Aug. 27, 2025

Fiscally Fit: Where Money Meets Wellness

Fiscally Fit: Where Money Meets Wellness
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Season 1

Join Bonita & Financial Coach Paris Cluff as we explore the powerful connection between financial health & overall well-being. From reducing money-related stress to making intentional choices that support both your budget and your body, we uncover how aligning your finances with your values can lead to a more balanced life. Our guest shares practical tips for managing money without sacrificing mental or physical health. Tune in to learn how financial fitness is a key pillar of true wellness.

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Welcome to to Ask Good Questions Podcasts, broadcasting live every Wednesday,

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six pm Eastern Time on W four CY Radio at

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w fourcy dot com. This week and every week, we

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will reach for a higher purpose in money and life,

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as well as a focus on health and wellness. Now,

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let's join your hosts, Banita Bell Anderson as together we

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start with Asking Good Questions.

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Hey, Hello, good day to you, and thank you for

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joining the Ask Good Questions Podcast. We've got an amazing,

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amazing guest in an episode for you today. So with that,

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I want to we have so many things to talk about.

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Let's get right into it. I'd like to welcome my

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guest Paris Kluff to the proverbial podcast stage.

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Well, thank you. I'm happy to be here. It's exciting

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to be able to share something that I and after

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talking with you, I think we're both very passionate about

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helping people understand how to manage their money more effectively

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so they can actually have a much better life.

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Yeah. Well, I think that I've always said, you know,

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if your finances are in good shape, usually that means

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that there's a lot less chaos and a lot of

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better things going on elsewhere in your life. So anyway,

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let me tell people a little bit about you first

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and then we can get into our discussion. So Paris,

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So I have to ask, because I was thinking, were

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your parents in Paris when you were born or something?

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Is that why your named Paris?

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No, that's a funny question, but I again, a great question,

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a good question, perfect for the podcast. So my parents

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enjoyed the story of Homer's iliad in the Odyssey, and

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many years ago there was a Hollywood movie that came

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out called Troy, and the Trojan War was depicted in

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that movie and the whole process of you know, it

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was a prince, Prince Paris who abducted Helen of Troy

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and took her back to it and started the Trojan War.

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And my mom and dad really enjoyed that story, and

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they had another name picked out for me, which was

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I think Spencer. And when I came out, my dad

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flipped a coin and the coin landed on Paris. So

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I'm glad I had. I'm glad that I got Paris

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because it's been a wonderful, wonderful name throughout my whole life.

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Well, it makes for a great story, yes, so well.

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Paris is a former financial advisor turned educator and coach.

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He believes that money has more to do with our

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habits and our behaviors and our beliefs than it does

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with math, and so that's why he's here because I

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was intrigued by his take on things. He's been in

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the industry almost twenty five years. He's been married for

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twenty eight years, has five kids and two sons in laws.

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His life experience includes losing everything in two thousand and eight,

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living on food stamps, and rebuilding to where he now

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has a path of six figure income and a passion

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for helping others to turn their income into wealth and

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build a massive bank account. So paris welcome. Is there

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anything you'd like to add or should we get into it?

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What do you think?

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No, thank you very much that that was a great introduction.

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I just want to my real claim to fame is

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that I am a husband and a fall and I

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love my kids and my family and this that's my

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passion to go out there and you know, set up,

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set up yourself first and then help others do the same.

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So, well, that's the most important thing, isn't it. Yes,

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everything else is secondary to godden family and uh, you know,

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because that's where good habits really, that family structure is

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where our good habits start.

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Yes. True.

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So we're going to talk about finances and health and wellness.

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So I'm just curious. Let's start with how do you

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think financial stress affects our physical and mental health?

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Well, you know, one of the things that I found

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over the years and working with people is that and

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I'm sure you found the same thing, is that we

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get worried about what are what the bills are, we

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get worried about the debt that we have. We're stressed

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out about where are we going to get a phone

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call from the creditors and when you're in a constant

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state of worry, if you don't know how food's going

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to get on the table tomorrow, if you're constantly fighting

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and arguing and stressing out about money, you're going to

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have mental health. Your anxiety is going to be through

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the roof, your panic attacks are going to be more prevalent. Potentially,

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you're going to have all kinds of things that are

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going to be distracting you from your goal. And I,

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you know, I this is a real thing, and ADHD

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is one of the biggest things right now to talk

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to help people kind of be off on their you know,

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to be to stay focused on life. And when we

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have so many distractions already in the world, we have

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so much social media, so many other things to add

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to that. The stress of not knowing, man, if I

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had an emergency tomorrow, medical or otherwise, like would be

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able to handle it. And most Americans don't have I

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think the statistic is most Americans don't have four hundred

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dollars just to put towards an emergency that happens in

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their life. So the stress alone is a huge mental

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I think that's a huge cause of health issues.

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Yeah, well, what do you think some common signs are

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then that money anxiety is impacting your well being.

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I think one of the things is is I'm going

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to use the word delusion, because sometimes we are delusional

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and we think that everything's great and everything's going to

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stay great, and it just that's just not how the

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world works, the least in my experience. I shared with

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you shared earlier that I lost everything and lived on

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food stats for a little while. I was I was

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making great income. I was you know, I had just

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started my financial practice, and I was an advisor back then,

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and I was helping people with assets center management. I

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was doing you know, the retirement planning. I was doing

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a myriad of things in the financial industry. And so

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around two thousand and eight, I was headed for my

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best year. Like I was one hundred percent commission and

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I was on track to hit six figures that year.

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that to me is impressive. I don't you know, just

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it's an impressive feat. And by the end of that

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two thousand and eight I realized I was not going

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to be even I was going to be lucky if

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I made another ten thousand dollars by in the last

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quarter because the way the economy was going, And so

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I spent a lot of time, quite frankly, believing so

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before that, I believed that everything was great, everything was

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always going to continue, that my income was just going

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to get bigger and better, and that I was going

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to always be blessed. And you know, sometimes God has

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a little different path for you, and I recognized after

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going through that significant trial of losing everything, like literally

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I could write a country music song about about what

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I went through, but that was it was also a

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blessing as well. It was just different, didn't I didn't

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formulate it as a blessing right away, But after I've

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gone through it, it's been a blessing in my life since.

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But I'll tell you that when I was I personally

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was a little bit delusional about everything great. And when

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I lost to everything, when I got the notification, all

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my clients were pulling their money out of because they

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needed to stay liquid because they were investing in real

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estate and the real estate market was just not going

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the right way. And so one after another, I just

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started losing all my clients. And when you lose assets

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under management, that means my income was going down and

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I didn't have the money, and so I spent a

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period of time where I was just like I literally

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remember being on the phone with a debt collector and

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him screaming and yelling at me all the different things

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that he's going to do to me or his company

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was going to do to me. And I just remember

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sitting on the couch one day and I thought, I've

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never been here before. I've always been blessed financially. I've

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always had what I needed. I've just never been in

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a place where I lost everything. My savings was drained. Thankfully,

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I had, you know, several I had a couple tens

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of thousands of dollars in savings that helped me get

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through about four or five months. But after that, I

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was like.

