Jan. 23, 2025

Acknowledging Big Changes-Transforming Financial Perspectives

Acknowledging Big Changes-Transforming Financial Perspectives

Have an unforgettable discussion regarding issues that affect every woman - maybe not now, but someday! Excerpts from chapter 1 of Bonita's new book, "Money, Mindset & the Suddenly Single-the Ultimate Guide for Divorcees &...

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Have an unforgettable discussion regarding issues that affect every woman - maybe not now, but someday! Excerpts from chapter 1 of Bonita's new book, "Money, Mindset & the Suddenly Single-the Ultimate Guide for Divorcees & Widows"-acknowledging the profound impact these big life changes (like divorce or losing a spouse) have. Shape your financial destiny. May this be a ray of hope & a source of strength. Simple steps you can take to help your financial situation.
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start with Asking Good Questions.

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Hey, Hello, thank you for joining us.

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This is your host Benita Bell Anderson, and we are

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here again with the Ask Good Questions podcast. So today

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I'm going to get my slides going. We are going

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to oops, I have one head. We're gonna be talking

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about something that I'm calling acknowledging big changes transforming financial perspectives.

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This is actually ideas out of the first chapter of

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my book Money Mindset and the Suddenly Single. You can

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find where to get that on Amazon on the Ask

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Good Questions podcast dot com website where there is a

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you will be able to find for all the different episodes.

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So anyway, today we're gonna talk about some things that

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really have to do with divorces and people that are

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going through a loss of a spouse. I really want

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to kind of start off today with what the state

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of women is in the retirement world today and kind

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of what that looks like, what some of the numbers are.

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I want to talk about, you know, kind of looking

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over a cliff when you have a big life change happening,

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the emotional roller coaster that might be happening, goals dealing

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with emotional things that are happening to you, and final

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tips things to do to help you and your financial situation.

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So let's look at what most women are experiencing. At

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least this is the data. So I want to tell you,

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you know, this is kind of an overall broad sweep

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of what women experience in the United States today. Basically,

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what we're talking about is financial success for women, and

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it's a goal for many, but women face unique barriers

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that can make that goal really more difficult to achieve.

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Understanding today's financial landscape can help women rise to the challenge,

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know their worth, and take control of their futures.

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So the crazy thing is that.

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With this study, women make eighty three point seven cents

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for every dollar that their male counterparts make in the

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same type of job. This translates into a lot of

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different things, but it's just you know, it's getting better,

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and it's getting better, but these are just some of

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the realities that happen. So the average SO security benefit

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for a woman is typically smaller than it is for

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a man. Like the reason I wrote this book was

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partly because I went through a great, big, huge divorce

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that I never expected to have happen, and that was

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twenty five years ago now, But I had been having babies.

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I was a stay at home mom. Loved being a

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stay at home mom. But that means my sobsecurity check

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now is smaller than would have been if I had

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been working all the time and not having babies.

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For women.

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That means the average is about eighteen thousand and five

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h six and for men the average is about twenty

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three three sixty four. So there's also some sobering data

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about the number of women in their fifties who may

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be forced to lower their standard living after retirement. I

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have actually seen this with some of my female clients

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who are older women, single older women, single women.

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The number of women in.

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Their fifties who may be forced to lower their standard

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of living in single women that is about forty percent.

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Single income households is about thirty two percent, and two

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income households is about forty six percent, So that's almost half.

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That's a little scary.

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If that doesn't help you motivate you to get going

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on your saving for retirement, I don't know what will.

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But here's the really interesting thing. Women control it. Well

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there's one. There's another thing that I'm going to show

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you a little bit later. That said all like eleven

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point three, but this study showed that women control ten

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trillion dollars in US financial assets. But that is going

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we're five years.

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From now, that figure is expected to rise to thirty

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trillion dollars.

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Part of that is because women are becoming more and

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more successful in the marketplace, as well as women living

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longer than men and ending up with the assets.

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So here's another some more data.

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There's something called a C suite, you know, like the

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corporate suite or the companies that have vice presidents and

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such like that. Forty four percent of companies have three

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or more women in their C suite. That's up from

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twenty nine percent in twenty fifteen, so ten years ago

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it was much smaller, so you can see things are changing.

