June 11, 2025

Unlock Wealth By Cracking Your Money Code

Unlock Wealth By Cracking Your Money Code
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Season 1

Come along with Bonita Bell-Andersen as guest Carmen Croonquist joins her this week for an invigorating discussion! Carmen helps spiritually guided coaches, thought leaders, & healers break thru money blocks & unlock their full financial potential—without burnout or overwhelm. She has over 30 years of experience in coaching, leadership, & business, & has helped thousands of entrepreneurs rewire limiting beliefs, dissolve imposter syndrome, & confidently step into wealth & worthiness.

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Welcome to to Ask Good Questions Podcasts, broadcasting live every Wednesday,

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six pm Eastern Time on W four CY Radio at

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w fourcy dot com. This week and every week, we

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will reach for a higher purpose in money and life,

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as well as a focus on health and wellness. Now,

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let's join your host, Anita bell Anderson, as together we

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start with Asking Good Questions.

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Hello, this is Benita bell Anderson and welcome, Welcome, Welcome

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to the Ask Good Questions Podcast. We have a phenomenal

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show for you today and I wish to welcome my

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guest today, Carmen kruon Quist, to the proverbial podcast stage.

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Welcome, Carmen thank you.

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I'm honored to be here.

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Oh well, I'm very excited. We're going to have a

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great show. We're going to talk about some very important

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issues around money and behavior and how people deal with

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all this financial stuff. So, first, Carmen, I usually liked

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I've gotten to the point where I really like people

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to just talk a little bit. Tell everybody a little

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bit about who you are. I know that you call

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yourself a master money mindset, business mentor, and that you

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characterize yourself as a transformationaler. A lot of really great

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stuff that sounds interesting.

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Can you tell us.

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All a little bit more about you?

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Yes, thank you. Yeah, it sounds like a mouthful for

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a job title, doesn't it. A money master, money mindset,

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business success mentor and all that good stuff. Basically, what

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I am is I combine energy work and neuroscience coaching

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with business coaching, and I help people really get in

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touch with their divine purpose and help them get at

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the root of what's preventing them from the success and

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the wealth that they want to create in their lives.

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And so I'd like to call myself kind of a

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pattern interrupter. I find what the patterns are getting in

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the way and interrupt those patterns and replace them with

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new programming.

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Wow, and tell me where you live or you know

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read what part of the country are you?

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Okay, Well, part of the year, I'm in Hudson, Wisconsin,

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which is where I'm from right now, just outside of

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Minneapolis Saint Paul. A lot of people don't realize Wisconsin's

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that close. And in the winter, I'm in Dunedin, Florida,

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which is just west of Tampa. Okay, the best of both.

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Worlds, right, Yeah, you're kind of like me.

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I'm a Sunbury.

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We uh, we did a did that kind of in

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a different place where we're in the summertimes in the

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Washington state, but then we're in Saint George, Utah, where

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it's a lot warmer in the wintertime. So anyway, yeah,

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I know that that whole lifestyle has become more a

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whole lot more available with technology and be able to

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be able to just be wherever you are, Like today,

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I'm coming at you from Hawaii and we've already had

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some interesting workarounds to make sure that time zones were correct.

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So anyway, well, I am so happy to be doing

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this because over the over the weeks, as I've been

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doing different episodes. We've talked about behavior and money, and

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I've got that at some point in this I'm going

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to talk to you about about me and what I

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went through when I went through a divorce about twenty

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five years ago. But first I would just love to

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find out a little bit more.

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Tell me about your journey. How do you get.

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Interested in helping entrepreneurs with money, mindset and business success?

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Where?

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What was that what you were always thinking you were

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going to be doing.

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No, it was a career that I was not even

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available or not even aware of as I was growing up.

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I grew up in a farm in west central Minnesota,

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and my dad said, Carmen, you can grow up and

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be anything you want. I have about a nurse's secretary

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or teacher, and so I fell into the teaching just

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because I didn't know what else to do. But my

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last semester of college, I student taught hormonally deranged ninth

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graders and I found out what I didn't want to do,

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and I was definitely afraid of public speaking, so I joke.

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My first job after college, I was the only female

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heavy equipment operator on a row construction crew. So all

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the brewing skills kind of came into play, those transferable skills,

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but it.

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Led me to.

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Going back and getting a master's degree in counseling psychology

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because I really wanted to help people, and I did

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a lot of volunteer work and informational interviewing and really

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narrowed in on career counseling and coaching. So I spent

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a lot of my career as an administrator, as a

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career coaching counselor, and then I veered entire education. So

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I created my own coaching program at a graduate school,

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but I went nine years without a raise. So that's

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why this whole money thing was kind of beat for me.

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Well were you like, were you in a public school

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or something?

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No, I was in a first, I was at a university.

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I was at the University of Wisconsin River Falls, and

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then I went to Adler Graduate School to create a

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new coaching program. But because in order to make MS meet,

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I had this poverty mindset, so I was always working

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three and four jobs. So I had a contract with

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one of the big four accounting firms where I was

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coaching their top leaders. I was also teaching at a

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couple of community colleges on the side, and I had

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a private practice. And then at the end of the

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year twenty fifteen, it was kind of the dark Knight

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of the soul, like everything happened. Three people in my

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life were diagnosed with cancer. The guy was dating at

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the time, out of the blue, just the day after Thanksgiving,

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decided to break up with me. And then my job

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was cut. And then this one, the lucrative coaching contract

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that I had, you know, coaching top leaders at Price Waterhouse,

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was cut. I didn't want that to go away. So

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suddenly someone who had always had her next gig planned

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was suddenly at this crossroads of what do I do now?