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But then it's gone. I've been there too.

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Yeah, it's gone. And so my stress level was through

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the roof and I just remember there was like I

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just didn't know what to do, and I just realized

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that I was I had been delusional in my life,

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believing that everything was always going to be great and

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not planning. And there's wisdom in I believe there's wisdom

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in planning for the worst case scenario, but then also

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being able to handle best case scenarios. It's never as

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bad as it seems. It's never as good as it seems.

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The roller coaster ride of life goes up and it

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goes down, and so you just kind of kind of

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keep that steady, steady eddy pace. And that's what I've

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learned since. But boy, was it was I delusional when

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I first started.

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I when I first started my podcast, someone said, why

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are you doing health and wellness things? You're a financial advisor,

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and and I said, you know, health is the first wealth.

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That's one thing. And the the thing that I thought was,

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you can have all the money in the world, but

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if your health isn't good, it doesn't it doesn't matter.

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And so it seems like improving your finances and learning

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what is it that you're not doing that that you

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need to do to write the ship with your finances,

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How that can actually reduce chronic stress and health issues.

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Yeah, just in my practice as well. And one of

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the big other things is, you know, delusional is thinking

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everything's great. But as some of the offshoots of that

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are when the when the bill comes in the mail,

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you just set it aside because everything's great, or you

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never you don't open up your bills, you don't contact

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your do your research to see if you can get

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a better deal on your different insurance products, or you know,

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you don't do the homework necessary. And then there's the

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other thing is that you begin to quickly associate money

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with math and and there's a very high correlation. Don't

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get me wrong. You know you do need to have

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some math skills. But I think so many people are like,

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I'm bad at math, therefore I'm bad at money. Well,

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that doesn't know, that's not Don't do that to yourself.

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Don't become a self fulfilling prophecy. And so when people

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ignore the bills, they ignore the creditors, they ignore their

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credit scores, they ignore all of the things that can

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actually help them, that's another sign that somebody is overstressed

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and they're not in the right mindset. Because you know,

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if you can give yourself, if you can take a

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deep breath and sit down and realize, hey, you know what,

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it's as easy as one, two, three, just get get

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in front of it, and once you're in front of it,

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you maintain it. It's like it's like doing yard work,

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or it's like losing weight at the gym. You know,

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the first time you walk into the gym, you're you're overweight.

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Potentially you're definitely not conditioned for all that weight, and

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you some especially as a guy, and the ladies may

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have a similar scenario, but especially as a guy, where

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oh man, I'm gonna go bench press three hundred pals

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my first day, you know, because we got to show

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how tough we are, and then we're so sore and

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so much pain for the next three we don't even

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we don't go back for three weeks. And that's kind

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of a similar thing with money, in my opinion, is

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like you're overweight, meaning you're in debt, you're eating not

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you're not eating properly, meaning you're you're The correlation there

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is you're spending more than you're making. Uh, you know,

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you're you're you're maybe you're you're stressed out and that

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means that you're maybe you are working diligently to go

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find this new opportunity because you found this new investment

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opportunity and you come home. From a guy's perspective, it

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was for me, it was like, honey, I just found

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this great new business we need to get in part,

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you know, and you're trying to catch up, and this

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whole idea of catching up because you feel like you're

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behind the eight ball now, you make bad decisions, you

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invest in speculative things that don't get you anywhere, and

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then the cycle just kind of spirals downward from there.

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So there's so many correlations between health and wealth. I

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agree with you one hundred percent on that.

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Well, one of the things that I've done a lot

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of of teaching around is the concept of looking good,

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and so what you were talking about was looking good

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in a lot of different ways when it comes to finances.

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So to counter that, what do you think are some

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good daily habits what you know? Because I always think

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it's always good to have like these big grand plans,

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but you've got to get down to individual action plans

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or nothing is going to happen. So what would you

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say would be some good daily habits that combine like

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financial awareness and with you know something. You know, if

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I say mindfulness, people might go, what does that have

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to do with anything? But I think it has a

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lot to do with it, So.

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Great talk to me about So I think some daily habits. Now,

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one of the things that I think is once you

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get started and you have some good habits developed, you

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don't necessarily have to visit them every single day to

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have them continue to grow and serve you. But in

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the beginning, especially to establish those habits. You know, there's

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an old saying that says, you know, a habit is

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formed after thirty days, and while that's kind it.

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Was twenty one, but I think thirty is better.

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goes into that and says, yes, while that is true

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that a time with the habit is very important, it's

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almost it's also more important actually to have repetition with

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the habits. So the more times you repeat the habit,

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even if it's not twenty days or thirty days or whatever,

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the day marker is the repetition. How many times you

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perform the same habit actually is a greater determination that

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you're going to continue it. And so in the beginning,

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is you want to learn how to track your income

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and your expenses. That is kind of the key thing

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because we sometimes I mean, I don't go to the

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store every day, but boy, am I tempted to click

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you know whatever on Amazon? You know, on a regular basis,

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so keeping track of the money you're spending to me

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is critical. The next thing I track on a regular

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basis is I track my assets and my liabilities, and

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you know, but in business, it's cash flow statements, which

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is your income and your expenses, and it's your balance sheet,

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it's your assets and your liabilities, so really your net worth,

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and so to me, those are the things to track.

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Now those are really kind of fancy terms and maybe

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overwhelming to somebody who's brand new, But once you get

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to know how to create a cash flow statement, it's

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so easy to maintain it, and the same with a

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balance sheet, super easy to maintain it, and just a

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couple of minutes you can update it. And whether you

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update it every day or every week, I recommend in

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the first month, I have a thirty day challenge that

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I give to my clients that are maybe struggling a

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little bit more with these habits, I.

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Say, And I went through with Paris, I went and

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I reviewed that whole thing. It's excellent.

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Thank you, thank you, I'm glad you did. I was wondering,

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I was like, oh, I bet she's trying to douce

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a little homework there. So I've had some excellent feedback

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on that whole program and just people learning how to

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really track their expenses more efficiently. And then once you

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know what your habits are, meaning looking back over the

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last ninety days, one hundred and twenty days and really

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getting a good track, you know, a good idea of

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what your habits are, then you create an average, and

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then moving forward, you track your expenses moving forward, and

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you work diligently to stay within the average or reduce

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the average in certain categories so that you can free

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up your cash flow. The more positive cash flow you

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can create, the more you're going to have the ability

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to create wealth and be financially independent free.

