Jan. 23, 2025

Acknowledging Big Changes-Transforming Financial Perspectives

Acknowledging Big Changes-Transforming Financial Perspectives

Have an unforgettable discussion regarding issues that affect every woman - maybe not now, but someday! Excerpts from chapter 1 of Bonita's new book, "Money, Mindset & the Suddenly Single-the Ultimate Guide for Divorcees &...

Have an unforgettable discussion regarding issues that affect every woman - maybe not now, but someday! Excerpts from chapter 1 of Bonita's new book, "Money, Mindset & the Suddenly Single-the Ultimate Guide for Divorcees & Widows"-acknowledging the profound impact these big life changes (like divorce or losing a spouse) have. Shape your financial destiny. May this be a ray of hope & a source of strength. Simple steps you can take to help your financial situation.
--

Ask Good Questions is broadcast live Wednesdays at 6PM ET on W4CY Radio (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (www.talk4radio.com) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com). Ask Good Questions is viewed on Talk 4 TV (www.talk4tv.com).

Ask Good Questions Podcast is also available on Talk 4 Media (www.talk4media.com), Talk 4 Podcasting (www.talk4podcasting.com), iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, Pandora, Spotify, Audible, and over 100 other podcast outlets.

Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/ask-good-questions--6441735/support.

WEBVTT

1
00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:02.439
The topics and opinions expressed in the following show are

2
00:00:02.439 --> 00:00:04.080
solely those of the hosts and their guests and not

3
00:00:04.120 --> 00:00:07.040
those of W FOURCY Radio. It's employees are affiliates. We

4
00:00:07.080 --> 00:00:10.160
make no recommendations or endorsements for radio show programs, services,

5
00:00:10.199 --> 00:00:12.519
or products mentioned on air or on our web. No

6
00:00:12.640 --> 00:00:15.839
liability explicitor implies shall be extended to W FOURCY Radio

7
00:00:15.880 --> 00:00:18.640
or it's employees are affiliates. Any questions or comments should

8
00:00:18.640 --> 00:00:20.920
be directed to those show hosts. Thank you for choosing

9
00:00:21.120 --> 00:00:22.559
W FOURCY Radio.

10
00:00:29.120 --> 00:00:33.920
Welcome to to Ask Good Questions Podcasts, broadcasting live every Wednesday,

11
00:00:33.960 --> 00:00:37.799
six pm Eastern Time on W four CY Radio at

12
00:00:38.000 --> 00:00:41.600
w fourcy dot com. This week and every week, we

13
00:00:41.679 --> 00:00:45.119
will reach for a higher purpose in money and life,

14
00:00:45.439 --> 00:00:48.759
as well as a focus on health and wellness. Now,

15
00:00:49.280 --> 00:00:53.960
let's join your hosts, Banita Bell Anderson as together we

16
00:00:54.079 --> 00:00:57.359
start with Asking Good Questions.

17
00:01:01.159 --> 00:01:04.319
Hey, Hello, thank you for joining us.

18
00:01:04.439 --> 00:01:07.920
This is your host Benita Bell Anderson, and we are

19
00:01:08.040 --> 00:01:12.879
here again with the Ask Good Questions podcast. So today

20
00:01:13.079 --> 00:01:17.799
I'm going to get my slides going. We are going

21
00:01:18.079 --> 00:01:23.239
to oops, I have one head. We're gonna be talking

22
00:01:23.280 --> 00:01:29.159
about something that I'm calling acknowledging big changes transforming financial perspectives.

23
00:01:29.840 --> 00:01:33.920
This is actually ideas out of the first chapter of

24
00:01:33.959 --> 00:01:37.760
my book Money Mindset and the Suddenly Single. You can

25
00:01:37.920 --> 00:01:42.040
find where to get that on Amazon on the Ask

26
00:01:42.120 --> 00:01:48.480
Good Questions podcast dot com website where there is a

27
00:01:48.519 --> 00:01:54.040
bonus downloads link and there is all the downloads that

28
00:01:54.079 --> 00:01:56.680
you will be able to find for all the different episodes.

29
00:01:57.280 --> 00:02:01.359
So anyway, today we're gonna talk about some things that

30
00:02:01.680 --> 00:02:05.840
really have to do with divorces and people that are

31
00:02:05.879 --> 00:02:09.840
going through a loss of a spouse. I really want

32
00:02:09.879 --> 00:02:13.080
to kind of start off today with what the state

33
00:02:13.120 --> 00:02:17.159
of women is in the retirement world today and kind

34
00:02:17.240 --> 00:02:19.439
of what that looks like, what some of the numbers are.

35
00:02:20.400 --> 00:02:22.800
I want to talk about, you know, kind of looking

36
00:02:22.800 --> 00:02:25.560
over a cliff when you have a big life change happening,

37
00:02:26.159 --> 00:02:31.840
the emotional roller coaster that might be happening, goals dealing

38
00:02:31.840 --> 00:02:36.400
with emotional things that are happening to you, and final

39
00:02:36.439 --> 00:02:39.560
tips things to do to help you and your financial situation.

40
00:02:40.520 --> 00:02:46.000
So let's look at what most women are experiencing. At

41
00:02:46.120 --> 00:02:49.319
least this is the data. So I want to tell you,

42
00:02:49.319 --> 00:02:52.039
you know, this is kind of an overall broad sweep

43
00:02:52.280 --> 00:02:58.520
of what women experience in the United States today. Basically,

44
00:02:58.599 --> 00:03:02.199
what we're talking about is financial success for women, and

45
00:03:02.680 --> 00:03:07.199
it's a goal for many, but women face unique barriers

46
00:03:07.599 --> 00:03:10.879
that can make that goal really more difficult to achieve.

47
00:03:11.840 --> 00:03:17.000
Understanding today's financial landscape can help women rise to the challenge,

48
00:03:17.680 --> 00:03:20.400
know their worth, and take control of their futures.

49
00:03:21.120 --> 00:03:23.439
So the crazy thing is that.

50
00:03:25.879 --> 00:03:29.400
With this study, women make eighty three point seven cents

51
00:03:29.439 --> 00:03:33.000
for every dollar that their male counterparts make in the

52
00:03:33.120 --> 00:03:37.479
same type of job. This translates into a lot of

53
00:03:37.520 --> 00:03:40.479
different things, but it's just you know, it's getting better,

54
00:03:40.919 --> 00:03:43.439
and it's getting better, but these are just some of

55
00:03:43.479 --> 00:03:48.680
the realities that happen. So the average SO security benefit

56
00:03:48.960 --> 00:03:53.199
for a woman is typically smaller than it is for

57
00:03:53.240 --> 00:03:57.639
a man. Like the reason I wrote this book was

58
00:03:57.759 --> 00:04:01.199
partly because I went through a great, big, huge divorce

59
00:04:01.759 --> 00:04:04.800
that I never expected to have happen, and that was

60
00:04:04.919 --> 00:04:08.879
twenty five years ago now, But I had been having babies.