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And I have all these skills and I really loved,

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you know, coaching top leaders and preparing you know, people

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that are going up to the field to be mental

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health professionals. But I wanted to do something different. And

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that's when I became really interested in neuroscience and the

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subconscious because I was wondering, how do you how do

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you produce lasting change in people without forcing them to

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relive traumas and just living in the past. Yeah, And

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that's how I discovered a methodology called data healing and

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it's I'll explain a little bitter.

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How would that say that again?

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Beta healing, Beta healing, which is like it's like, you

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know you're in a theta brain wave. Yeah, you're in

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a theta brain wave when you're subconsciousness programmed from birth

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to age seven and so in order to make change

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on that kind of survival level, because your subconscious fears change,

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you know, it likes to keep you safe. It's that

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survival part you. So the data healing is getting back

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into that data state and getting at the root belief.

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What are the root programs or causes that prevent you

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from creating wealth or success or create other things. Because

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I have people that come in who have their surface

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levels anxiety and down deep, I find out that they

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were bullied in second grade. There was something that went

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way back and that caused them anxiety. And you clear

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that out and you replace it with a new program.

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But I always want to ask the person, how did

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it serve you? Because even things that are kind of

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challenging in our lives, there's still a lesson and a gift.

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We still learned something.

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You're there because of something, Yeah.

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We learned, we learned something. There was a gift there,

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and it's time to acknowledge the gift and how it

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serves you, and then what do you want to replace

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it with? So it's not just clearing out releasing crappy beliefs,

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but it's what do you want to replace it with?

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And then I really help people up level their identity

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because I'm a firm believer that self concept dictates everything,

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whether you can see yourself as a wealthy person, whether

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you can tap into the feeling of what it feels

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like to be a wealthy person who receives with ease,

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because some people don't know what it feels like to

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be wealthy.

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No, you're making me think of all the stories about

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people that have won the lottery, right, and they it's

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like two or three years and they've it's disastrous, And

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a lot of times people will say, I wish it

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would have never happened to me because they do not

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have any kind of mindset. So what you're talking about

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is that mindset, and they they're not comfortable with it.

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They don't see themselves as that right.

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Right, And what you're talking about is what I call

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a wealth blueprint, and a wealth blueprint is really kind

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of your patterns and your habits and your identity and

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your worthiness around money. It's a combination of your beliefs,

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your programs, your sense of your ability to deserve money.

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And we all have a set point, kind of like

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we have a happiness set point and believe it or not,

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and you can raise it, you know, through making some

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conscious choices. Same thing is with your wealth blueprint. You know,

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we have a certain financial ceiling that I can't imagine

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making anything more than that, and I can't imagine making

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anything less than that. And I'm going to give you

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one example. I've been working with a doctor who left

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a job in corporate in the corporate world where she was,

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you know, she was an industrial psychologist, and now she

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was coaching. And she made a comment, why can't I

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make more than a thousand dollars a month for coaching?

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And through energy testing, I had her test to see

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if her wealth blueprint was set at I can only

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make a thousand dollars a month with coaching, that's where

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it was. And I said, what do you want to

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make per month instead? And she said, I want to

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make fifteen thousand dollars a month. And so we cleared

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out the old program, We asked how it served her,

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and then we created the new program, and then I

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downloaded with her the identity and the feeling of someone

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who makes fifteen thousand dollars a month in coaching, right,

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and within a month she hit that mark.

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Wow. With this month phone, I had a.

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Check and see where my wealth blueprint was at, right,

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you know, And then I'm like, oh, my gosh, I

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wonder where I'm set because you know, I have a

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high ticket offer that's at one hundred k, Like, am

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I you know? Am I aligned with this? So we're

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aligned with a certain wealth blueprint And it's seeing people

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get in touch with where it's at and understanding you

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can change it. Yeah.

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I think most people think this is just the way

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it is, right.

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They don't realize they can change it. That's isn't that fascinating?

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Isn't that fascinating that that we can I'm so grateful

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that that technology is there because that might be you know,

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who knows who might be listening to this that they'll go, oh,

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that's what I need to do, is I need to

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go check that out right?

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Right?

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And it is a combination, you know, there's ancestral stuff

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because we carry beliefs on four levels. We carry beliefs

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on you know, everything we've experienced in this lifetime, but

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we come with stuff from parents and grandparents and generations

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that go back. And we also might have taken a

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vow of poverty in a past life or in another

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iteration of our life. I had a coach who came

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to me, top coach in the Minneapolis Saint Paul area,

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and he's like, I don't know why I can't crack

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over six grand a year. And I found out he'd

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been a priest before he became a coach, you know,

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years ago, and he had taken an oath of poverty.

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And so we just cleared that energy out, marked it complete.

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I asked him what he gained, and he shared a

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lot of experiences and stories of what he learned from

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that time in his life when he had poverty. And

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now he makes well over six figures a year because

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we cleared out that block and we marked it complete.

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Yeah, Well that kind of leads into my next question.

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I one of the things we talked about was spiritually

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guided entrepreneurs I don't know if I've ever really thought

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about entrepreneurship in that way, being spiritually guided.

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Why would you say it's.

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Important to blend spirituality or that higher self are our

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spirit part of ourselves with financial empowerment. I think that's

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just a fascinating thing to blend, because.

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We're all here as incredibly powerful creators of our life's

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experience and what you focus on growth, and we're always creating,

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either by default or by design. And I really want

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people to understand that you're always creating. Complaining is creating,

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and so we're and we're all here for a divine purpose.