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So there's that concept, you know, with a scarcity mindset

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or abundance mindset, how do you think you shift from

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a scarcity mindset I'm never going to have enough to

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a wellness based abundance mindset. What would you say to that.

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Well, let's I mean, let's go back to the gym analogy.

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You know, you get into the gym, you get in

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the gym, and if you go to the gym and

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everyone there is still fat and overweight. You're gonna be like,

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what is happening at this gym? Like I'm not there's

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it doesn't work. But if you go to the gym

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and you see people in various stages of getting to

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their health, like you might see some people that are

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I don't know how overweight you might be, or if

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you're listening and you're kind of the analogy here, but like,

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let's just say you're completely brand new to the gym,

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you're overweight, You're unconditioned, and overweight doesn't necessarily mean that

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you're like super huge. It could just be for your

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body type. You know, your height and whatever, your BMI

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whatever index. And I believe in skinny fat, Like there's

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people that are skinny but they're just no muscle. So

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there's that too. So conditioning is important. And I think

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that when you when you see other people have success

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that have similar situations to you, Like for example, I

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know people right now that are on food stamps, and

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they might say, well, this is just the way it is,

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is the way I'm going to be. I'm going to

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be on food stamps and poverty for the rest of

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my life. Well, I was on food stamps and I

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turned my card back into the social worker and they

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were like, what are you doing. I'm like, I'm giving

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you the card back. I don't need it anymore, and

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they're like, like the shock on their eyes was like

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nobody does that. You know. I to go from that

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to having a positive six figure income passive income, and

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a positive six figure liquid network, not including my house.

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With including my house, I'm well into the six figures,

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but I don't include my house because I want to.

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I want to be raw and authentic, like I built cash,

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you know, I have cash investments and things that are

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liquid that I can quickly turn to cash if I

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need to. And that's a huge to me. That's huge.

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And so I just want to show people what's possible

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if you believe it, because if everybody around you is

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it has a poor mindset. They don't believe it's possible.

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For them, they're not going to get anywhere because it's

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they were just born to the wrong family, they were

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born in the wrong skin color, they were born in

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the wrong neighborhood, and that's I don't doubt that there

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are challenges. I one hundred percent I agree there are

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challenges that are real. However, if you believe that that's

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going to be your life forever, then you're you've done

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yourself a disservice. There are examples of people from every

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walk of life, every skin color, every disability, every everything,

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that have gone on to have great success. So my

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opinion is that the first step is awareness and then

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changing your perspective a little bit and getting to know

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what's possible, not just for you, but for people around you.

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Because I'm telling you that there's a psychological term monology,

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but I don't know how technical we want to get.

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But in psychology there's something called the locus of control.

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People with an external locus of control believe that everything

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around them is what controls their life, like there's no

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they have nothing, very little they can do to change

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their environment because everything out there, the man, the government,

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that whatever, it's all happening to them, it's all happening

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to me. God just doesn't love me, you know what

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A kind of a thing. And then there's those within

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an internal locus of control. And internal locus of control

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means I have the power, I can run my own ship,

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I can do this, I can get up and I

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can go and I like to partner with God with

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that my own personal life. Like, I know I have

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capability and I can do things, but I like to

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partner with God and say, Okay, God, let's do this

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together because then I usually, quite honestly, it magnifies what

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I do like a lot. And so I just recommend

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that for folks. And so meant I think awareness and

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changing your perspective and getting around people that are having

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success where you want to have success, so you believe

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it's actually possible.

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Well, there's that concept that made me think of you

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are the sum of the five people that you hang

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out with. So you, I mean, so you're in a

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terrible situation, go to the library and go get onto

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YouTube and look at YouTube videos of people that have

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been successful. I mean, there's always a way. I don't

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accept that there is absolutely no way that you can

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change the situation. So I agree, all right, So what

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are you think let's change into How do you start

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changing this situation? What would you say would be the

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first steps to take if you are serious about getting

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out of debt.

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Well, there's a funny story that I think. I don't

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know if anybody's familiar with whoever's listening to this might

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be may or may not be familiar with a guy

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named Alex Hermosi. Alex Hermosi is a business guy. He's

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a bootstrapper. He pulled himself up from living in his

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car to he's I think he's headed towards billionaire. Frankly,

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he's worth hundreds of millions, so that's a perfect He

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wears a tank top and a hat and long hair

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and a long beard. I mean, he's not the kind

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of guy that you'd normally think of as a as

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a multimillionaire hundreds of millions of dollars. And he was

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on a podcast recently that I was listening to, and

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he said, you know, if you're at rock bottom, you

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should have no shame, like go knock doors if you

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have to, like you're already at the bottom, Like you

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can't get worse. Yeah, we don't have shame, don't have

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any preconceived notions, and just get out there and work

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and go for it and do what you've got to do.

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And I think that's there's a lot of shame and

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guilt around money because we think we should have done better,

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we think we should be further along than we are.

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We think all these things, and it's like, and while

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that may be true, there's a reality to where you

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are that you could have done, should have done, and

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would have done better. But if you live your life

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and that could have, should have would a world you're

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going to be in. Ah oh, that's just no way

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to live. And so recognizing the problem is okay. Dwelling

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and maintaining and staying in the problem is not okay.

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Finding there's always a solution, and I would say the

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first step is just being honest with yourself. Do you

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have a problem with your money? Are you? And here's

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how you know? Do you have more money coming in

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than what's going out? Well, if you don't know what

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that is, that's the first step. You've got to figure

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out how much is coming in and how much is

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going out. If you have if there's a positive number,

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if you have more going out than coming in, just

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take a deep breath and realize that's the start. I

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need to cut my I need to either make more

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money or I need to cut my expenses, and probably

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both right there. Man.

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So the next thing you make me think of is

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I've had people say, well, I can't do whatever it is,

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and I'm like no, no, no, you need to turn

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that around and say how can I? And no matter,

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I don't care what it is, it's like, how can

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I do this or do that? And so it would

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probably be just how can I take that first step?

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So what would you say? Well, I was just going

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to say. One of the things I've told my kids

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my whole life is that in our family, we don't

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say the word I can't or the phrase I can't.

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We say I need help. And that's when you begin

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when you realize that every major, multimillionaire, everyone who's at

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any success in their life, almost everyone like I would

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say it's I don't. I hate using absolutes because you

464
00:24:14.359 --> 00:24:16.279
just never know that there's always that one person who

465
00:24:16.279 --> 00:24:18.839
did it right. But everybody that I know that has

466
00:24:18.880 --> 00:24:22.200
had major success in life did it with friends, family,

467
00:24:22.240 --> 00:24:26.119
and a team or mentors, some coach or something like that.

468
00:24:26.160 --> 00:24:28.440
Like the top football players in the world, the top

469
00:24:28.480 --> 00:24:30.960
baseball players in the world, the top fitness.