61
00:04:09.400 --> 00:04:12.280
I was a stay at home mom. Loved being a

62
00:04:12.280 --> 00:04:16.519
stay at home mom. But that means my sobsecurity check

63
00:04:16.759 --> 00:04:22.000
now is smaller than would have been if I had

64
00:04:22.079 --> 00:04:25.759
been working all the time and not having babies.

65
00:04:26.639 --> 00:04:27.160
For women.

66
00:04:27.279 --> 00:04:30.040
That means the average is about eighteen thousand and five

67
00:04:30.120 --> 00:04:32.959
h six and for men the average is about twenty

68
00:04:33.000 --> 00:04:37.839
three three sixty four. So there's also some sobering data

69
00:04:37.920 --> 00:04:42.439
about the number of women in their fifties who may

70
00:04:42.480 --> 00:04:46.120
be forced to lower their standard living after retirement. I

71
00:04:46.160 --> 00:04:49.120
have actually seen this with some of my female clients

72
00:04:49.160 --> 00:04:53.279
who are older women, single older women, single women.

73
00:04:53.879 --> 00:04:54.720
The number of women in.

74
00:04:54.720 --> 00:04:57.040
Their fifties who may be forced to lower their standard

75
00:04:57.040 --> 00:05:01.120
of living in single women that is about forty percent.

76
00:05:03.480 --> 00:05:08.759
Single income households is about thirty two percent, and two

77
00:05:08.800 --> 00:05:13.240
income households is about forty six percent, So that's almost half.

78
00:05:14.040 --> 00:05:14.959
That's a little scary.

79
00:05:15.079 --> 00:05:18.079
If that doesn't help you motivate you to get going

80
00:05:18.240 --> 00:05:22.319
on your saving for retirement, I don't know what will.

81
00:05:22.360 --> 00:05:28.240
But here's the really interesting thing. Women control it. Well

82
00:05:28.560 --> 00:05:30.519
there's one. There's another thing that I'm going to show

83
00:05:30.519 --> 00:05:33.519
you a little bit later. That said all like eleven

84
00:05:33.560 --> 00:05:38.120
point three, but this study showed that women control ten

85
00:05:38.240 --> 00:05:43.079
trillion dollars in US financial assets. But that is going

86
00:05:43.240 --> 00:05:45.360
we're five years.

87
00:05:45.120 --> 00:05:48.480
From now, that figure is expected to rise to thirty

88
00:05:48.720 --> 00:05:49.800
trillion dollars.

89
00:05:50.879 --> 00:05:53.040
Part of that is because women are becoming more and

90
00:05:53.079 --> 00:05:57.879
more successful in the marketplace, as well as women living

91
00:05:58.000 --> 00:06:01.680
longer than men and ending up with the assets.

92
00:06:03.439 --> 00:06:08.680
So here's another some more data.

93
00:06:09.680 --> 00:06:12.839
There's something called a C suite, you know, like the

94
00:06:12.879 --> 00:06:19.160
corporate suite or the companies that have vice presidents and

95
00:06:19.199 --> 00:06:22.399
such like that. Forty four percent of companies have three

96
00:06:22.480 --> 00:06:26.360
or more women in their C suite. That's up from

97
00:06:26.399 --> 00:06:29.759
twenty nine percent in twenty fifteen, so ten years ago

98
00:06:30.680 --> 00:06:34.839
it was much smaller, so you can see things are changing.

99
00:06:38.120 --> 00:06:41.399
Sixty seven percent of women are investing outside of their

100
00:06:41.920 --> 00:06:46.560
retirement accounts, and that is up from forty four percent

101
00:06:46.600 --> 00:06:50.120
in twenty eighteen. So in a lot of cases, these

102
00:06:50.199 --> 00:06:54.519
numbers just keep getting better and better. The interesting thing

103
00:06:54.600 --> 00:06:58.519
about women and finances is two hundred and fifty two

104
00:06:58.720 --> 00:07:03.360
million entrepreneurs out of four hundred and eighty two million

105
00:07:03.680 --> 00:07:08.480
in the world, are female. Seventeen percent of those are

106
00:07:08.519 --> 00:07:13.959
black women that are currently or have already started a

107
00:07:14.040 --> 00:07:19.959
new business. And women own business employ over nine million

108
00:07:20.040 --> 00:07:25.720
workers and generate over fifty two trillion. Wow, So women

109
00:07:25.800 --> 00:07:31.399
own businesses is a big deal. So many women report

110
00:07:31.480 --> 00:07:35.959
having strong relationships with their financial advisor. I can tell

111
00:07:36.040 --> 00:07:41.439
you that as a financial advisor. What has been expressed

112
00:07:41.439 --> 00:07:44.680
to me a lot of times by older single women

113
00:07:45.279 --> 00:07:48.920
is that they want somebody to trust. So, in fact,

114
00:07:48.959 --> 00:07:51.959
seventy percent of women say that they would prefer or

115
00:07:52.000 --> 00:07:57.800
they would refer their financial professional to a brand or

116
00:07:57.800 --> 00:08:02.959
a relative. Whatever your financial needs are, we are here

117
00:08:03.000 --> 00:08:06.120
to support you, whether you come to us to get

118
00:08:06.120 --> 00:08:08.959
some questions answered, or we support you in finding the

119
00:08:09.000 --> 00:08:14.720
health you deserve. We want to help.

120
00:08:15.360 --> 00:08:16.680
Let's play the video.

121
00:08:19.079 --> 00:08:22.600
The idea of a confidence gap among women has gained

122
00:08:22.639 --> 00:08:26.000
notice in recent years, and in the world of finance,

123
00:08:26.360 --> 00:08:29.920
the effects of this gap can be especially apparent. Even

124
00:08:29.959 --> 00:08:33.200
though women have no more reason to lack confidence than

125
00:08:33.279 --> 00:08:36.799
men do. Only about twenty percent of women say they

126
00:08:36.840 --> 00:08:41.440
feel fully prepared to make wise financial decisions, and last year,

127
00:08:41.480 --> 00:08:44.919
as few as nine percent of women believed their investments

128
00:08:45.000 --> 00:08:48.799
could outperform those made by men. But here's the truth.

129
00:08:49.399 --> 00:08:55.039
Ladies have fantastic financial instincts. Studies show that female investors

130
00:08:55.120 --> 00:08:59.679
thrive and often outperform their male counterparts. Women have proven

131
00:08:59.759 --> 00:09:03.679
they have the patience, discipline, and long term commitment it

132
00:09:03.840 --> 00:09:07.159
takes to persist through the ups and downs of the markets.