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Sixty seven percent of women are investing outside of their

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retirement accounts, and that is up from forty four percent

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in twenty eighteen. So in a lot of cases, these

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numbers just keep getting better and better. The interesting thing

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about women and finances is two hundred and fifty two

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million entrepreneurs out of four hundred and eighty two million

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in the world, are female. Seventeen percent of those are

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black women that are currently or have already started a

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new business. And women own business employ over nine million

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workers and generate over fifty two trillion. Wow, So women

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own businesses is a big deal. So many women report

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having strong relationships with their financial advisor. I can tell

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you that as a financial advisor. What has been expressed

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to me a lot of times by older single women

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is that they want somebody to trust. So, in fact,

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seventy percent of women say that they would prefer or

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they would refer their financial professional to a brand or

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a relative. Whatever your financial needs are, we are here

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to support you, whether you come to us to get

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some questions answered, or we support you in finding the

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health you deserve. We want to help.

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Let's play the video.

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The idea of a confidence gap among women has gained

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notice in recent years, and in the world of finance,

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the effects of this gap can be especially apparent. Even

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though women have no more reason to lack confidence than

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men do. Only about twenty percent of women say they

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feel fully prepared to make wise financial decisions, and last year,

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as few as nine percent of women believed their investments

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could outperform those made by men. But here's the truth.

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Ladies have fantastic financial instincts. Studies show that female investors

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thrive and often outperform their male counterparts. Women have proven

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they have the patience, discipline, and long term commitment it

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takes to persist through the ups and downs of the markets.

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In the United States, women currently control over eleven point

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two trillion dollars in investible assets. That's a lot to

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feel confident about the power to drive more money into

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the market while shaping a better future for themselves and

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their loved ones. We want to make sure everyone feels

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equipped to climb their personal mountain. You can be sure

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we'll be here to support you every step of the way.

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All right, moving on, Well, let's get into the nitty

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gritty about this. The moment that your life shifts due

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to a divorce or losing a spouse, it marks the

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beginning of.

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A whole new chapter. It really does.

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In might feel like you're suddenly navigating uncharted waters, or

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maybe skiing down a mountain completely out of control, facing

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both freedom and the weight of new responsibilities.

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This chapter in my book.

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Is about acknowledging the profound impact that these changes have

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on your life. I've been through this, I know what

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I'm talking about. And it's also the impact on your family.

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I've seen that, and more importantly, recognizing the opportunity for

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growth and empowerment amidst those challenges. Life's unexpected urns can

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leave you feeling like you're standing at the edge of

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a cliff looking into the unknown. Whether it's the end

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of a marriage or the loss of a partner, that

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initial shock can be overwhelming. But amidst the turmoil, there's

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a silver lining, a chance to rebuild and redefine your

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life on your terms. This chapter in my book is

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your guide to embracing this new beginning, armed with knowledge

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and strategies to help you navigate the challenges ahead. So

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the first step in moving forward is acknowledging that change.

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It's okay to feel a mix of emotions, grief and

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relief and fear and hope. These feelings are all part

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of that process. But as you stand at this crossroads,

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remember you're not alone. Many have walked this path before you.

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You know that, and many have found ways to thrive

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in the face of adversity. So this chapter in my

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book is what I'm trying to do, is help you

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understand the impact of your new reality and how to

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turn it into a foundation for growth. So a lot

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of times they can feel like an emotional roller coaster.

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It's natural to experience a wide range of emotions. We're

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going to explore how to navigate these feelings and offer

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strategies to find stability and peace. There is a financial

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reassessment that suddenly managing finances alone can really be daunting.

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So we'll cover practical steps to take control of your

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financial health, ensuring that you're prepared for the future. And

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then we really need to have a support team. Rebuilding

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your support network is crucial. I found that sometimes it

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just is requiring a different set of friends.

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Learn how to foster.

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Connections that will help you through this transition and beyond.

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As you begin to navigate this new reality, it's essential

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to move forward and try to find some purpose in it.