470
00:24:30.640 --> 00:24:33.519
They always talk about somebody else that helped them along

471
00:24:33.519 --> 00:24:33.759
the way.

472
00:24:33.839 --> 00:24:37.000
Yeah, mentors and coaches, And so you've got to take

473
00:24:37.000 --> 00:24:39.680
a deep breath and realize, look, I'm not doing if

474
00:24:39.680 --> 00:24:42.000
you always do what you've always done, You'll always get

475
00:24:42.000 --> 00:24:43.880
what you've always got. And if you don't like what

476
00:24:43.920 --> 00:24:51.160
you're getting, change what you're doing. That you have to

477
00:24:51.279 --> 00:24:52.359
somebody that's going to help you.

478
00:24:54.000 --> 00:24:58.079
So what would you say, Okay, so we're going to start,

479
00:24:58.359 --> 00:25:01.400
if we had to start as a ground zero, what

480
00:25:01.440 --> 00:25:04.599
would be a good system or a good habit that

481
00:25:04.640 --> 00:25:09.880
would help someone stay debt free? Because another little thing

482
00:25:09.920 --> 00:25:12.960
that I see happening to people is like they'll say,

483
00:25:13.799 --> 00:25:16.720
every time I try to get ahead, this happens or

484
00:25:16.720 --> 00:25:21.119
that happens. So what systems or habits would you say

485
00:25:21.160 --> 00:25:26.759
would be should be in place to help people stay

486
00:25:26.759 --> 00:25:29.160
out of debt and move forward.

487
00:25:31.640 --> 00:25:34.440
Well, I think the first thing to do is get

488
00:25:34.440 --> 00:25:38.880
a mental shift, because you have to realize that once

489
00:25:38.920 --> 00:25:41.920
you spend a dollar, that's it. You can't spend it again.

490
00:25:43.000 --> 00:25:47.519
And so what I it's a really hard place to start,

491
00:25:47.599 --> 00:25:49.640
but you have to start with your mindset. If you

492
00:25:49.799 --> 00:25:53.359
know that something costs one hundred dollars, you've got to

493
00:25:53.440 --> 00:25:57.559
discipline yourself to not and you only have one hundred dollars,

494
00:25:58.319 --> 00:26:00.720
you can't spend one hundred and ten. If you only

495
00:26:00.720 --> 00:26:03.000
have one hundred dollars, you shouldn't be spending one hundred

496
00:26:03.000 --> 00:26:04.599
and ten. Well, with credit cards, we can spend two

497
00:26:04.680 --> 00:26:07.960
hundred if we only have one hundred, or ten thousand

498
00:26:08.000 --> 00:26:09.599
if we only have one hundred. So you've got to

499
00:26:09.680 --> 00:26:12.880
realize that if I can't pay for it right now,

500
00:26:13.599 --> 00:26:16.759
I probably shouldn't buy it. And that's there's there's a

501
00:26:16.839 --> 00:26:19.279
huge mental shift in that. The next thing I would

502
00:26:19.319 --> 00:26:21.920
say is that you've got to build a positive cash flow,

503
00:26:22.440 --> 00:26:27.839
And that follows quickly after understanding that you're spending is

504
00:26:27.839 --> 00:26:31.599
what's really killing you in finances, and you've got to

505
00:26:31.640 --> 00:26:34.519
discipline you're spending. Freedom is on the other side of

506
00:26:34.559 --> 00:26:38.160
discipline in all areas of life, and especially financially. And

507
00:26:38.200 --> 00:26:40.119
so if you discipline your spending, you're going to have

508
00:26:40.119 --> 00:26:42.519
a positive cash flow. Now, if you have a positive

509
00:26:42.559 --> 00:26:44.839
cash flow, you might say, what now that I have

510
00:26:44.960 --> 00:26:46.519
Let's say let's say that I meet with you and

511
00:26:46.759 --> 00:26:49.359
we find an extra five hundred dollars a month in

512
00:26:49.400 --> 00:26:52.119
your budget, and you might be saying, with paris out,

513
00:26:52.160 --> 00:26:54.319
can you find I do it all day long? I

514
00:26:54.319 --> 00:26:56.839
can find at least five hundred is probably conservative. I'll

515
00:26:56.839 --> 00:26:59.319
probably find more that you're wasting. In other dumb things,

516
00:26:59.319 --> 00:27:01.119
you know, things that you're spending money on. I'm not

517
00:27:01.119 --> 00:27:03.200
talking about eating rice and beans after meeting with me.

518
00:27:03.240 --> 00:27:05.319
I'm talking about, like you, there's holes in your bank

519
00:27:05.319 --> 00:27:08.000
account that you need to patch up because there's money

520
00:27:08.039 --> 00:27:11.200
sifting through them like fast. And so when I sit

521
00:27:11.240 --> 00:27:13.279
down with somebody, I say, listen, now that you have

522
00:27:13.319 --> 00:27:15.599
a positive cash flow, what's the next thing you want

523
00:27:15.640 --> 00:27:17.319
to do? Almost invariably they say, I want to get

524
00:27:17.319 --> 00:27:20.079
out of debt. I'm like, okay, that's a great point. However,

525
00:27:21.079 --> 00:27:24.359
if you don't build an emergency fund first, if you

526
00:27:24.400 --> 00:27:26.480
have an emergency, you're going to go right back into

527
00:27:26.519 --> 00:27:29.480
debt and even worse. So my first, my first thing

528
00:27:29.640 --> 00:27:33.079
right after. So it's let's help you shift your mindset,

529
00:27:33.119 --> 00:27:35.559
like why are you in the situation you're in? Not

530
00:27:35.640 --> 00:27:38.680
from a judgmental place, but let's think about your habits,

531
00:27:38.720 --> 00:27:41.400
your behaviors, and your beliefs thus far, and let's figure

532
00:27:41.400 --> 00:27:43.880
out you know, when you see something that you absolutely

533
00:27:43.880 --> 00:27:45.680
have to have and you don't have the money for it,

534
00:27:46.160 --> 00:27:49.039
what causes you to still buy it even though you

535
00:27:49.079 --> 00:27:50.319
know you don't have the money for it. Why are

536
00:27:50.319 --> 00:27:53.599
you spending tomorrow's money today? And once we figure out

537
00:27:53.680 --> 00:27:55.920
kind of the go through that little process. Then it's

538
00:27:55.960 --> 00:27:58.759
finding a positive cash flow, and then it's the next

539
00:27:58.799 --> 00:28:01.279
thing is build a buffer. You've got to have a

540
00:28:01.319 --> 00:28:05.559
buffer between you and the emergency and Murphy and his laws.