133
00:09:07.639 --> 00:09:11.799
In the United States, women currently control over eleven point

134
00:09:11.840 --> 00:09:15.799
two trillion dollars in investible assets. That's a lot to

135
00:09:15.840 --> 00:09:19.399
feel confident about the power to drive more money into

136
00:09:19.440 --> 00:09:22.919
the market while shaping a better future for themselves and

137
00:09:23.039 --> 00:09:26.799
their loved ones. We want to make sure everyone feels

138
00:09:26.799 --> 00:09:30.279
equipped to climb their personal mountain. You can be sure

139
00:09:30.320 --> 00:09:33.639
we'll be here to support you every step of the way.

140
00:09:37.320 --> 00:09:41.600
All right, moving on, Well, let's get into the nitty

141
00:09:41.600 --> 00:09:46.759
gritty about this. The moment that your life shifts due

142
00:09:46.759 --> 00:09:50.559
to a divorce or losing a spouse, it marks the

143
00:09:50.600 --> 00:09:51.320
beginning of.

144
00:09:51.279 --> 00:09:53.519
A whole new chapter. It really does.

145
00:09:54.000 --> 00:09:58.399
In might feel like you're suddenly navigating uncharted waters, or

146
00:09:58.440 --> 00:10:02.440
maybe skiing down a mountain completely out of control, facing

147
00:10:02.480 --> 00:10:06.600
both freedom and the weight of new responsibilities.

148
00:10:07.679 --> 00:10:10.200
This chapter in my book.

149
00:10:10.000 --> 00:10:14.919
Is about acknowledging the profound impact that these changes have

150
00:10:15.039 --> 00:10:17.720
on your life. I've been through this, I know what

151
00:10:17.759 --> 00:10:22.919
I'm talking about. And it's also the impact on your family.

152
00:10:23.120 --> 00:10:27.519
I've seen that, and more importantly, recognizing the opportunity for

153
00:10:27.600 --> 00:10:35.879
growth and empowerment amidst those challenges. Life's unexpected urns can

154
00:10:36.000 --> 00:10:38.919
leave you feeling like you're standing at the edge of

155
00:10:38.960 --> 00:10:44.080
a cliff looking into the unknown. Whether it's the end

156
00:10:44.120 --> 00:10:47.720
of a marriage or the loss of a partner, that

157
00:10:47.840 --> 00:10:54.360
initial shock can be overwhelming. But amidst the turmoil, there's

158
00:10:54.440 --> 00:10:59.799
a silver lining, a chance to rebuild and redefine your

159
00:10:59.879 --> 00:11:05.799
life on your terms. This chapter in my book is

160
00:11:05.840 --> 00:11:11.799
your guide to embracing this new beginning, armed with knowledge

161
00:11:12.320 --> 00:11:18.039
and strategies to help you navigate the challenges ahead. So

162
00:11:18.159 --> 00:11:23.519
the first step in moving forward is acknowledging that change.

163
00:11:23.879 --> 00:11:28.159
It's okay to feel a mix of emotions, grief and

164
00:11:28.279 --> 00:11:35.360
relief and fear and hope. These feelings are all part

165
00:11:35.399 --> 00:11:39.879
of that process. But as you stand at this crossroads,

166
00:11:41.600 --> 00:11:47.240
remember you're not alone. Many have walked this path before you.

167
00:11:47.240 --> 00:11:52.960
You know that, and many have found ways to thrive

168
00:11:53.039 --> 00:11:59.080
in the face of adversity. So this chapter in my

169
00:11:59.240 --> 00:12:02.360
book is what I'm trying to do, is help you

170
00:12:02.480 --> 00:12:05.879
understand the impact of your new reality and how to

171
00:12:05.919 --> 00:12:10.720
turn it into a foundation for growth. So a lot

172
00:12:10.720 --> 00:12:13.519
of times they can feel like an emotional roller coaster.

173
00:12:14.240 --> 00:12:20.919
It's natural to experience a wide range of emotions. We're

174
00:12:20.960 --> 00:12:24.879
going to explore how to navigate these feelings and offer

175
00:12:25.039 --> 00:12:31.480
strategies to find stability and peace. There is a financial

176
00:12:31.519 --> 00:12:38.000
reassessment that suddenly managing finances alone can really be daunting.

177
00:12:38.759 --> 00:12:42.039
So we'll cover practical steps to take control of your

178
00:12:42.080 --> 00:12:49.639
financial health, ensuring that you're prepared for the future. And

179
00:12:49.679 --> 00:12:54.320
then we really need to have a support team. Rebuilding

180
00:12:54.480 --> 00:13:01.679
your support network is crucial. I found that sometimes it

181
00:13:01.879 --> 00:13:04.159
just is requiring a different set of friends.

182
00:13:05.200 --> 00:13:06.440
Learn how to foster.

183
00:13:06.159 --> 00:13:11.200
Connections that will help you through this transition and beyond.

184
00:13:11.840 --> 00:13:16.519
As you begin to navigate this new reality, it's essential

185
00:13:16.559 --> 00:13:20.080
to move forward and try to find some purpose in it.

186
00:13:21.080 --> 00:13:28.559
That means setting goals for yourself, both personally and financially,

187
00:13:28.679 --> 00:13:30.240
and taking concrete.

188
00:13:29.799 --> 00:13:33.399
Steps to achieve them. Right does that make sense?

189
00:13:36.120 --> 00:13:43.919
So setting new goals really kind of means reinventing your life.

190
00:13:44.200 --> 00:13:45.639
What do you want your life to look like?

191
00:13:45.759 --> 00:13:50.919
Now, we're going to discuss how to set realistic, achievable

192
00:13:50.960 --> 00:13:57.320
goals that reflect your values and your aspirations. You really

193
00:13:57.559 --> 00:14:02.399
need to embrace independence. It's not going to happen overnight.

194
00:14:02.679 --> 00:14:08.919
I know, I remember just feeling completely broken. You have

195
00:14:09.039 --> 00:14:12.039
to somehow you will get to where you discover the

196
00:14:12.080 --> 00:14:16.639
power of independence and learning how to enjoy your own

197
00:14:16.679 --> 00:14:22.840
company and make decisions that benefit you. One thing that

198
00:14:22.879 --> 00:14:25.679
we're going to we're actually going to talk about stress

199
00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:30.080
on a whole other episode. But managing stress for physical

200
00:14:30.120 --> 00:14:38.360
health is basically recognizing the physical symptoms of stress, and

201
00:14:38.480 --> 00:14:41.320
that is really a first step towards addressing them.

202
00:14:43.159 --> 00:14:45.039
Here's a more detailed.