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We all agree to show up here now, and we're

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all part of raising consciousness of this planet here in

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And why is that great combined with financial empowerment Because

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you have the ability to impact and influence the things

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that matter to you in the world, rather than just

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complaining about them or being passive. You have the ability

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to give to the causes, the people, the things that

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matter to you, and to live your best life. So

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I really believe it's part of our spiritual mission to

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be wealthy.

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Well, one of the things I've always told clients is,

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you know, if you have wealth, then you can actually

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do more. You can you can give more, you can

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be more of a resource. You know, it's just like

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it's like dud makes sense that if you can turn

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that around, you can give more to the world, you

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can be a better resource for everyone around you that

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you might be able to help.

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I think that's great.

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Well, so kind of a related thing, and you were

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also talking a little bit about this was there's a

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lot of heart centered coaches, a lot of people that

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are really out there wanting to do good. They're healers,

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they're doing all this coaching stuff, but they feel conflicted

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about charging for their work. And you've already mentioned a

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couple of examples.

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How do you help.

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Them reconcile purpose and prosperity, right.

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I think there's this kind of mentality of trading dollars

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for hours, and it's really helping people understand that the

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value that you bring is in the transformation that you provide.

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And I think people sometimes are afraid that, hey, if

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I raise my prices, I'm going to lose people, I'm

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going to lose clients, I'm not going to be able

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to help as many people. And I think you have

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the bigger impact when you are able to raise your

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prices because you attract clients who are more motivated to

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get results. They have more skin in the they have.

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They're the ones that are going to be your easiest

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clients to work with because they're ready to hit the

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ground running. They're ready to get results. They've made an

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investment in themselves and the transformation you provide is valuable.

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So it's really helping people understand, you know, what's your

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unique methodology. I've packaged mind into something called the Worth

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Code just to help people. You know, that's my methodology,

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but I help people kind of come up with, you know,

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how do you take your established methodology and really package

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into something that has that kind of impact in branding

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out there that resonates with people.

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Yeah, it's so it's so interesting.

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There's let's unpack the whole thing about subconscious beliefs again. Yeah,

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there are common what do you feel are some common

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subconscious beliefs around money that keep people stuck? I know

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in my life, you know, you're you're preaching to the choir,

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so to speak here because a lot of this, a

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lot of the challenges that you're talking about, you know,

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I've experienced in my life and it's been kind of

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you know, just putting one foot in front of the other.

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But I know that there are so many common mistakes

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that people make because they have a belief that they

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don't even know that it is there.

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I would agree. I think some of the common beliefs

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that people have, you know, there are fears about imposter syndrome,

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just feeling like I'm not worthy or who am I

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to charge that for my services? I hear people who

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this is my husband's I'll pick on him right here.

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I don't. If I get into a higher tax bracket,

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I'm just going to pay more of the government, you know,

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So why create more wealth that I just have to

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give away in taxes. I always flip the switch on

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that and think about, you know, what do you value

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that you get from taxes?

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You know?

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And I value clean air, clean water, good infrastructure, roads

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and schools and the things that pack taxes pay for.

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And I don't take control over it. So it's just,

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you know, if you're going to get wealthy, you're going

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to have to resonate with paying work for taxes, right.

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I think sometimes people have fear that if I get

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really wealthy, somebody's going to be looking for a handout.

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You know, people will try to take advantage of me.

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My response to that is always it's having boundaries. You know,

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Noah's a full stop sense. You don't have to help everyone.

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You get to decide who you want to support and

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have boundaries on, you know, how you want to spend

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your money and your time. I think sometimes people have

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fear that they won't handle money. Well, so, g I'll

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make it and then I'm going to lose it, and

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I just always there's it's just a matter of having

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a fixed mindset versus a growth one. Because a fixed

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mindset would say, gosh, I never learned how to handle money,

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so why bother. A growth mindset says, there's so much

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out there on YouTube now, so many resources place before

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I can learn how to you know, create wealth, invest wealth,

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and grow my wealth. You know that I shouldn't have

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to be afraid of that. I mentioned to you about

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some people having some of those ancestral patterns in the

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yeah where those are interesting ones to pick up and

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clear out. Because I will say that my parents have

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both very different mindsets in regard to prosperity. My dad

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had a we're just the dumb farmers and a mindset

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and had a very poverty consciousness. My mom has very

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much a very wealth prosperity consciousness. And my sister and

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I both daddy girls. So guess whose mindset we tended

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to absorb? Sure where my brother, you know, is more

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of a mama's boy, and guess what mindset he you know,

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he absorbed. So it was just being aware of that

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and clearing out those beliefs. I think sometimes people are

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afraid of, you know, fitting in. Like if I get wealthy,

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how am I going to fit in with the people

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in my life more my family and friends. So I'm

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just going to stay small so I won't feel out

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of place. So I'll still belong.

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Nobody will expect anything of.

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Me right exactly, or there's here of what if I

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turn into some greedy and ethical or selfish person, you know,

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if I become wealthy, and I just always say, you know,

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you have the you have the ability to determine your

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integrity and to be integrity with money, no matter where

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you are in terms of your status with wealth. So

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wealth is not going to so I turn you into

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somebody who's a greedy or an ethical you make that decision.

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I think sometimes people a lot of times it's just

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not feeling worthy and not knowing how to receive wealth

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at a higher level because they've never done it before.

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So there's a lot of things that I come up against,

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you know, when I'm working with people, and it's a

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lot of fun to get at those root beliefs and

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clear them out.

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I can see that.

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I can see that that would be challenging for you,

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but it would also it would be it would be

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kind of like a creative thing for you, right to

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find out what you're dealing with and then figuring out

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how to how to get around it.