541
00:28:05.759 --> 00:28:08.319
How about that right? And that buffer is my first

542
00:28:08.359 --> 00:28:14.880
step because I actually don't buy things. My mantra is

543
00:28:15.440 --> 00:28:21.079
spend yesterday's money today, not tomorrow's money. And that means

544
00:28:21.079 --> 00:28:23.000
you have to save up. I save up for things

545
00:28:23.000 --> 00:28:24.920
before I buy them. And that's a mental shift, and

546
00:28:25.000 --> 00:28:26.319
that's that's what keeps me.

547
00:28:27.759 --> 00:28:29.960
That's basically, yeah, you're making me think of you know,

548
00:28:30.039 --> 00:28:34.200
as I was rebuilding and rebuilding my life and starting

549
00:28:34.240 --> 00:28:40.400
over midlife, man, it was if I had to dip

550
00:28:40.440 --> 00:28:46.319
into my emergency cash, I did that. But then the

551
00:28:46.359 --> 00:28:50.000
first thing I would do would be to rebuild that yes,

552
00:28:50.400 --> 00:28:51.240
before moving on.

553
00:28:51.759 --> 00:28:53.559
M yep.

554
00:28:54.519 --> 00:28:57.480
So just to finish up this whole thing about debt

555
00:28:57.559 --> 00:29:02.359
and everything. Do you think there's emotional or psychologue blocks

556
00:29:03.279 --> 00:29:04.599
that keep people in debt?

557
00:29:05.039 --> 00:29:08.279
Oh? Absolutely, because you know, for example, let's say that

558
00:29:08.400 --> 00:29:12.160
you grew up and a family that was constantly struggling

559
00:29:12.240 --> 00:29:15.880
with money, and you always saw your friends getting the

560
00:29:15.960 --> 00:29:19.920
things they wanted but you never got what you wanted. Well,

561
00:29:19.960 --> 00:29:23.359
now that you're an adult and you're making money, you

562
00:29:23.480 --> 00:29:25.839
might have the delusion. And I'm going to use delusion

563
00:29:25.839 --> 00:29:27.799
because I'm using strong language here. You might have the

564
00:29:27.799 --> 00:29:30.599
delusion that thinks I deserve these things because I didn't

565
00:29:30.640 --> 00:29:32.680
get them when I was a kid, and now that

566
00:29:32.720 --> 00:29:35.559
I'm making money, I deserve to have them and I can.

567
00:29:35.960 --> 00:29:38.680
I will always be making money, that's the delusion. I

568
00:29:38.680 --> 00:29:40.799
will always be making good money, so I can afford

569
00:29:40.880 --> 00:29:42.680
to maintain it. I can stay on there. I can

570
00:29:42.720 --> 00:29:45.480
get on the treadmill and I can run because I'm

571
00:29:45.559 --> 00:29:47.720
healthy now and I can run, and I can run

572
00:29:47.720 --> 00:29:49.920
for a long time. Well, the problem with that is

573
00:29:49.960 --> 00:29:52.559
the treadmill of debt doesn't stop, and if you need

574
00:29:52.559 --> 00:29:54.359
a break or you need a rest, you don't get

575
00:29:54.359 --> 00:29:57.359
to stop. Like you still have to run. But people

576
00:29:57.400 --> 00:29:59.319
don't know that until about the twenty fifth mile and

577
00:29:59.319 --> 00:30:02.599
they're like, I a break, Sorry, no breaks, your dad.

578
00:30:03.599 --> 00:30:07.400
And so's that theme from a psychological need that started

579
00:30:07.440 --> 00:30:10.559
as a child. And then on the opposite side of it,

580
00:30:10.559 --> 00:30:13.279
maybe you got everything you always wanted, and maybe you

581
00:30:13.319 --> 00:30:16.240
always wanted to have everything, and so because your parents

582
00:30:16.279 --> 00:30:18.599
were wealthy, and now your mom and dad are like,

583
00:30:18.640 --> 00:30:20.839
all right, you're an adult, now go do it yourself.

584
00:30:20.920 --> 00:30:23.160
And so you believe that you always can buy anything

585
00:30:23.279 --> 00:30:25.359
because that's what you had as a kid. Like we

586
00:30:25.400 --> 00:30:27.519
just bought whatever car we wanted, we bought, whatever house

587
00:30:27.519 --> 00:30:29.440
we wanted, we bought. If we needed a treadmill, we

588
00:30:29.440 --> 00:30:32.160
bought it. If we needed supplements, if we needed a

589
00:30:32.200 --> 00:30:34.720
new whatever, a TV, we bought it. Because mom and

590
00:30:34.839 --> 00:30:38.200
dad were wealthy and had plenty. But you never gone,

591
00:30:38.240 --> 00:30:40.240
You didn't build the wealth to be able to do that.

592
00:30:40.319 --> 00:30:42.160
You just think that that came and that's part of

593
00:30:42.160 --> 00:30:44.480
your life. And so on the other side, and I'm

594
00:30:44.519 --> 00:30:47.279
generalizing here too, Benita, right, Like there's a lot of individuals.

595
00:30:47.359 --> 00:30:49.920
No, well, that's why you have somebody that built a

596
00:30:49.960 --> 00:30:53.559
business and then they don't do the work to train

597
00:30:53.680 --> 00:30:57.559
their family, and then and then the people that inherit

598
00:30:57.599 --> 00:30:58.759
that business destroy it.

599
00:30:59.279 --> 00:31:00.160
Yep, same thing.

600
00:31:00.319 --> 00:31:01.960
It happened several times.

601
00:31:02.440 --> 00:31:04.799
And so people get as adults. They either get into

602
00:31:04.839 --> 00:31:07.160
debt because they just feel like they deserve it because

603
00:31:07.160 --> 00:31:08.960
they didn't get it when they were a kid, or

604
00:31:09.000 --> 00:31:11.400
they get into debt because they deserve it because that's

605
00:31:11.400 --> 00:31:13.960
how they were raised as a kid with being able

606
00:31:13.960 --> 00:31:16.799
to buy anything, anything and everything all the time, anytime

607
00:31:16.839 --> 00:31:18.799
they want it, and they always want design or clothes

608
00:31:19.359 --> 00:31:23.079
and that, and when mom and dads money is not around,

609
00:31:23.240 --> 00:31:25.960
they don't have it, but they still think they do

610
00:31:26.039 --> 00:31:28.799
and so they end up getting into debt for that

611
00:31:29.119 --> 00:31:33.720
in that way.

612
00:31:31.799 --> 00:31:35.640
Well, what do you think? What do you think they're

613
00:31:35.640 --> 00:31:41.839
the most common financial habits that sabotage that long term success.

614
00:31:43.160 --> 00:31:45.319
And I can think, I mean, I'm looking at me

615
00:31:45.599 --> 00:31:51.319
because I know how after my you know, life changing

616
00:31:51.359 --> 00:31:54.880
divorce that I went through, I know how I sabotaged myself.

617
00:31:55.839 --> 00:31:58.440
But what do you think? How do what are the things?