203
00:14:46.120 --> 00:14:50.559
Look at strategies for managing stress and your physical effects

204
00:14:50.679 --> 00:14:58.200
on your body. So establishing a routine. Creating a structured

205
00:14:58.320 --> 00:15:05.960
daily routine can provide a sense of normalcy and control. Hey,

206
00:15:06.600 --> 00:15:12.399
regular meal times, physical activity, and a consistent sleep schedule

207
00:15:12.720 --> 00:15:16.279
can help regulate your body's stress response.

208
00:15:17.360 --> 00:15:19.000
Go to bed at the same.

209
00:15:18.840 --> 00:15:23.320
Time every night, get up at the same time every day,

210
00:15:24.480 --> 00:15:30.200
starting on your day with gratitude journaling and possibly using

211
00:15:31.440 --> 00:15:38.679
positive affirmations. One thing I've used is a app called Calm.

212
00:15:39.559 --> 00:15:43.720
There's other ones out there's probably even more than has

213
00:15:43.759 --> 00:15:48.000
ever been, but the Calm app for me is great

214
00:15:48.039 --> 00:15:52.559
for giving me something structured to listen to as I'm

215
00:15:52.600 --> 00:15:54.799
getting into bed and also as I get up in

216
00:15:54.799 --> 00:16:01.679
the morning. Incorporating exercise, you cannot abuse your body. You

217
00:16:01.799 --> 00:16:05.799
have got to keep with the program and engage in

218
00:16:06.039 --> 00:16:13.759
regular physical activity because that releases endorphins and that's the

219
00:16:13.799 --> 00:16:20.039
body's natural painkillers and mood elevators. Really, exercise also helps

220
00:16:20.159 --> 00:16:26.240
regulate sleep patterns and reduces the risk of chronic health

221
00:16:26.279 --> 00:16:32.879
conditions that are exacerbated by stress. I can't stress this enough.

222
00:16:34.679 --> 00:16:38.679
Join a program that will give you accountability to show

223
00:16:38.759 --> 00:16:44.360
up and to consistently get this done for yourself. I

224
00:16:44.480 --> 00:16:48.639
have used a lot of YouTube workout videos, gone to

225
00:16:48.759 --> 00:16:53.360
gyms and classes, including a personal trainer who has an

226
00:16:53.919 --> 00:16:58.279
online workout routine that you join on zoom. There could

227
00:16:58.320 --> 00:17:01.440
be fifteen to thirty people doing this at six am

228
00:17:01.559 --> 00:17:05.240
on most mornings of the week, So just do something.

229
00:17:05.440 --> 00:17:09.599
There's a lot out there to support you. And then

230
00:17:09.720 --> 00:17:14.279
maintaining a balanced diet. Choose a diet rich in fruits

231
00:17:14.400 --> 00:17:18.759
and vegetables and lean proteins and whole grains. You can

232
00:17:18.799 --> 00:17:22.640
go out and find lots about whole food plant based diets.

233
00:17:23.759 --> 00:17:29.519
Avoid excessive caffeine and sugar, which can contribute to anxiety

234
00:17:29.559 --> 00:17:34.119
and energy crashes. There are a lot of podcasts out there,

235
00:17:34.279 --> 00:17:37.240
lots of information to help you with nutrition and healthy

236
00:17:37.240 --> 00:17:42.119
living information. Some of my favorites are doctor Neil Barnard,

237
00:17:43.160 --> 00:17:48.559
doctor Steven Gundry, doctor Mark Hyman, doctor Joel Furman, and

238
00:17:48.680 --> 00:17:53.359
I've recently also, you know, I've used energy Bits, which

239
00:17:53.400 --> 00:18:01.480
is allergy based supplements with that company called energy Bits.

240
00:18:01.119 --> 00:18:05.559
There's a plethora of information that will help you with that.

241
00:18:06.759 --> 00:18:14.519
So start dealing with emotions, which which can be such

242
00:18:14.599 --> 00:18:18.200
a big deal when you're in the aftermath of a

243
00:18:18.240 --> 00:18:28.519
significant life change. So emotional effects can include grief, and

244
00:18:29.880 --> 00:18:31.799
when we talk, we're going to talk a little bit

245
00:18:31.839 --> 00:18:37.160
about each one of these. This is really complex and

246
00:18:37.240 --> 00:18:40.880
deeply personal. I've been through every single one of these.

247
00:18:42.000 --> 00:18:44.680
It's akin to writing a roller coaster with highs and

248
00:18:44.759 --> 00:18:51.000
lows and unexpected turns, and really this delves into the

249
00:18:51.079 --> 00:18:55.599
emotional effects and offers. Really I'm trying to offer detailed

250
00:18:55.640 --> 00:19:01.319
guidance on maintaining on managing these emotions constructively. When you

251
00:19:01.920 --> 00:19:05.599
undergo a divorce or lose a partner, you're losing a

252
00:19:05.640 --> 00:19:12.960
part of your identity. I was, I was wife, I

253
00:19:13.160 --> 00:19:15.640
was you know, I still was mom. Actually that was

254
00:19:15.640 --> 00:19:17.880
what brought me out of it, thinking about my girls.

255
00:19:18.480 --> 00:19:22.039
But I had lost my identity of who I was.

256
00:19:22.759 --> 00:19:27.599
I had lost my daily routine with him, I had

257
00:19:27.759 --> 00:19:30.799
lost the future that I envisioned that we were going

258
00:19:30.880 --> 00:19:36.599
to have. So that loss triggers a wider range of emotions,

259
00:19:37.319 --> 00:19:38.759
so grief has always.

260
00:19:38.480 --> 00:19:40.240
Seems to me like the biggest one.

261
00:19:40.279 --> 00:19:44.839
It's the profound sense of loss that encompasses not just

262
00:19:45.119 --> 00:19:50.079
you as a person, but the dreams and the plans

263
00:19:50.119 --> 00:19:54.240
that you had together. Grief can feel like a heavy blanket,

264
00:19:54.799 --> 00:20:00.039
making even simple tasks seem daunting. And in the in

265
00:20:00.119 --> 00:20:03.599
case of my divorce, I blamed it all on me,

266
00:20:03.839 --> 00:20:08.519
it's all my fault. Well, eventually that turned to anger,

267
00:20:09.680 --> 00:20:14.200
and it's common to experience anger, either directed at yourself

268
00:20:14.359 --> 00:20:18.680
or your former partner, or even the circumstances that led

269
00:20:19.319 --> 00:20:24.759
to your situation. That anger can be fiery and intense,

270
00:20:25.480 --> 00:20:30.039
reflecting the pain of your loss. And then there's confusion.

271
00:20:30.359 --> 00:20:35.839
Oh boy, you might find yourself questioning everything, including what

272
00:20:36.079 --> 00:20:37.319
could I have done differently?