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That means setting goals for yourself, both personally and financially,

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and taking concrete.

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Steps to achieve them. Right does that make sense?

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So setting new goals really kind of means reinventing your life.

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What do you want your life to look like?

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Now, we're going to discuss how to set realistic, achievable

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goals that reflect your values and your aspirations. You really

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need to embrace independence. It's not going to happen overnight.

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I know, I remember just feeling completely broken. You have

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to somehow you will get to where you discover the

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power of independence and learning how to enjoy your own

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company and make decisions that benefit you. One thing that

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we're going to we're actually going to talk about stress

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on a whole other episode. But managing stress for physical

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health is basically recognizing the physical symptoms of stress, and

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that is really a first step towards addressing them.

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Here's a more detailed.

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Look at strategies for managing stress and your physical effects

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on your body. So establishing a routine. Creating a structured

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daily routine can provide a sense of normalcy and control. Hey,

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regular meal times, physical activity, and a consistent sleep schedule

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can help regulate your body's stress response.

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Go to bed at the same.

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Time every night, get up at the same time every day,

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starting on your day with gratitude journaling and possibly using

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positive affirmations. One thing I've used is a app called Calm.

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There's other ones out there's probably even more than has

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ever been, but the Calm app for me is great

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for giving me something structured to listen to as I'm

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getting into bed and also as I get up in

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the morning. Incorporating exercise, you cannot abuse your body. You

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have got to keep with the program and engage in

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regular physical activity because that releases endorphins and that's the

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body's natural painkillers and mood elevators. Really, exercise also helps

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regulate sleep patterns and reduces the risk of chronic health

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conditions that are exacerbated by stress. I can't stress this enough.

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Join a program that will give you accountability to show

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up and to consistently get this done for yourself. I

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have used a lot of YouTube workout videos, gone to

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gyms and classes, including a personal trainer who has an

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online workout routine that you join on zoom. There could

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be fifteen to thirty people doing this at six am

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There's a lot out there to support you. And then

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maintaining a balanced diet. Choose a diet rich in fruits

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and vegetables and lean proteins and whole grains. You can

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go out and find lots about whole food plant based diets.

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and energy crashes. There are a lot of podcasts out there,

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lots of information to help you with nutrition and healthy

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living information. Some of my favorites are doctor Neil Barnard,

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doctor Steven Gundry, doctor Mark Hyman, doctor Joel Furman, and

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significant life change. So emotional effects can include grief, and

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when we talk, we're going to talk a little bit

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about each one of these. This is really complex and

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deeply personal. I've been through every single one of these.

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It's akin to writing a roller coaster with highs and

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lows and unexpected turns, and really this delves into the

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emotional effects and offers. Really I'm trying to offer detailed

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guidance on maintaining on managing these emotions constructively. When you

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undergo a divorce or lose a partner, you're losing a

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part of your identity. I was, I was wife, I

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was you know, I still was mom. Actually that was

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what brought me out of it, thinking about my girls.

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I had lost my daily routine with him, I had

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lost the future that I envisioned that we were going

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to have. So that loss triggers a wider range of emotions,

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so grief has always.

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Seems to me like the biggest one.

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It's the profound sense of loss that encompasses not just

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you as a person, but the dreams and the plans

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that you had together. Grief can feel like a heavy blanket,

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making even simple tasks seem daunting. And in the in

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case of my divorce, I blamed it all on me,

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it's all my fault. Well, eventually that turned to anger,

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and it's common to experience anger, either directed at yourself

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or your former partner, or even the circumstances that led

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to your situation. That anger can be fiery and intense,

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reflecting the pain of your loss. And then there's confusion.

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Oh boy, you might find yourself questioning everything, including what

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could I have done differently?

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Where do I go from here? The state of.

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Uncertainty really can be paralyzing. So interestingly enough, the next

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one here is relief. Alongside the more painful emotions, you

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might also feel relief. This can be relief from a

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relationship that was struggling, relief from the tension of an

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unhappy home, relief that you can now begin to rebuild,

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maybe it's the relief of not being a caregiver anymore.

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You know that could happen, and then yes, moments of happiness.