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Well, it's kind of like I'm wrapping an onion, you know,

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or just figuring out a puzzle, you know, what's the

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root cause? And I'll often have my hunches. But what

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I do that's different from coaching is just to explain

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it a little bit. Is coaching, you're getting into people's stories.

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People are addicted to their stories. They get a dopamine

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affect from their stories. So what I do is something

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called digging, and it's really answering a lot of where, why,

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when questions. So when's the first time you felt that way?

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Who said that to you, how did it make you feel?

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What happened next? And then I always want to know, like,

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what was the worst thing about that for you? And

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I'll keep going down that rabbit hole and I won't

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let you tell your story. I'll just keep asking till

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we get to the roop belief and then I'll energy test.

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So what energy testing is is using kinesiology. There are

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a lot of different ways. Sometimes it's called muscle testing

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or energy testing. But I'll energy test with the person

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to see if they have a certain rip belief, and

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if we haven't gotten to the rip belief, I'll keep digging,

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and then when we get to the rip belief, then

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I'll ask, you know, is this something that you want

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to change or do you want to change part of it?

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And hold on to part of that belief? And you know,

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every person has free will. I can't impose my beliefs

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ethically in another person without their agreement. So then I

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want to find out, Okay, how did it serve you

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this old belief that we're going to clear out, and

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what do you want to have as a replacement. And

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then I make a command of their subconscious and I

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make a request of the creator of seven plane energy

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because we're in a data state when we're doing this together,

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and then I'm the witness. You know, yes, you rattled

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off my title as a healer. I'm really not the healer.

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I'm the witness. God is the healer, the Creator is

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the healer. I just structure and witness the process. And

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I'm so lucky because I get to witness miracles.

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Wow.

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Well, let's talk a little bit more about the whole

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thing with imposter syndrome. I know that for me, you know,

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I had thought about doing a podcast for a long

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time and actually somebody I had actually had an experience

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with a very arrogant Los Angeles based advice male advisor

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who said, they'll never listen to you. You're you're an older,

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white female and they're not going to listen to you.

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And that just shook me, you know, it was I

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was so surprised that somebody would actually say something like

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that to me. But then as I go along and

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I finally went why not me? You know, I've got

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a whole lifetime of experiences. I've got all this stuff

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that I've learned, and I'm finding that, you know, having

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started the podcast, I'm I'm finding that it's a creative

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outlet for me. But I know I went through that

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whole thing with imposter or syndrome, saying how.

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Could you know?

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I think it shows up in a lot of successful people,

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doesn't it, where you know you're you just you're gonna

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you don't. Isn't that really what you do is you're

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dissolving that whole thing at its root.

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Yeah, And I think what's that The root of imposter

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syndrome is perfectionism and not feeling vulnerable enough. I'll use

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an old Adler graduate school line from when I was

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a professor there. It's all about having the courage to

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be imperfect. Yeah, And and and that's what it really is.

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That the root of it is because we want to

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feel perfect the first time we do something like the

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first time we did that podcast. You want to feel

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like I know what I'm doing, I'm perfect, everything's.

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Going to float, right, you know.

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Well, I think there's an element of I think you

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want to look good too.

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Right, You want to look good and doing it?

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Yeah?

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Right, And so I just say anything that's worth doing

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is worth doing imperfectly until you get it right. Yeah,

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until you get just kind of like driving, where it

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becomes second nature anymore and you're not even necessarily having

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to think about all the elements of operating a car,

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because it is so it's just ingrained in you're subconscious,

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and so it's just it's having the courage to do

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something poorly or imperfectly until you get it down right,

471
00:27:23.599 --> 00:27:28.319
and knowing that with every person. Sometimes you're a quick

472
00:27:28.319 --> 00:27:31.160
study and you get it right right away, but sometimes

473
00:27:31.160 --> 00:27:34.079
you just have to accept that perfectionism is the enemy

474
00:27:34.119 --> 00:27:37.559
of progress.

475
00:27:38.319 --> 00:27:40.400
There's a saying that I heard a long time ago.

476
00:27:40.440 --> 00:27:43.880
It was ready fire aim, and I think it's that

477
00:27:44.079 --> 00:27:49.160
concept of just getting started and just going ahead and

478
00:27:49.279 --> 00:27:51.839
just doing it and then figure And so I'm finding

479
00:27:52.319 --> 00:27:55.240
that as I go along, I'm like figuring out other

480
00:27:55.319 --> 00:27:58.079
things I want to do, but I had to start

481
00:27:58.599 --> 00:28:00.440
or else I would have never gotten to that point.

482
00:28:01.680 --> 00:28:05.759
So there's kind of a companion thing, and that's shifting

483
00:28:05.880 --> 00:28:11.319
from scarcity to abundance or you know, and scarcity could

484
00:28:11.359 --> 00:28:17.119
also be wouldn't you say, like survival mode. I know

485
00:28:17.640 --> 00:28:20.680
a long time ago it was like, oh, just say

486
00:28:20.720 --> 00:28:23.640
positive affirmations, And then I've heard a lot of people

487
00:28:23.680 --> 00:28:25.799
say positive affirmations.

488
00:28:25.160 --> 00:28:29.440
Don't work, do you how do you? I mean, positive.

489
00:28:29.000 --> 00:28:34.319
Affirmations are probably a good thing in some way. But

490
00:28:34.440 --> 00:28:36.880
what would you say is the best way to start

491
00:28:36.920 --> 00:28:41.880
making a shift from that whole scarcity mindset to something

492
00:28:41.880 --> 00:28:43.640
that's going to serve you a whole lot better.