273
00:20:38.480 --> 00:20:41.599
Where do I go from here? The state of.

274
00:20:41.599 --> 00:20:48.160
Uncertainty really can be paralyzing. So interestingly enough, the next

275
00:20:48.200 --> 00:20:54.640
one here is relief. Alongside the more painful emotions, you

276
00:20:54.720 --> 00:20:58.039
might also feel relief. This can be relief from a

277
00:20:58.079 --> 00:21:02.160
relationship that was struggling, relief from the tension of an

278
00:21:02.240 --> 00:21:06.559
unhappy home, relief that you can now begin to rebuild,

279
00:21:07.519 --> 00:21:10.559
maybe it's the relief of not being a caregiver anymore.

280
00:21:11.079 --> 00:21:16.440
You know that could happen, and then yes, moments of happiness.

281
00:21:17.960 --> 00:21:22.480
These may come from rediscovering aspects of yourself that were

282
00:21:22.599 --> 00:21:28.400
lost in a relationship, forming new connections, or finding peace

283
00:21:28.559 --> 00:21:35.880
in solitude. So really what happens is starting to figure

284
00:21:35.880 --> 00:21:41.519
out how to manage these emotions constructively. It's not about

285
00:21:41.559 --> 00:21:45.039
suppressing them eventually you're going to have to get it out,

286
00:21:45.920 --> 00:21:50.799
but rather about navigating through them with awareness and care.

287
00:21:52.559 --> 00:21:54.440
So really.

288
00:21:55.839 --> 00:22:00.000
You have to acknowledge your feelings. Recognizing and naming your

289
00:22:00.079 --> 00:22:02.160
emotions is a powerful first step.

290
00:22:02.680 --> 00:22:04.039
And if this is.

291
00:22:04.079 --> 00:22:07.119
Overwhelming, if this is like too much, I want you

292
00:22:07.200 --> 00:22:11.640
to just focus on one thing. It allows you to

293
00:22:11.759 --> 00:22:17.359
understand what you're going through and remind you that it's

294
00:22:17.480 --> 00:22:25.200
okay to feel these things. Acknowledgment is the foundation really

295
00:22:25.319 --> 00:22:32.599
of the healing process. Okay, So express yourself. Find a

296
00:22:32.640 --> 00:22:35.240
safe and healthy outlet for your emotions.

297
00:22:35.279 --> 00:22:36.319
That's really crucial.

298
00:22:37.000 --> 00:22:40.440
That could be writing in a journal that could be

299
00:22:40.519 --> 00:22:44.240
completely honest and unfiltered, or it might be through art

300
00:22:44.400 --> 00:22:47.240
or music or any form of creative expression that feels

301
00:22:47.279 --> 00:22:51.640
right to you. These activities provide a release and can

302
00:22:51.680 --> 00:22:56.680
be incredibly therapeutic. Now in my case, I found this

303
00:22:56.839 --> 00:22:59.160
was a great way to lose some weight because what

304
00:22:59.279 --> 00:23:02.319
I did was I went out and ran, and I ran,

305
00:23:02.480 --> 00:23:05.079
and I ran and I ran, and I dropped a

306
00:23:05.079 --> 00:23:09.119
lot of way very quickly. But it helped to just

307
00:23:09.240 --> 00:23:13.880
get out there and really just exert myself to the fullest.

308
00:23:15.319 --> 00:23:19.200
So back to calm that app I talked to you

309
00:23:19.200 --> 00:23:27.960
about practice mindfulness That means like meditation and deep breathing exercises.

310
00:23:28.799 --> 00:23:31.920
Those can really be invaluable tools to help you center.

311
00:23:33.039 --> 00:23:37.839
So they help you stay present, reduce stress, and manage

312
00:23:37.880 --> 00:23:43.440
emotional turbulence. Really does by focusing on the here and now,

313
00:23:44.240 --> 00:23:47.759
and again this is over a long period of time,

314
00:23:49.160 --> 00:23:52.759
you can find a sense of calm and clarity amidst

315
00:23:52.799 --> 00:23:58.640
the chaos of your emotions. My thoughts turned to that

316
00:23:58.720 --> 00:24:02.960
app again that I use. I use it almost every day.

317
00:24:04.039 --> 00:24:07.680
There are other options out there, so just find something

318
00:24:08.039 --> 00:24:10.400
that will help support you. All of this are just

319
00:24:10.519 --> 00:24:16.559
ideas for supporting you. So emotional resilience really is akin

320
00:24:16.759 --> 00:24:21.759
to learning how to sail in stormy seas, and it

321
00:24:21.839 --> 00:24:27.200
requires recognizing those emotions, understanding them, and using them as

322
00:24:27.200 --> 00:24:29.880
a compass to guide you through the storm. You have

323
00:24:30.000 --> 00:24:35.200
to figure out what you're making this mean. That is

324
00:24:35.440 --> 00:24:38.160
gonna be christal, figure out what this meant, what you're

325
00:24:38.160 --> 00:24:42.960
making this mean. So give yourself permission to feel everything.

326
00:24:43.599 --> 00:24:48.559
The grief, the anger, the relief. So these emotions are

327
00:24:48.599 --> 00:24:52.960
all part of the healing process. So along the wayne

328
00:24:53.079 --> 00:24:56.920
the great small victories in the midst of the turmoil,

329
00:24:57.799 --> 00:25:02.200
find moments of joy and accomplis because these are really

330
00:25:02.319 --> 00:25:06.079
beacons of light that's going to guide you through the

331
00:25:07.319 --> 00:25:15.680
darkest times. So rediscovering yourself is kind of what you're

332
00:25:16.559 --> 00:25:20.359
going to be doing in the aftermath of a life

333
00:25:20.400 --> 00:25:23.440
altering event like divorce or the loss of a spouse.

334
00:25:24.519 --> 00:25:29.079
It's not uncommon to feel lost. You've been part of

335
00:25:29.119 --> 00:25:33.279
a duel for so long that the sudden shift to

336
00:25:33.359 --> 00:25:38.480
solo can feel disorienting. But here's the truth worth embracing.

337
00:25:40.559 --> 00:25:46.759
This is also a unique opportunity to rediscover who you

338
00:25:46.880 --> 00:25:53.000
are beyond your previous role as a partner. It's time

339
00:25:53.079 --> 00:25:59.720
to explore new interests, new hobbies, new friendships that resonate

340
00:25:59.759 --> 00:26:06.799
with the person you are today. So research published in

341
00:26:06.839 --> 00:26:15.640
the Frontiers in Psychology journal highlighted that personality changes throughout life,

342
00:26:16.279 --> 00:26:22.680
and that's often triggered by critical life events and paved

343
00:26:22.759 --> 00:26:27.799
the way for new environmental adaptations and personal growth. I

344
00:26:27.839 --> 00:26:29.960
wouldn't be doing this today if I wouldn't have been

345
00:26:30.000 --> 00:26:33.880
going through my big, huge life change that I went through.