618
00:31:58.440 --> 00:32:00.880
What do you think the habits are that's avatarge people.

619
00:32:02.440 --> 00:32:05.720
I think one of the major habits is, uh, they

620
00:32:05.799 --> 00:32:10.680
just they spend from almost as if it's like an addiction,

621
00:32:10.839 --> 00:32:13.599
like they just they spend. They just spend money. They

622
00:32:14.319 --> 00:32:16.599
need more, they feel like they need. There's an old

623
00:32:16.599 --> 00:32:18.240
saying that's kind of fun. I think I think you

624
00:32:18.359 --> 00:32:22.079
recognize it. It's like I think it's Oh, I'm gonna

625
00:32:22.119 --> 00:32:23.759
I'm not going to say it correctly. I'm sorry you

626
00:32:24.119 --> 00:32:26.160
might have to look it up and put it. But

627
00:32:26.160 --> 00:32:31.000
it's buy and buy, or don't you worry little want

628
00:32:31.079 --> 00:32:33.559
by and by you'll be a necessity or something like that.

629
00:32:33.960 --> 00:32:36.240
And so it's like, how many times do we we

630
00:32:36.599 --> 00:32:39.240
want something nice and we see our friend has the

631
00:32:39.279 --> 00:32:42.000
new iPhone and we don't really need the new iPhone,

632
00:32:42.000 --> 00:32:43.400
but our friend has it, and they're telling us all

633
00:32:43.359 --> 00:32:45.119
about all the features and benefits, and then all of

634
00:32:45.119 --> 00:32:47.960
a sudden, we now need it, like we don't just

635
00:32:48.039 --> 00:32:49.759
want it, we need it, like we've got to have

636
00:32:49.839 --> 00:32:52.559
those features and benefits. And so the habit of I

637
00:32:52.599 --> 00:32:56.200
think that's another habit that's that's that's critical. Another habit

638
00:32:56.279 --> 00:32:58.960
is not it's actually an anti habit, if you will,

639
00:32:59.000 --> 00:33:01.200
it's it's the habit of not tracking your money and

640
00:33:01.279 --> 00:33:05.559
not keeping it on top of your finances habit too,

641
00:33:05.880 --> 00:33:09.759
in my opinion, And so I believe that those are

642
00:33:09.799 --> 00:33:12.400
some of the some big habits that I think people

643
00:33:12.440 --> 00:33:17.079
sabotage themselves. Another one is another habit, is the habit

644
00:33:17.119 --> 00:33:20.839
of procrastination. I think the best time to invest is

645
00:33:21.079 --> 00:33:22.880
twenty years ago, but the next best time is to

646
00:33:23.440 --> 00:33:29.319
So people procrastinate investing, saving, looking at their money, just

647
00:33:29.559 --> 00:33:34.160
getting started with their financial lives. They'll procrastinate so far

648
00:33:34.680 --> 00:33:36.519
that it's almost like the decision is made for them

649
00:33:36.559 --> 00:33:38.920
at some point because now they don't they just don't

650
00:33:38.920 --> 00:33:44.119
have the time. And so stop procrastination is a superpower

651
00:33:44.200 --> 00:33:46.880
if you use it correctly and procrastinate the right things,

652
00:33:47.240 --> 00:33:49.519
but it's a complete curse to your family if you

653
00:33:49.559 --> 00:33:51.480
are procrastinating the wrong way.

654
00:33:53.000 --> 00:33:57.119
What do you think Let's talk about coaches and like,

655
00:33:57.200 --> 00:33:59.440
you know, I call myself an investor coach. You're tell

656
00:33:59.640 --> 00:34:02.799
calling yourself an educator and a coach. What do you

657
00:34:02.839 --> 00:34:07.200
think the role of is accountability? You know, partners, coaches,

658
00:34:07.839 --> 00:34:14.159
maybe apps? How do you think that plays in changing habits?

659
00:34:14.719 --> 00:34:18.079
So there was a study done in maybe I can

660
00:34:18.119 --> 00:34:20.239
find it really quickly, But there was a study done

661
00:34:20.320 --> 00:34:25.719
that was that talked about the accountability. Let me see

662
00:34:25.719 --> 00:34:30.639
if I can find it really quickly. So there was

663
00:34:30.760 --> 00:34:34.280
a study by the FCA, which is the American Society

664
00:34:34.320 --> 00:34:37.199
of Training and Development that said that if you have

665
00:34:37.239 --> 00:34:39.559
an idea or a goal, you have a ten percent

666
00:34:39.679 --> 00:34:42.960
likelihood of completing it just by having the idea. If

667
00:34:43.000 --> 00:34:46.559
you consciously decide that you'll do it, the goal goes

668
00:34:46.599 --> 00:34:50.360
from ten percent to twenty five percent. If you actually

669
00:34:50.920 --> 00:34:53.599
do it, you actually embark on it, you have a

670
00:34:53.639 --> 00:34:57.239
forty percent chance of completing it. If you create a

671
00:34:57.280 --> 00:34:59.840
plan to accomplish the goal, you now have a f

672
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.079
fifty percent chance of accomplishing the goal. If you commit

673
00:35:03.119 --> 00:35:05.960
to somebody else that you're going to do it, you

674
00:35:05.960 --> 00:35:08.280
have a sixty five percent chance. And here's the kicker.

675
00:35:08.760 --> 00:35:12.400
If you have a specific accountability a partner where you

676
00:35:12.440 --> 00:35:14.960
meet with him on a regular basis, it goes from

677
00:35:15.000 --> 00:35:18.400
sixty five percent to ninety five percent chance of accomplishing

678
00:35:18.440 --> 00:35:21.119
the goal. And that's because you have an accountability partner

679
00:35:21.119 --> 00:35:23.000
that you meet with regularly that helps you do that.

680
00:35:23.480 --> 00:35:26.159
And that's to me, that's the power or one of

681
00:35:26.159 --> 00:35:29.599
the powers secret powers of having a coach is do

682
00:35:29.639 --> 00:35:32.360
you have an accountability partner that gives you the I mean,

683
00:35:32.679 --> 00:35:35.119
to go from sixty five, which is pretty good, actually,

684
00:35:35.119 --> 00:35:37.159
sixty five percent chance of hitting your goal is pretty good.