493
00:28:45.559 --> 00:28:48.960
Well, I'm going to use a quote from Genevieve Davis,

494
00:28:49.000 --> 00:28:52.200
which is complaining is creating, And get back to the

495
00:28:52.440 --> 00:28:56.160
comment I made earlier about we're always creating by either

496
00:28:56.319 --> 00:29:00.799
default or deliberately, and so it's making your mind up.

497
00:29:01.200 --> 00:29:04.079
Then I'm going to start creating as much as I

498
00:29:04.119 --> 00:29:08.599
can by deliberation. And so I'm going to keep my

499
00:29:08.680 --> 00:29:11.799
focus on prosperity and what I want instead of what

500
00:29:11.839 --> 00:29:14.160
I don't want, because a lot of people spend a

501
00:29:14.160 --> 00:29:18.160
lot of energy and focus complaining and convetching about what

502
00:29:18.200 --> 00:29:21.559
they don't want. So it's really getting in touch with Okay,

503
00:29:22.680 --> 00:29:28.160
money loves a purpose, money loves specificy being specific, So

504
00:29:28.720 --> 00:29:31.680
getting specific about what do you want to make and

505
00:29:31.839 --> 00:29:34.799
then realizing, hey, I can go beyond that. I don't

506
00:29:34.880 --> 00:29:38.039
need just enough to get by. I can have overflow

507
00:29:38.079 --> 00:29:41.440
in my life as well. But really affirming that and

508
00:29:41.480 --> 00:29:45.880
realizing that money is a vibrational energy. It's just money

509
00:29:45.960 --> 00:29:50.240
is energy, just like everything else, and aligning to the

510
00:29:50.359 --> 00:29:55.000
energy of wealth and money and affirming it. It is

511
00:29:55.039 --> 00:29:59.920
getting beyond those beliefs, so clearing out beliefs that are

512
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:03.279
no longer serving you, that are just empowering. It is

513
00:30:03.359 --> 00:30:07.599
also up leveling your worthiness and your ability to receive,

514
00:30:08.519 --> 00:30:11.799
and realizing that the universe has your back, that if

515
00:30:11.839 --> 00:30:18.480
you come in it with such certainty and belief and allowance,

516
00:30:18.680 --> 00:30:19.480
it has to come.

517
00:30:20.200 --> 00:30:22.400
Yeah, it's a lot of a tress.

518
00:30:22.880 --> 00:30:24.519
I think this is a good place where I'm going

519
00:30:24.599 --> 00:30:27.279
to talk a little bit about my story twenty five

520
00:30:27.319 --> 00:30:29.759
years ago when I went through this terrible divorce, and

521
00:30:30.640 --> 00:30:34.440
I had characterized myself as I've got three daughters and

522
00:30:34.559 --> 00:30:36.599
the four of us where all of us were just

523
00:30:36.640 --> 00:30:39.400
in a huge funk, and I had characterized myself as

524
00:30:39.440 --> 00:30:43.039
being curled up in a corner, sucking my thumb, just

525
00:30:43.039 --> 00:30:46.680
just in shock, you know, and just not knowing what

526
00:30:46.799 --> 00:30:50.319
to do. I came to a point, Carmen where I said,

527
00:30:51.240 --> 00:30:55.079
damn it, I am, I'm going to move on. I'm

528
00:30:55.079 --> 00:30:57.079
going to I'm not going to let this destroy me.

529
00:30:57.119 --> 00:30:58.799
I'm going to figure out a way to make this

530
00:30:59.559 --> 00:31:01.720
move on. But you know what it was, It was

531
00:31:01.759 --> 00:31:03.920
thinking about my three daughters and wanting to be there

532
00:31:03.960 --> 00:31:06.000
for them because they also knew that they were hurting.

533
00:31:06.559 --> 00:31:12.119
And so again for me, starting that transformation and starting

534
00:31:12.160 --> 00:31:16.440
to reinvent myself had to do with wanting to find a.

535
00:31:16.359 --> 00:31:23.039
Purpose right to go forward. Yeah, it is, and I

536
00:31:23.079 --> 00:31:26.240
think purpose is really everything. It's you know, if you

537
00:31:26.400 --> 00:31:29.920
go back to Victor Frankel from Man Search Man Search

538
00:31:30.000 --> 00:31:33.039
for Meeting, you know, he's one of the most powerful

539
00:31:33.039 --> 00:31:35.279
ones about purpose that I can ever think of. I

540
00:31:35.319 --> 00:31:37.680
go back and read that book once a year. For

541
00:31:37.720 --> 00:31:41.200
those of you that aren't familiar with him. He was

542
00:31:41.640 --> 00:31:46.440
a psychologist and a Holocaust survivor and his entire family

543
00:31:46.519 --> 00:31:51.920
was wiped out, and he wrote about his experience, and

544
00:31:52.599 --> 00:31:55.519
he found that the people that lived and survived the

545
00:31:55.559 --> 00:31:57.400
Holocaust were the ones that had a reason to get

546
00:31:57.480 --> 00:32:00.359
up the next morning. They had a reason for being.

547
00:32:00.880 --> 00:32:04.039
And I think what you're sharing in your experience, Benita,

548
00:32:04.200 --> 00:32:06.680
is just putting one foot front of the other and

549
00:32:06.720 --> 00:32:08.960
thinking about what's the next best thing to do, what's

550
00:32:09.000 --> 00:32:12.599
the next what's the next what's the next thing to

551
00:32:12.640 --> 00:32:16.319
do right now? To support my family and to move forward.

552
00:32:16.400 --> 00:32:20.160
And money loves a purpose, you know. Money is there

553
00:32:20.200 --> 00:32:23.839
to fund your dreams and to fund your purpose. It's

554
00:32:23.920 --> 00:32:27.759
just a tool. Yeah, And so having a reason to

555
00:32:27.880 --> 00:32:32.079
be wealthy enables you to track more of it because

556
00:32:32.119 --> 00:32:33.000
you have that purpose.