346
00:26:35.839 --> 00:26:41.160
So whether it's painting or hiking, or coding or gardening,

347
00:26:41.240 --> 00:26:49.440
this is your moment to explore new things without constraint. Remember,

348
00:26:49.480 --> 00:26:52.599
the goal isn't to become an expert overnight, but to

349
00:26:52.720 --> 00:27:00.720
enjoy the process of learning and growing. In my case,

350
00:27:01.799 --> 00:27:05.640
I remember saying to myself, dang it, I'm not going

351
00:27:05.680 --> 00:27:10.240
to let this destroy me. I'm going to figure it out.

352
00:27:10.960 --> 00:27:13.720
And I invite you to think along those lines too.

353
00:27:15.759 --> 00:27:21.200
It I've mentioned you're really crafting a new identity. It's

354
00:27:21.559 --> 00:27:25.400
your identity has been intertwined with your partners for years,

355
00:27:25.519 --> 00:27:28.119
making it hard to see where.

356
00:27:27.880 --> 00:27:29.240
They end and you begin.

357
00:27:30.480 --> 00:27:32.880
So now you have a canvas to paint a whole

358
00:27:32.920 --> 00:27:37.279
new picture of who you are. This doesn't mean erasing

359
00:27:37.359 --> 00:27:40.559
the past, not at all, but rather building on it

360
00:27:40.599 --> 00:27:45.279
to create a more nuanced, vibrant version of yourself. It's

361
00:27:45.319 --> 00:27:49.559
about asking who am I when I'm not someone's partner

362
00:27:50.279 --> 00:27:54.680
and what do I want from life now? Those questions

363
00:27:54.720 --> 00:28:02.680
aren't easy, but the answers my not come quickly, but

364
00:28:02.799 --> 00:28:05.839
you need to ask them. There are essential steps on

365
00:28:05.880 --> 00:28:13.160
the path to self discovery. So building a new social circle.

366
00:28:12.920 --> 00:28:13.920
Is going to be important.

367
00:28:14.559 --> 00:28:19.079
I can't overstate the importance of having supportive people around you. However,

368
00:28:19.119 --> 00:28:24.519
that's going to look like, be careful like there's an episode,

369
00:28:24.839 --> 00:28:28.720
a previous episode from a couple of weeks ago, where

370
00:28:28.759 --> 00:28:32.599
I had somebody that experienced a romance scam after she.

371
00:28:32.680 --> 00:28:35.599
Lost her husband. Could go back and look at that.

372
00:28:36.519 --> 00:28:44.000
But individuals who actively seek out new friendships and social

373
00:28:44.039 --> 00:28:49.960
groups after a significant life change do report higher levels

374
00:28:49.960 --> 00:28:55.880
of happiness and satisfaction. That seems like a big duh huh.

375
00:28:56.359 --> 00:29:01.000
Start by connecting with people that share your interests, join clubs,

376
00:29:01.079 --> 00:29:07.519
attend workshops, or participate in community events. Those connections offer

377
00:29:07.640 --> 00:29:12.519
not just companionship, but also a sense of belonging and

378
00:29:12.640 --> 00:29:20.079
community that's vital during this period of rediscovery. So along

379
00:29:20.640 --> 00:29:26.039
this whole pathway, you need to embrace the solo journey.

380
00:29:28.680 --> 00:29:33.000
Rediscovering yourself is not a linear process. It's full of

381
00:29:33.200 --> 00:29:38.119
ups and downs and successes and setbacks. I know I've

382
00:29:38.119 --> 00:29:42.039
been there, but every step forward is a piece of

383
00:29:42.079 --> 00:29:47.319
the puzzle that is your new life. So embrace the

384
00:29:47.359 --> 00:29:53.240
solo journey with openness and curiosity. Celebrate your victories, no

385
00:29:53.480 --> 00:29:58.440
matter how small they might be, and learn from the challenges.

386
00:30:00.279 --> 00:30:03.839
This is really your time to shine on your own terms,

387
00:30:04.559 --> 00:30:09.200
discovering not just new interests.

388
00:30:07.720 --> 00:30:10.680
And friends, but a whole new you.

389
00:30:13.240 --> 00:30:17.839
So being a financial advisor, I'm going to give you

390
00:30:17.880 --> 00:30:21.000
some tips things to do to help your financial situation.

391
00:30:23.960 --> 00:30:25.359
Build an emergency fund.

392
00:30:26.200 --> 00:30:32.119
Start setting aside money for unexpected expenses. This fund is

393
00:30:32.240 --> 00:30:38.440
your financial lifeline, offering peace of mind and security when

394
00:30:38.480 --> 00:30:44.000
you need it most. Okay, invest in your future. Consider

395
00:30:44.200 --> 00:30:47.480
long term investments. This is something I do you know

396
00:30:47.559 --> 00:30:53.039
with my company. Those will grow over time, whether it's

397
00:30:53.039 --> 00:30:57.480
a retirement account, or real estate or another form of investment.

398
00:30:58.119 --> 00:31:01.720
Think about how you can sern secure your financial independence.

399
00:31:04.000 --> 00:31:09.240
The next thing is financial resilience. That's about creating a

400
00:31:09.279 --> 00:31:13.440
safety net that allows you to weather life storms without

401
00:31:13.480 --> 00:31:17.599
losing your footing you you are going to have way

402
00:31:17.680 --> 00:31:22.000
less chaos if you have a safety net for yourself financially,

403
00:31:23.079 --> 00:31:28.640
It's about being prepared, staying informed, and making smart decisions.

404
00:31:28.680 --> 00:31:35.559
That safeguard your future. So financial empowerment is a is

405
00:31:35.759 --> 00:31:41.240
you know, that's the next term. Gain insights into managing

406
00:31:41.240 --> 00:31:47.880
your finances with confidence, from budgeting to investing. We'll provide

407
00:31:47.920 --> 00:31:50.960
you with the tools to secure your financial future. At

408
00:31:51.000 --> 00:31:54.240
the end of the podcast, I'll be mentioning a couple.

409
00:31:54.480 --> 00:32:00.200
There's two downloads today that are on the podcast website

410
00:32:00.279 --> 00:32:02.079
under bonus downloads.

411
00:32:02.920 --> 00:32:04.200
So go check those out.