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These may come from rediscovering aspects of yourself that were

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lost in a relationship, forming new connections, or finding peace

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in solitude. So really what happens is starting to figure

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out how to manage these emotions constructively. It's not about

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suppressing them eventually you're going to have to get it out,

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but rather about navigating through them with awareness and care.

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You have to acknowledge your feelings. Recognizing and naming your

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emotions is a powerful first step.

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Overwhelming, if this is like too much, I want you

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to just focus on one thing. It allows you to

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understand what you're going through and remind you that it's

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okay to feel these things. Acknowledgment is the foundation really

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of the healing process. Okay, So express yourself. Find a

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safe and healthy outlet for your emotions.

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That could be writing in a journal that could be

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completely honest and unfiltered, or it might be through art

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or music or any form of creative expression that feels

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right to you. These activities provide a release and can

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be incredibly therapeutic. Now in my case, I found this

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was a great way to lose some weight because what

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I did was I went out and ran, and I ran,

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and I ran and I ran, and I dropped a

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lot of way very quickly. But it helped to just

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get out there and really just exert myself to the fullest.

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So back to calm that app I talked to you

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about practice mindfulness That means like meditation and deep breathing exercises.

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Those can really be invaluable tools to help you center.

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So they help you stay present, reduce stress, and manage

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emotional turbulence. Really does by focusing on the here and now,

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and again this is over a long period of time,

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you can find a sense of calm and clarity amidst

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the chaos of your emotions. My thoughts turned to that

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app again that I use. I use it almost every day.

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There are other options out there, so just find something

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that will help support you. All of this are just

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ideas for supporting you. So emotional resilience really is akin

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to learning how to sail in stormy seas, and it

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requires recognizing those emotions, understanding them, and using them as

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a compass to guide you through the storm. You have

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to figure out what you're making this mean. That is

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gonna be christal, figure out what this meant, what you're

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making this mean. So give yourself permission to feel everything.

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The grief, the anger, the relief. So these emotions are

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all part of the healing process. So along the wayne

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the great small victories in the midst of the turmoil,

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find moments of joy and accomplis because these are really

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beacons of light that's going to guide you through the

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darkest times. So rediscovering yourself is kind of what you're

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going to be doing in the aftermath of a life

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altering event like divorce or the loss of a spouse.

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It's not uncommon to feel lost. You've been part of

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a duel for so long that the sudden shift to

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solo can feel disorienting. But here's the truth worth embracing.

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This is also a unique opportunity to rediscover who you

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are beyond your previous role as a partner. It's time

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to explore new interests, new hobbies, new friendships that resonate

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with the person you are today. So research published in

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the Frontiers in Psychology journal highlighted that personality changes throughout life,

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and that's often triggered by critical life events and paved

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the way for new environmental adaptations and personal growth. I

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wouldn't be doing this today if I wouldn't have been

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going through my big, huge life change that I went through.

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So whether it's painting or hiking, or coding or gardening,

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this is your moment to explore new things without constraint. Remember,

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the goal isn't to become an expert overnight, but to

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enjoy the process of learning and growing. In my case,

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I remember saying to myself, dang it, I'm not going

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to let this destroy me. I'm going to figure it out.

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And I invite you to think along those lines too.

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It I've mentioned you're really crafting a new identity. It's

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your identity has been intertwined with your partners for years,

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making it hard to see where.

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They end and you begin.

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So now you have a canvas to paint a whole

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new picture of who you are. This doesn't mean erasing

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the past, not at all, but rather building on it

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to create a more nuanced, vibrant version of yourself. It's

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about asking who am I when I'm not someone's partner

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and what do I want from life now? Those questions

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aren't easy, but the answers my not come quickly, but

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you need to ask them. There are essential steps on

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the path to self discovery. So building a new social circle.

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Is going to be important.

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I can't overstate the importance of having supportive people around you. However,

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that's going to look like, be careful like there's an episode,

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a previous episode from a couple of weeks ago, where

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I had somebody that experienced a romance scam after she.

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Lost her husband. Could go back and look at that.