557
00:32:34.519 --> 00:32:35.799
Well, do you have a story.

558
00:32:35.839 --> 00:32:38.680
Can you think of something where, uh, do you have

559
00:32:38.720 --> 00:32:44.319
a favorite client success story where somebody's unlocked their wealth

560
00:32:44.319 --> 00:32:45.079
and worthiness?

561
00:32:45.799 --> 00:32:46.640
Can you think of something?

562
00:32:47.400 --> 00:32:51.599
Yes, Well, I shared with you about the doctor, and

563
00:32:51.640 --> 00:32:56.079
she's someone that comes to mind. More recently, there was

564
00:32:56.160 --> 00:32:59.160
a lot of stuff that was that we needed to

565
00:32:59.160 --> 00:33:02.559
clear out for her be besides up leveling just her

566
00:33:02.599 --> 00:33:06.160
money blueprint so that she could start making fifteen thousand

567
00:33:06.200 --> 00:33:09.920
dollars a month from coaching, there were a lot of

568
00:33:09.920 --> 00:33:16.240
things that related to unworthiness from her parents. You know,

569
00:33:16.359 --> 00:33:20.599
she had survived a lot of emotional and verbal abuse

570
00:33:20.640 --> 00:33:23.799
growing up, and there was a lot of that stuff

571
00:33:23.839 --> 00:33:26.880
that had to be cleared out to help her feel

572
00:33:26.920 --> 00:33:30.480
worthy to receive, to help her not feel so self

573
00:33:30.519 --> 00:33:36.119
critical because she was criticizing herself throughout that journey and

574
00:33:36.279 --> 00:33:37.200
her transformation.

575
00:33:37.240 --> 00:33:40.519
She probably didn't even know it, did she what?

576
00:33:41.160 --> 00:33:43.519
You know, I would bet that there was probably a

577
00:33:45.000 --> 00:33:48.720
she wasn't even aware that she was doing that to herself, right.

578
00:33:50.160 --> 00:33:54.839
No, And it was through getting down into that subconscious

579
00:33:54.920 --> 00:33:57.839
level and doing the digging that we were able to

580
00:33:57.839 --> 00:34:01.880
find these programs that were very just powering, and they

581
00:34:01.880 --> 00:34:07.319
were about worthiness because she grew up being criticized and

582
00:34:07.400 --> 00:34:09.679
she had a heart wall, you know, she she had

583
00:34:09.719 --> 00:34:14.079
developed I was called it kind of a protective personality

584
00:34:14.559 --> 00:34:18.679
which we developed when somebody has abused us verbally or

585
00:34:18.719 --> 00:34:24.199
emotionally or physically even And she had to be able

586
00:34:24.239 --> 00:34:28.719
to get out of that and see her potential and

587
00:34:28.760 --> 00:34:33.039
her ability to create wealth. And she was now using

588
00:34:33.079 --> 00:34:35.960
her purpose to help other people like her to be

589
00:34:36.079 --> 00:34:41.159
seen and heard and to create wealth. So it was

590
00:34:41.599 --> 00:34:45.599
kind of like healer healed myself, so you help others

591
00:34:46.920 --> 00:34:49.679
walk that path as well well.

592
00:34:49.719 --> 00:34:51.840
And the other thing that another comment I guess I'd

593
00:34:51.920 --> 00:34:57.519
make would be, it's not anything on the outside whenever whenever.

594
00:34:57.880 --> 00:35:00.599
I mean, it seems like all the example and everything

595
00:35:00.599 --> 00:35:03.920
that you've been talking about, it's changes that you're making inside.

596
00:35:03.920 --> 00:35:07.760
There's nobody on the outside that's doing anything. It's you

597
00:35:08.920 --> 00:35:11.280
rewriting the script in your own life.

598
00:35:11.719 --> 00:35:15.480
Exactly. Yeah, it's what are the stories that you're telling

599
00:35:15.719 --> 00:35:20.119
about your life? Even challenging times like I can look

600
00:35:20.159 --> 00:35:23.320
back over, you know how the trajectory of my life

601
00:35:23.440 --> 00:35:26.760
changed after twenty fifteen, when I was sharing with you,

602
00:35:27.239 --> 00:35:29.559
my job went away, the contract that I had for

603
00:35:29.599 --> 00:35:31.920
coaching went away, and I was left with my private

604
00:35:31.960 --> 00:35:35.400
path practice. And you know, I did my little pity

605
00:35:35.400 --> 00:35:37.960
party for a while, and I did something that I

606
00:35:38.000 --> 00:35:40.920
always encourage my clients to do, like now is a

607
00:35:40.920 --> 00:35:44.480
good time to do some functual and clear out physical

608
00:35:44.519 --> 00:35:46.719
clutter because a lot of times we just have too

609
00:35:46.800 --> 00:35:49.960
much stuff. Clear out the physical clutter, but clear out

610
00:35:49.960 --> 00:35:53.599
the emotional clutter, because then you have more clarity to

611
00:35:53.639 --> 00:35:55.360
think about, Okay, what do I want to bring into

612
00:35:55.360 --> 00:35:58.840
my life next. And that's when the whole data healing

613
00:35:59.519 --> 00:36:03.639
and neuro science coaching came in, and it just gave

614
00:36:03.719 --> 00:36:07.800
me a new level of excitement because I'd always had

615
00:36:07.800 --> 00:36:10.480
a private practice. I've been in private practice for twenty

616
00:36:10.519 --> 00:36:14.239
two years now, but it was just one of many

617
00:36:14.239 --> 00:36:17.280
things I was doing. I wasn't solely into my private practice.