412
00:32:05.599 --> 00:32:13.599
So when you think about that reassessment word, navigating your

413
00:32:13.640 --> 00:32:17.079
financial life after a significant life change can feel like

414
00:32:17.279 --> 00:32:21.279
walking through a maze without a map. You're suddenly not

415
00:32:21.400 --> 00:32:25.599
just making decisions for today, but you're laying in the

416
00:32:25.720 --> 00:32:29.359
groundwork for your financial future. I'm going to talk about

417
00:32:29.400 --> 00:32:34.480
turning that maze into a clear path forward with practical

418
00:32:34.519 --> 00:32:40.160
steps for reassessing your financial situation and strategies for budgeting

419
00:32:40.240 --> 00:32:46.519
and investing and planning for the future. Okay, so tank

420
00:32:46.640 --> 00:32:50.359
stock of your new financial reality.

421
00:32:51.119 --> 00:32:52.079
You just have to.

422
00:32:52.880 --> 00:32:57.279
The first step in that whole thing around empowerment is

423
00:32:57.480 --> 00:33:03.680
understanding your current situation. Use my downloads that I have

424
00:33:03.839 --> 00:33:06.880
for you to help you with that. Do a thorough

425
00:33:07.160 --> 00:33:12.160
inventory of what you have, what you owe, and what

426
00:33:12.240 --> 00:33:16.440
you need to live the life that you're envisioning. So

427
00:33:16.519 --> 00:33:20.319
that means assessing your assets and your liabilities.

428
00:33:21.000 --> 00:33:24.240
You're going to list them. You're going to include.

429
00:33:23.920 --> 00:33:28.200
Savings accounts and retirement accounts and real estate and any

430
00:33:28.240 --> 00:33:33.599
other investments. Then you're going to tally up your liabilities

431
00:33:34.440 --> 00:33:37.960
such as mortgages and car loans and credit card dead

432
00:33:38.039 --> 00:33:41.400
and any other obligations. Then you're gonna subtract them. Right,

433
00:33:42.279 --> 00:33:44.279
that's going to give you a clear picture of your

434
00:33:44.359 --> 00:33:48.880
net worth. So you will find that worksheet.

435
00:33:51.640 --> 00:33:57.319
All right, So that's in the bonus downloads. All right.

436
00:33:58.480 --> 00:34:02.759
Understand your cash flow. We're going to be talking more

437
00:34:02.799 --> 00:34:05.640
about this and what the differences are between cash flow

438
00:34:05.640 --> 00:34:11.760
and budgeting. You need to understand how much money is

439
00:34:11.800 --> 00:34:14.360
coming in and how much is going out.

440
00:34:15.800 --> 00:34:16.440
Each month.

441
00:34:17.239 --> 00:34:19.679
You need to track your income sources and your monthly

442
00:34:19.719 --> 00:34:23.519
expenses to understand your cash flow. That's going to help

443
00:34:23.519 --> 00:34:27.840
you identify areas where you can cut back and save.

444
00:34:30.000 --> 00:34:34.519
So look in the bonus downloads for that budget worksheet. Okay,

445
00:34:36.039 --> 00:34:40.719
So talking about budgeting budget for a new beginning, it's

446
00:34:40.760 --> 00:34:46.679
about empowering yourself to make informed decisions about your money.

447
00:34:46.840 --> 00:34:52.239
Money is a tool, use it to help you better yourself.

448
00:34:54.320 --> 00:34:57.440
It's the foundation upon which your financial future is built.

449
00:34:58.679 --> 00:35:01.400
And moving forward, I'm going to take you on a

450
00:35:01.519 --> 00:35:05.159
journey of redefining what that term means. We're going to

451
00:35:05.280 --> 00:35:09.360
have other there's other future episodes that are going to

452
00:35:09.400 --> 00:35:15.480
explore this further. So create that budget that reflects your

453
00:35:15.519 --> 00:35:19.880
current needs while considering.

454
00:35:19.480 --> 00:35:22.400
Your quality of life. What do you think about what

455
00:35:22.480 --> 00:35:23.280
you want?

456
00:35:24.159 --> 00:35:28.239
Your life has changed, It just has, and your budget

457
00:35:28.320 --> 00:35:33.320
should reflect that. Allocate funds for your essential needs such

458
00:35:33.360 --> 00:35:42.239
as self care, housing, food, healthcare, transportation. Then consider what

459
00:35:42.639 --> 00:35:47.440
you can realistically save each month, while also considering what

460
00:35:47.599 --> 00:35:50.920
experiences you'd like to have. Okay, let's have a travel

461
00:35:51.000 --> 00:35:55.760
fund to start getting that going. We're going to take

462
00:35:55.840 --> 00:36:01.559
you beyond budgeting. So prioritize your spending. Focus on what

463
00:36:01.679 --> 00:36:05.960
really matters to you. Maybe it's saving for your child's education,

464
00:36:06.199 --> 00:36:10.599
or investing in your health, or setting inside money for travel. Right,

465
00:36:11.440 --> 00:36:14.480
prioritizing your spending.

466
00:36:14.199 --> 00:36:18.159
Allows you to enjoy your life.

467
00:36:18.400 --> 00:36:26.000
You need to do that while you're building your financial future. Okay,

468
00:36:26.079 --> 00:36:31.360
so invest in your future. It may seem daunting, but

469
00:36:31.480 --> 00:36:34.960
especially if you're new to it, it's a critical component

470
00:36:35.199 --> 00:36:38.599
of building money over time. You have got to do this.

471
00:36:38.719 --> 00:36:41.119
You can't put it off. You don't have to be

472
00:36:41.159 --> 00:36:44.480
a financial expert to start investing. You just need to

473
00:36:44.519 --> 00:36:48.480
begin with a few key principles, like every month putting

474
00:36:48.519 --> 00:36:53.840
money aside. So start small and think long term. Consider

475
00:36:53.960 --> 00:36:59.880
starting by getting educated in the different ways to invest right.

476
00:37:00.239 --> 00:37:02.239
We're going to cover that too, and learning what the

477
00:37:02.280 --> 00:37:07.800
differences are with retirement accounts like a tax deferred IRA

478
00:37:08.440 --> 00:37:13.400
or an already text roth IRA. Those options can offer

479
00:37:13.440 --> 00:37:17.199
a way to grow your money over time and educate

480
00:37:17.280 --> 00:37:21.920
you on how much risk to take in your particular situation.

481
00:37:23.119 --> 00:37:27.280
So educate yourself. Take advantage of resources like.

482
00:37:27.360 --> 00:37:31.920
Books like this book that we're taking these excerpts out

483
00:37:31.920 --> 00:37:37.880
of lots of online courses financial advisors to learn more

484
00:37:37.920 --> 00:37:43.239
about investing. Knowledge is power, especially when it comes to

485
00:37:43.320 --> 00:37:49.000
your finances. So I'm going to harp on diversifying your investments.