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But individuals who actively seek out new friendships and social

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groups after a significant life change do report higher levels

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of happiness and satisfaction. That seems like a big duh huh.

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Start by connecting with people that share your interests, join clubs,

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attend workshops, or participate in community events. Those connections offer

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not just companionship, but also a sense of belonging and

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community that's vital during this period of rediscovery. So along

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this whole pathway, you need to embrace the solo journey.

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Rediscovering yourself is not a linear process. It's full of

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ups and downs and successes and setbacks. I know I've

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been there, but every step forward is a piece of

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the puzzle that is your new life. So embrace the

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solo journey with openness and curiosity. Celebrate your victories, no

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matter how small they might be, and learn from the challenges.

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This is really your time to shine on your own terms,

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discovering not just new interests.

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And friends, but a whole new you.

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So being a financial advisor, I'm going to give you

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some tips things to do to help your financial situation.

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Build an emergency fund.

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Start setting aside money for unexpected expenses. This fund is

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your financial lifeline, offering peace of mind and security when

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you need it most. Okay, invest in your future. Consider

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long term investments. This is something I do you know

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with my company. Those will grow over time, whether it's

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a retirement account, or real estate or another form of investment.

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Think about how you can sern secure your financial independence.

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The next thing is financial resilience. That's about creating a

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safety net that allows you to weather life storms without

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losing your footing you you are going to have way

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less chaos if you have a safety net for yourself financially,

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It's about being prepared, staying informed, and making smart decisions.

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That safeguard your future. So financial empowerment is a is

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you know, that's the next term. Gain insights into managing

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your finances with confidence, from budgeting to investing. We'll provide

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you with the tools to secure your financial future. At

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the end of the podcast, I'll be mentioning a couple.

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There's two downloads today that are on the podcast website

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under bonus downloads.

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So go check those out.

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So when you think about that reassessment word, navigating your

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financial life after a significant life change can feel like

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walking through a maze without a map. You're suddenly not

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just making decisions for today, but you're laying in the

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groundwork for your financial future. I'm going to talk about

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turning that maze into a clear path forward with practical

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steps for reassessing your financial situation and strategies for budgeting

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and investing and planning for the future. Okay, so tank

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stock of your new financial reality.

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You just have to.

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The first step in that whole thing around empowerment is

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understanding your current situation. Use my downloads that I have

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for you to help you with that. Do a thorough

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inventory of what you have, what you owe, and what

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you need to live the life that you're envisioning. So

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that means assessing your assets and your liabilities.

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You're going to list them. You're going to include.

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Savings accounts and retirement accounts and real estate and any

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other investments. Then you're going to tally up your liabilities

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such as mortgages and car loans and credit card dead

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and any other obligations. Then you're gonna subtract them. Right,

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that's going to give you a clear picture of your

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net worth. So you will find that worksheet.

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All right, So that's in the bonus downloads. All right.

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Understand your cash flow. We're going to be talking more

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about this and what the differences are between cash flow

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and budgeting. You need to understand how much money is

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coming in and how much is going out.

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Each month.

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You need to track your income sources and your monthly

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expenses to understand your cash flow. That's going to help

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you identify areas where you can cut back and save.

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So look in the bonus downloads for that budget worksheet. Okay,

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So talking about budgeting budget for a new beginning, it's

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about empowering yourself to make informed decisions about your money.

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Money is a tool, use it to help you better yourself.

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It's the foundation upon which your financial future is built.

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And moving forward, I'm going to take you on a

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journey of redefining what that term means. We're going to

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have other there's other future episodes that are going to

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explore this further. So create that budget that reflects your

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current needs while considering.

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Your quality of life. What do you think about what

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you want?

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Your life has changed, It just has, and your budget

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should reflect that. Allocate funds for your essential needs such

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as self care, housing, food, healthcare, transportation. Then consider what

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you can realistically save each month, while also considering what

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experiences you'd like to have. Okay, let's have a travel

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fund to start getting that going. We're going to take

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you beyond budgeting. So prioritize your spending. Focus on what

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really matters to you. Maybe it's saving for your child's education,

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or investing in your health, or setting inside money for travel. Right,

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prioritizing your spending.