618
00:36:18.159 --> 00:36:20.719
Then I became very solely into being an entrepreneur and

619
00:36:20.760 --> 00:36:24.440
helping entrepreneurs. So the universe had my back. It was

620
00:36:24.480 --> 00:36:27.239
just time for something new. Yeah, time for me.

621
00:36:27.480 --> 00:36:29.360
Well I think you really you were you were like

622
00:36:30.000 --> 00:36:32.159
focusing the stream down, right.

623
00:36:32.800 --> 00:36:37.639
I was, Yeah, and it's enabled me, as you talk

624
00:36:37.679 --> 00:36:41.880
about just being able to be anywhere. It's enabled me

625
00:36:42.000 --> 00:36:45.599
to be in Florida in the winter. Yeah, it's enabled

626
00:36:45.639 --> 00:36:49.480
me to you know, speak on a stage with somebody

627
00:36:49.480 --> 00:36:52.519
who's in Hawaii right now. Yeah.

628
00:36:52.639 --> 00:36:55.760
Well the thing, you know, it's like, don't you feel

629
00:36:55.800 --> 00:37:00.760
like isn't it interesting? It's like when I getting back

630
00:37:00.800 --> 00:37:04.760
to starting this podcast, Yeah, I'm asked, well, what do

631
00:37:04.800 --> 00:37:08.320
you want to call it? And I said, I knew

632
00:37:08.400 --> 00:37:10.400
exactly what I wanted to call it, because it was

633
00:37:10.519 --> 00:37:11.519
ask good questions.

634
00:37:11.559 --> 00:37:13.039
Because all the crap.

635
00:37:12.840 --> 00:37:15.880
I've went through in my life, all the problems I've had,

636
00:37:16.119 --> 00:37:20.360
have been largely because I didn't ask good questions and

637
00:37:20.719 --> 00:37:23.599
or I didn't know what the right questions were to ask.

638
00:37:24.400 --> 00:37:26.960
And so you start and so like.

639
00:37:27.039 --> 00:37:29.000
This whole thing with being able to be in a

640
00:37:29.039 --> 00:37:32.719
warm climate in the wintertime, instead of saying, oh, I

641
00:37:32.719 --> 00:37:36.719
can't do that, I started saying how could we?

642
00:37:38.719 --> 00:37:40.800
How could we be able to do that?

643
00:37:41.280 --> 00:37:44.360
Because it was like I had actually slipped on the

644
00:37:44.360 --> 00:37:48.320
ice outside my house one morning and I'm literally laying

645
00:37:48.360 --> 00:37:49.639
on the sidewalk looking.

646
00:37:49.480 --> 00:37:52.719
Up at the sky, going I can't do this anymore.

647
00:37:52.920 --> 00:37:57.039
And you know, but you know that's I think it's

648
00:37:57.159 --> 00:38:01.599
asking this this whole well, and the name of the

649
00:38:01.639 --> 00:38:05.159
podcast has come in so well, so many times because

650
00:38:05.800 --> 00:38:08.559
everything that we're doing and all the success that we

651
00:38:08.599 --> 00:38:11.000
have in life a lot, in a lot a lot

652
00:38:11.039 --> 00:38:15.119
of ways is because we've started asking better questions.

653
00:38:16.159 --> 00:38:19.599
Right, Yeah, And it's kind of a who not how,

654
00:38:20.280 --> 00:38:24.000
because where's can help align the how. It's just getting

655
00:38:24.679 --> 00:38:27.559
what do you want and being open that it might

656
00:38:27.599 --> 00:38:29.679
come to you in a little different way than you thought.

657
00:38:30.960 --> 00:38:33.280
My ability to come to Florida in the winter came

658
00:38:33.320 --> 00:38:39.280
through a COVID changed everything. And during twenty twenty, my husband,

659
00:38:39.360 --> 00:38:42.079
who is an engineer, moved a big machine down to

660
00:38:42.119 --> 00:38:45.440
Florida and had enough work that it was going to

661
00:38:45.960 --> 00:38:49.239
probably provide for him for the next four years to

662
00:38:49.280 --> 00:38:51.920
be going back and forth to Florida. And I just

663
00:38:51.960 --> 00:38:53.960
tagged along because then all of a sudden, I could

664
00:38:54.000 --> 00:38:58.400
do everything with my laptop and my webcam. Yeah sure technology.

665
00:38:58.519 --> 00:39:07.320
Yeah, I'm in my apartment with my laptop, my cell phone,

666
00:39:07.840 --> 00:39:13.000
my little ring light, and my little mic which all

667
00:39:13.039 --> 00:39:18.199
went in the suitcase. So, man, do you realize it's

668
00:39:18.199 --> 00:39:20.880
almost been about forty minutes? How do you help people

669
00:39:20.960 --> 00:39:25.079
grow their wealth and not experience burnout, because I can

670
00:39:25.119 --> 00:39:27.519
see where people could go go go, go, go go,

671
00:39:27.639 --> 00:39:33.559
but then they get burnout because today's world is so

672
00:39:34.079 --> 00:39:37.800
can be so high pressure, so much hustle and bustle.

673
00:39:38.320 --> 00:39:41.599
I know, being in Hawaii here, we're serving a mission

674
00:39:41.639 --> 00:39:44.639
in Hawaii right now, and I can do the podcast

675
00:39:44.639 --> 00:39:49.119
while I'm doing that right and there's much more of

676
00:39:49.159 --> 00:39:51.480
a laid back attitude here.

677
00:39:52.039 --> 00:39:54.760
But most of the world.

