, breathing, living. All these
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things we do are privileges. And when we start looking
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in life that way, we start taking better care of ourselves. Now. So,
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once I learned just how how powerful I was, that
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I was more powerful than I ever imagined, it led
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me to ask myself a question. And the question let
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me ask myself was if I could lose two hundred
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and twenty pounds and keep it off permanently, if I
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could turn into a person who's literally become a walking athlete,
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where I walk every day a lot and have gotten
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in shape and all of this from the age of
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fifty on. I'm sixty six now, so I've been at this.
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I've been at this for seventeen plus years. You know,
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if I could do this, I it made me ask myself,
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what else is out there waiting for me to do
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that I haven't done yet, that I should be doing.
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And that's a very powerful question to ask yourself. What
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are you here for? What is your purpose in life?
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What should you be here doing? Because you see what
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I've learned out of this whole experience, is you know,
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if I could go back, I mean, my whole problem
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with waight, with being overweight started when I was eight
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years old, when my mother died when I was eight
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years old and I was living with my master Wilbee's father.
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So wade has been a problem my whole life, you know,
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up until I decided to get it together, and you
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begin to realize that if I could go back and
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change my experiences, if I could change the things that
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happened to me, would I And the answer is yes,
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I would, certainly. If I could change the things that