685
00:35:37.320 --> 00:35:39.079
But to go from sixty five to ninety five, like

686
00:35:39.159 --> 00:35:41.920
every other increment was like ten or fifteen percent, that

687
00:35:42.199 --> 00:35:47.679
accountability regular appointed appointments, account with accountability partner coach jump

688
00:35:47.800 --> 00:35:50.440
thirty percent. That's the biggest jump in the whole list

689
00:35:51.000 --> 00:35:54.159
of increases. And I think that's that's just powerful having

690
00:35:55.199 --> 00:35:57.760
So I did a video. I have a YouTube channel

691
00:35:57.800 --> 00:35:59.639
and I do a video. I did a video recently

692
00:35:59.679 --> 00:36:02.159
on the day diference between a financial advisor, a financial planner,

693
00:36:02.199 --> 00:36:05.679
and a financial coach. And a financial advisor is going

694
00:36:05.760 --> 00:36:09.360
to be somebody that has typically their commission only and

695
00:36:09.400 --> 00:36:11.159
so they're going to want to sell you something to

696
00:36:11.199 --> 00:36:13.320
earn their living. And that's fine because we need to

697
00:36:13.360 --> 00:36:15.239
buy stuff. And that's totally cool as long as you

698
00:36:15.239 --> 00:36:18.639
know that a financial planner is going to develop a

699
00:36:18.679 --> 00:36:20.639
plan for you and then hand you the plans and

700
00:36:20.679 --> 00:36:24.199
say typically they'll say, good luck, here, here's the plane,

701
00:36:24.480 --> 00:36:26.519
here's where you are, here's where you're going. You know,

702
00:36:27.039 --> 00:36:29.840
go find the best way to do it. Where a

703
00:36:29.960 --> 00:36:32.000
coach is going to say, okay, let's take what the

704
00:36:32.039 --> 00:36:35.199
financial planner gave you, or let's create our own financial plan,

705
00:36:35.280 --> 00:36:37.079
because as a coach, I can help somebody find out

706
00:36:37.079 --> 00:36:38.840
where they want to go, find out where they are,

707
00:36:39.280 --> 00:36:41.360
look at the best route to get there, and then

708
00:36:41.400 --> 00:36:43.519
I can say look, as a coach, I will provide

709
00:36:43.559 --> 00:36:47.400
turn by turn directions, I will provide accountability, and I

710
00:36:47.440 --> 00:36:50.840
will help you along the way. I have an example

711
00:36:50.880 --> 00:36:52.239
one of my clients. They came to me when they

712
00:36:52.239 --> 00:36:54.559
first came to me, There, Paris, we keep getting into debt.

713
00:36:54.599 --> 00:36:56.039
We get into debt and then we get out of it,

714
00:36:56.079 --> 00:36:57.280
and then we get into debt and then we get

715
00:36:57.280 --> 00:36:58.840
out of it. And I'm like, how do I stop

716
00:36:58.840 --> 00:37:00.400
the cycle? I want to stay out of it, yet

717
00:37:00.559 --> 00:37:02.559
I want to get out and stay out. And then

718
00:37:02.599 --> 00:37:05.239
I said, perfect, let's go. And so in the first

719
00:37:05.320 --> 00:37:07.960
three months, we were able to pay off ninth Like,

720
00:37:08.000 --> 00:37:11.159
we didn't change much of their like, we disciplined their spending,

721
00:37:11.480 --> 00:37:12.800
and we were able to get them out of debt

722
00:37:12.800 --> 00:37:15.840
by about nine thousand dollars. And because of some of

723
00:37:15.960 --> 00:37:17.639
the things I shared with them, we were actually able

724
00:37:17.639 --> 00:37:20.119
to increase their overall networth by twenty thousand dollars just

725
00:37:20.119 --> 00:37:23.320
in three or four months. And they had a setback.

726
00:37:23.639 --> 00:37:26.079
Their car broke down and they literally had to buy

727
00:37:26.119 --> 00:37:29.719
a car. And they're like, Paris, all this progress is

728
00:37:29.760 --> 00:37:31.639
going to be lost because we have to buy a

729
00:37:31.639 --> 00:37:35.079
new car. Like not necessarily. There are strategies around how

730
00:37:35.079 --> 00:37:37.639
to do this, and so we did. We found a

731
00:37:37.639 --> 00:37:41.800
strategy that works, and they're actually their net worth did

732
00:37:41.840 --> 00:37:44.760
suffer some, but it still grew, it's the next month

733
00:37:44.760 --> 00:37:47.000
we retracted. It were like, let's just see, we were

734
00:37:47.039 --> 00:37:48.840
all kind of like biting our nails to see if

735
00:37:48.880 --> 00:37:51.559
their networth still went up, and it did. And so

736
00:37:52.199 --> 00:37:54.320
it's it's just really neat to be able to see

737
00:37:54.320 --> 00:37:56.559
those kinds of things happening. And that's what a coach

738
00:37:56.599 --> 00:37:59.480
can do, Like when an advisor, when if your car

739
00:37:59.519 --> 00:38:01.639
breaks down and you don't know how to fit that

740
00:38:01.679 --> 00:38:05.039
into your budget with with your savings account goals and

741
00:38:05.079 --> 00:38:07.639
your investment goals and your income and you're getting out

742
00:38:07.639 --> 00:38:10.000
of debt goals. Like when you have something that hits

743
00:38:10.039 --> 00:38:13.400
you from out of left field, what do you do well?

744
00:38:13.800 --> 00:38:15.679
I mean, chat, GPT might be able to help, and

745
00:38:15.760 --> 00:38:18.000
Google might be able to help. But what if you

746
00:38:18.000 --> 00:38:20.239
can call a guy. What if you have somebody's cell

747
00:38:20.239 --> 00:38:23.360
phone number, who's got twenty five years of experience, working

748
00:38:23.400 --> 00:38:27.320
with hundreds of people across who knows how many experiences,

749
00:38:27.679 --> 00:38:29.960
And I can just do my own my brain, my brain,

750
00:38:30.199 --> 00:38:32.119
I teach people, I said, my brain is like Google.

751
00:38:32.280 --> 00:38:34.639
It's a little slower, but my brain is like Google.

752
00:38:34.719 --> 00:38:37.039
If you put in a question, I'll and I know

753
00:38:37.079 --> 00:38:40.000
your situation. Yeah, I'll find you I'll find you two

754
00:38:40.119 --> 00:38:42.559
or three strategies that would work, and then I'll explain

755
00:38:42.599 --> 00:38:45.760
those strategies, and then we'll implement whichever one you feel

756
00:38:45.800 --> 00:38:48.320
the best about. And that's what a coach does. And

757
00:38:48.639 --> 00:38:51.119
a coach can be a financial advisor, and financial advisors

758
00:38:51.119 --> 00:38:53.079
can be coaches, and planners can be coaches and planners.