678
00:39:55.599 --> 00:39:59.039
Has that problem where they you know, what do you

679
00:39:59.079 --> 00:40:01.800
say to people about burnout.

680
00:40:03.000 --> 00:40:05.960
Well, you don't do yourself any favors with burnout because

681
00:40:06.360 --> 00:40:12.440
it depletes you physically, emotionally and spiritually and in order.

682
00:40:12.480 --> 00:40:16.199
It's kind of like the oxygen mask when they say

683
00:40:16.199 --> 00:40:18.400
that on an airplane about putting the oxygen mask on

684
00:40:18.440 --> 00:40:21.719
yourself first, because you're only able to give to others

685
00:40:21.960 --> 00:40:25.199
if you have self care. And so I don't think

686
00:40:25.199 --> 00:40:27.000
you have to trade in your well being in order

687
00:40:27.039 --> 00:40:29.559
to be successful. And that's a myth that a lot

688
00:40:29.559 --> 00:40:32.960
of people have in regards to scaling their businesses. And

689
00:40:33.480 --> 00:40:37.000
the myth is just that you know, I have to

690
00:40:37.039 --> 00:40:42.280
do more in the shift is how can I leverage

691
00:40:42.760 --> 00:40:46.639
how can I serve more people and leverage my time

692
00:40:47.519 --> 00:40:51.360
and still make time for well being and my family

693
00:40:51.679 --> 00:40:55.039
and other things that matter to me and nature and

694
00:40:55.559 --> 00:40:58.239
just having a full life. Is what you really want?

695
00:40:58.800 --> 00:41:02.840
Right, well? And what's it's important to you? Right? One

696
00:41:02.840 --> 00:41:03.400
of the most.

697
00:41:03.239 --> 00:41:07.880
Important is, right, Yeah, being aligned with your priorities and

698
00:41:07.920 --> 00:41:10.840
your purpose. It's really it's it's and it's how you

699
00:41:10.880 --> 00:41:13.840
want a purpose to spread it, you know, it's it's

700
00:41:13.880 --> 00:41:16.719
how you want to spend your time and your energy. Ye, yes,

701
00:41:16.920 --> 00:41:19.360
we all have twenty four hours. That's a great equalizer.

702
00:41:19.840 --> 00:41:22.760
No matter what your wealth is, You've got twenty four

703
00:41:22.760 --> 00:41:27.039
hours a day and that's a not renewable resource. So

704
00:41:27.559 --> 00:41:30.679
people think more about their time and their energy and

705
00:41:30.800 --> 00:41:34.760
come up with systems that are scalable and not feeling

706
00:41:34.800 --> 00:41:37.280
like they have to be doing every little thing and

707
00:41:37.320 --> 00:41:41.280
going crazy, but just getting more clarity and focus and

708
00:41:41.360 --> 00:41:44.719
confidence and the confidence to package their brilliance into a

709
00:41:44.760 --> 00:41:49.079
high ticket program because I think about everybody has some

710
00:41:49.239 --> 00:41:53.800
ability to package their expertise into something that is high ticket.

711
00:41:54.880 --> 00:41:57.639
And knowing how to find their right fit client. Where

712
00:41:57.639 --> 00:41:59.920
does your right fit client hang out, what do they do,

713
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and really helping them come up with systems in place

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to help them scale their businesses.

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Sounds yeah, It's like I'm hoping there's some people going okay, okay, okay.

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So on the podcast website, I have a place where

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I put information, and so we will be putting some

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information about how to find you there as well.

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And so.

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Our time is just about gone. Can you believe it?

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I know, I know.

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So what are some final thoughts that you have to

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share with our listeners?

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What do you think.

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Risk People say I create my life for people say

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life just happens to me. And so it's just being

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aware that we're not victims, even if we've had, you know,

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bad experiences like you talked about your divorce and I

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went through divorce at age forty, so I know I

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was single for a solid decade. I relate to what

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you shared. It's just that remembering that you're a powerful

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creator and that you have the ability to create by

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design and enjoy this beautiful life. There's so much that

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you can do. You're here for a powerful reason, and

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you're here to create wealth so you can have the

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impact that you desire to have in your life. And

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so I just say, get clear about your intentions. So

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you can live your truth and own your worth at

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the highest level. Boy, I hope that resonates with everyone.

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I hope everyone is hearing you and feeling that and saying,

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what good questions do I need to ask now about

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where I want to go? And maybe this will spur

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people to just rethink what's my purpose?

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What am I?

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What am I here for? Why am I? What can

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I do to go out and help others and be.

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More and do more? You know, and and share more. Actually,

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I'm thinking of another another person who's in the financial

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coaching who says it's all tied around your value.

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How much value you give.

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So I think you know purpose value and being able

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and you know, I think that one of the blessings

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for me is being able to find people for people

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to go to and to resonate with. And so I

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want to thank you so much for being here. I

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think you have an amazing business, an amazing I don't know,

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skills and help that can really transform people's lives if

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they'll go and seek that out.

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Thank you so much. I really appreciate the opportunity to

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share with your audience, and so great to talk to

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you again.

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Yeah, yeah, well we will stay in touch and again

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people will be able to get the information on where

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to find Carmen on the podcast website. And so thanks

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again Carmen, take care, thank you.

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All Right, today's episode is over, but we did ask

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good questions again, didn't We don't miss out as we

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broadcast live every Wednesday, six pm Eastern Time on W

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FOURCY Radio at w fourcy dot com.

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Joined Banina Bellamerson next week for more conversations with experts

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on finances, retirement, behavioral finance issues, health and wellness and more.

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Until then, remember to ask good questions.