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Allows you to enjoy your life.

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You need to do that while you're building your financial future. Okay,

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so invest in your future. It may seem daunting, but

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especially if you're new to it, it's a critical component

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of building money over time. You have got to do this.

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You can't put it off. You don't have to be

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a financial expert to start investing. You just need to

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begin with a few key principles, like every month putting

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money aside. So start small and think long term. Consider

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starting by getting educated in the different ways to invest right.

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We're going to cover that too, and learning what the

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differences are with retirement accounts like a tax deferred IRA

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or an already text roth IRA. Those options can offer

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a way to grow your money over time and educate

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you on how much risk to take in your particular situation.

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So educate yourself. Take advantage of resources like.

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Books like this book that we're taking these excerpts out

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of lots of online courses financial advisors to learn more

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about investing. Knowledge is power, especially when it comes to

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your finances. So I'm going to harp on diversifying your investments.

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Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

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I am not a fan of stock picking, so I

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am a strong believer in a globally diversified right portfolio,

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not just the US, but all over the world.

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What the heck is that well?

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Diversifying your investments can help reduce risk and improve your

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chances of a better return over time. I kind of

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think of it as like spreading a wide net. Stay

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tuned for a deeper dive into that concept. So plan

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for the future. That means looking beyond the immediate horizon,

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setting goals that will secure your financial well being for

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years to come. Set clear financial goals, whether it's buying

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a new home, saving for retirement, or building an emergency fund.

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Have a clear goal that's going to guide your financial decisions.

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Consider a state planning I mean, like, what does that mean?

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Thinking about a state planning early is always a good idea.

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This includes making a will. If you are now a

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solo person, you need to revisit that will. If it's

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a will that was done a long time ago, you

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need to do a new one.

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You need to set up possibly a living trust.

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But the bottom line is you need to ensure your

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financial wishes are carried out. My mother said take care

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of your own business, So that little thing.

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Carried with me through my life and.

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All of my state planning documents are in a binder

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on the shelf in my office with a cover letter.

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For my oldest daughter who's the executor. She knows it's there,

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so it's there.

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You know, for some time, long and long, long in

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the future, before I passed from this earth. So seek

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professional advice if you can. That finalcial advisor can offer

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personalized advice tailor to you. Actually, next week I'm going

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to have a guest on and we're going to talk

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about choosing a financial advisor, so please stay tuned for that.

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So as we wrap up this discussion today, it's really

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important to pause and reflect on the journey that you're

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embarking on now. Navigating new beginnings after a divorce or

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the loss of a partner is no small feat. It's

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a path fraught with challenges, but it's also ripe with

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opportunities for personal growth, financial independence, and emotional resilience. You're

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really standing at the threshold of.

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A new chapter in your life.

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Remember that you have the power to shape your destiny.

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The road ahead may seem uncertain, but it's also filled

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with endless possibilities.

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Each step you take.

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Is a testament to your strength and your resilience. So

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let this discussion today about some of these principles be

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a ray of hope and a source of strength as

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you navigate the complexities of your new reality. Remember You're

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not just surviving, you are paving the way for a

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life filled with joy, purpose and prosperity. Embrace this journey

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with an open heart and a determined spirit. The future

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is yours to create and there's no limit to what

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you can achieve. You've got this. Thank you so much

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for joining me today. If you have any questions, the

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information is on the podcast website. The information on that

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whole website is here on this slide www dot Ask

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Good Questions podcast dot com. Slash videos. The book Money, Mindset,

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and the Suddenly Single can also be found on Amazon,

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and there's also I also have a little url https

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colon slash slash TinyURL dot com slash Suddenly Single book.

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So thank you so much for joining me today, and

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remember to start with asking good questions.

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It's all for today.

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Today's episode is over, but we did ask good Questions again.

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Vividn'tly don't miss out as we broadcast live every Wednesday,

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six pm Eastern Time on W four CY Radio at

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w four cy dot. Joined Banina Bell Anderson next week

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for more conversations with experts on finances, retirement, behavioral finance issues,

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health and wellness.

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And more.

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Until then, remember to ask good questions,