486
00:37:49.639 --> 00:37:51.639
Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

487
00:37:52.239 --> 00:37:56.039
I am not a fan of stock picking, so I

488
00:37:56.079 --> 00:38:01.880
am a strong believer in a globally diversified right portfolio,

489
00:38:02.000 --> 00:38:04.199
not just the US, but all over the world.

490
00:38:05.199 --> 00:38:07.199
What the heck is that well?

491
00:38:07.239 --> 00:38:12.280
Diversifying your investments can help reduce risk and improve your

492
00:38:12.360 --> 00:38:15.039
chances of a better return over time. I kind of

493
00:38:15.079 --> 00:38:19.559
think of it as like spreading a wide net. Stay

494
00:38:19.599 --> 00:38:24.000
tuned for a deeper dive into that concept. So plan

495
00:38:24.199 --> 00:38:29.000
for the future. That means looking beyond the immediate horizon,

496
00:38:29.719 --> 00:38:33.039
setting goals that will secure your financial well being for

497
00:38:33.199 --> 00:38:38.920
years to come. Set clear financial goals, whether it's buying

498
00:38:38.920 --> 00:38:43.400
a new home, saving for retirement, or building an emergency fund.

499
00:38:43.719 --> 00:38:47.960
Have a clear goal that's going to guide your financial decisions.

500
00:38:48.920 --> 00:38:52.079
Consider a state planning I mean, like, what does that mean?

501
00:38:52.679 --> 00:38:56.199
Thinking about a state planning early is always a good idea.

502
00:38:57.079 --> 00:39:02.119
This includes making a will. If you are now a

503
00:39:02.159 --> 00:39:06.679
solo person, you need to revisit that will. If it's

504
00:39:06.800 --> 00:39:09.320
a will that was done a long time ago, you

505
00:39:09.360 --> 00:39:11.480
need to do a new one.

506
00:39:11.679 --> 00:39:14.440
You need to set up possibly a living trust.

507
00:39:15.719 --> 00:39:18.719
But the bottom line is you need to ensure your

508
00:39:18.719 --> 00:39:22.840
financial wishes are carried out. My mother said take care

509
00:39:22.880 --> 00:39:26.920
of your own business, So that little thing.

510
00:39:27.000 --> 00:39:29.400
Carried with me through my life and.

511
00:39:31.159 --> 00:39:35.880
All of my state planning documents are in a binder

512
00:39:36.960 --> 00:39:40.639
on the shelf in my office with a cover letter.

513
00:39:40.440 --> 00:39:44.280
For my oldest daughter who's the executor. She knows it's there,

514
00:39:45.000 --> 00:39:46.599
so it's there.

515
00:39:46.320 --> 00:39:49.960
You know, for some time, long and long, long in

516
00:39:49.960 --> 00:39:56.679
the future, before I passed from this earth. So seek

517
00:39:56.719 --> 00:40:01.480
professional advice if you can. That finalcial advisor can offer

518
00:40:01.599 --> 00:40:06.840
personalized advice tailor to you. Actually, next week I'm going

519
00:40:06.880 --> 00:40:08.400
to have a guest on and we're going to talk

520
00:40:08.440 --> 00:40:12.480
about choosing a financial advisor, so please stay tuned for that.

521
00:40:14.039 --> 00:40:21.880
So as we wrap up this discussion today, it's really

522
00:40:22.320 --> 00:40:26.360
important to pause and reflect on the journey that you're

523
00:40:26.400 --> 00:40:34.599
embarking on now. Navigating new beginnings after a divorce or

524
00:40:34.679 --> 00:40:39.239
the loss of a partner is no small feat. It's

525
00:40:39.280 --> 00:40:45.119
a path fraught with challenges, but it's also ripe with

526
00:40:45.239 --> 00:40:52.639
opportunities for personal growth, financial independence, and emotional resilience. You're

527
00:40:52.719 --> 00:40:54.920
really standing at the threshold of.

528
00:40:54.880 --> 00:40:56.400
A new chapter in your life.

529
00:40:57.079 --> 00:41:00.079
Remember that you have the power to shape your destiny.

530
00:41:00.719 --> 00:41:04.559
The road ahead may seem uncertain, but it's also filled

531
00:41:04.559 --> 00:41:06.119
with endless possibilities.

532
00:41:07.039 --> 00:41:08.800
Each step you take.

533
00:41:09.159 --> 00:41:15.559
Is a testament to your strength and your resilience. So

534
00:41:16.159 --> 00:41:20.159
let this discussion today about some of these principles be

535
00:41:20.280 --> 00:41:24.119
a ray of hope and a source of strength as

536
00:41:24.159 --> 00:41:30.199
you navigate the complexities of your new reality. Remember You're

537
00:41:30.239 --> 00:41:34.199
not just surviving, you are paving the way for a

538
00:41:34.400 --> 00:41:41.039
life filled with joy, purpose and prosperity. Embrace this journey

539
00:41:41.079 --> 00:41:46.599
with an open heart and a determined spirit. The future

540
00:41:46.800 --> 00:41:51.360
is yours to create and there's no limit to what

541
00:41:51.639 --> 00:41:56.599
you can achieve. You've got this. Thank you so much

542
00:41:56.639 --> 00:42:01.239
for joining me today. If you have any questions, the

543
00:42:01.280 --> 00:42:05.440
information is on the podcast website. The information on that

544
00:42:05.559 --> 00:42:10.679
whole website is here on this slide www dot Ask

545
00:42:10.760 --> 00:42:16.960
Good Questions podcast dot com. Slash videos. The book Money, Mindset,

546
00:42:17.039 --> 00:42:20.760
and the Suddenly Single can also be found on Amazon,

547
00:42:21.519 --> 00:42:25.559
and there's also I also have a little url https

548
00:42:25.639 --> 00:42:32.000
colon slash slash TinyURL dot com slash Suddenly Single book.

549
00:42:33.320 --> 00:42:37.280
So thank you so much for joining me today, and

550
00:42:37.639 --> 00:42:42.280
remember to start with asking good questions.

551
00:42:42.639 --> 00:42:46.119
It's all for today.

552
00:42:46.719 --> 00:42:50.280
Today's episode is over, but we did ask good Questions again.

553
00:42:50.440 --> 00:42:54.639
Vividn'tly don't miss out as we broadcast live every Wednesday,

554
00:42:54.719 --> 00:42:58.400
six pm Eastern Time on W four CY Radio at

555
00:42:58.639 --> 00:43:02.719
w four cy dot. Joined Banina Bell Anderson next week

556
00:43:02.760 --> 00:43:08.679
for more conversations with experts on finances, retirement, behavioral finance issues,

557
00:43:08.760 --> 00:43:10.360
health and wellness.

558
00:43:09.800 --> 00:43:10.519
And more.

559
00:43:10.960 --> 00:43:14.880
Until then, remember to ask good questions,