759
00:38:53.239 --> 00:38:55.920
You know, they all there are some there is some overlap,

760
00:38:56.360 --> 00:38:58.000
but I think really what a coach is going to

761
00:38:58.039 --> 00:39:00.480
help you do is implement. I have a friend who

762
00:39:00.559 --> 00:39:02.039
went to one of these planners, I think it was

763
00:39:02.079 --> 00:39:04.519
an American Express or one of these other ones. He spent

764
00:39:04.599 --> 00:39:06.760
like five or six hundred dollars, seven hundred eight something

765
00:39:06.800 --> 00:39:09.960
like that. He said, and he said, the guy sent

766
00:39:10.079 --> 00:39:11.599
gave me. After it was over, he gave me a

767
00:39:11.679 --> 00:39:15.239
leather bound, really nice grafts charts, a whole notebook and said, okay,

768
00:39:15.360 --> 00:39:17.440
have a great day, and I'm like thanks, you know,

769
00:39:17.840 --> 00:39:18.519
we wait to pay.

770
00:39:18.639 --> 00:39:18.840
You know.

771
00:39:19.159 --> 00:39:21.079
He was embarrassed because he didn't know what to do.

772
00:39:21.519 --> 00:39:22.880
And he's like, Paris, I have no idea how to

773
00:39:22.920 --> 00:39:25.840
implement any of this stuff. And that's like, well, you

774
00:39:25.960 --> 00:39:27.760
just spent seven hundred dollars and you have no idea

775
00:39:27.800 --> 00:39:29.440
how to do anything about it. Like, that's what a

776
00:39:29.480 --> 00:39:31.719
coach will help you do. A coach will help you

777
00:39:31.800 --> 00:39:33.920
implement it. And I feel like coaching is a newer,

778
00:39:34.519 --> 00:39:36.039
newer part of financial planning and.

779
00:39:37.519 --> 00:39:38.159
I agree.

780
00:39:38.440 --> 00:39:40.320
And because of that, not a lot of people know

781
00:39:40.360 --> 00:39:42.159
what we really do. Number one and number two, I

782
00:39:42.199 --> 00:39:44.000
think that not a lot of people actually realize that

783
00:39:44.079 --> 00:39:46.920
they need a coach before they needed an advisor and

784
00:39:46.960 --> 00:39:47.400
a planner.

785
00:39:48.159 --> 00:39:52.400
Yeah, well you make me think about, you know, my

786
00:39:52.559 --> 00:39:56.280
own experience. Just to kind of end up on the

787
00:39:56.320 --> 00:40:01.719
whole accountability and coaching, I have always I've hired different

788
00:40:01.760 --> 00:40:07.239
types of coaches throughout my life. Man, I have gone

789
00:40:07.320 --> 00:40:10.519
further and done more when I knew I had to

790
00:40:10.559 --> 00:40:13.480
talk to somebody, I knew that I had to report

791
00:40:13.519 --> 00:40:16.480
to somebody. And there's something about us, you know, it's

792
00:40:16.559 --> 00:40:19.440
that whole. Remember at the very beginning we were talking

793
00:40:19.440 --> 00:40:22.840
about looking good. Well, I didn't want to be embarrassed,

794
00:40:23.039 --> 00:40:25.039
you know. When it was time for me to talk

795
00:40:25.079 --> 00:40:27.719
to that coach, I was like, oh, I better get

796
00:40:27.760 --> 00:40:31.679
this done. But it would move me forward just a

797
00:40:31.840 --> 00:40:32.960
little bit at a time.

798
00:40:33.480 --> 00:40:38.239
Yes, progress, Progress is more important than perfection and the

799
00:40:38.280 --> 00:40:40.760
direction in which you're headed is more important than the

800
00:40:40.800 --> 00:40:43.400
speed at which you're headed. Although it's all those things

801
00:40:43.440 --> 00:40:47.199
are still important, But give yourself some grace and realize that, hey,

802
00:40:47.559 --> 00:40:50.320
all of us are here on this planet trying to

803
00:40:50.360 --> 00:40:52.360
figure it out. I've got a little more experience in

804
00:40:52.400 --> 00:40:54.880
this area. You got a little more experience in that area.

805
00:40:55.039 --> 00:40:57.119
Let's get together and share our experience and hopefully we'll

806
00:40:57.119 --> 00:40:58.880
both be edified at the end of it.

807
00:40:59.519 --> 00:41:04.039
Well, I always think, man, the time is going to go.

808
00:41:04.440 --> 00:41:07.400
You know, it'll be fine, but it always goes really fast,

809
00:41:07.800 --> 00:41:12.159
it does. I want to end up with what small

810
00:41:12.360 --> 00:41:17.840
consistent changes can really can lead to big results over time.

811
00:41:18.239 --> 00:41:22.440
What would you say would be those small consistent changes

812
00:41:22.480 --> 00:41:23.239
that you could take.

813
00:41:24.760 --> 00:41:27.039
So a lot of times people get as I share.

814
00:41:27.079 --> 00:41:28.559
I think I shared a little bit earlier in the

815
00:41:28.679 --> 00:41:31.320
podcast about how sometimes people feel like they're behind the

816
00:41:31.320 --> 00:41:34.719
e ball, like, oh my gosh, I'm forty years old

817
00:41:34.800 --> 00:41:38.480
and I just got started investing I need and then

818
00:41:38.519 --> 00:41:40.880
they do the calculators, you know, to be able to

819
00:41:41.039 --> 00:41:42.519
have the amount of money that I need by the

820
00:41:42.519 --> 00:41:44.880
time I'm sixty five, I need to be putting away,

821
00:41:45.039 --> 00:41:47.559
you know, five thousand dollars a month, they're like, that's

822
00:41:47.559 --> 00:41:50.000
my whole thing. I can't you know what I mean? Yeah,

823
00:41:50.199 --> 00:41:52.079
And so they're like, forget it, forget the whole thing.

824
00:41:52.559 --> 00:41:55.639
And so to me, it's more about the habit than

825
00:41:55.679 --> 00:41:58.599
it is about the amount of money. So one thing

826
00:41:58.639 --> 00:42:01.039
I would say is for sure is that start with

827
00:42:01.079 --> 00:42:03.760
what you can, even if it's only a dollar a month,

828
00:42:04.199 --> 00:42:06.639
because the habit of saving is more important than the

829
00:42:06.679 --> 00:42:11.719
amount you're saving. After you have developed the habit, you can,

830
00:42:11.880 --> 00:42:15.039
you'll find that you'll see the results and you'll say,

831
00:42:15.079 --> 00:42:18.119
oh my gosh, I've I've got ten dollars here. That's

832
00:42:18.199 --> 00:42:19.679
kind of cool. It works, you know, And then you'll

833
00:42:19.679 --> 00:42:21.480
save ten dollars a month. Then you'll save two hundred.

834
00:42:21.519 --> 00:42:24.320
Then before you know, you're saving hundreds of dollars a month,

835
00:42:24.440 --> 00:42:27.079
and you're actually way further along than you ever thought

836
00:42:27.119 --> 00:42:30.599
you'd be. And so to me, it's those It really

837
00:42:30.760 --> 00:42:34.599
does boil down to the small things. And so and

838
00:42:35.599 --> 00:42:38.320
on the flip side of that is you have to

839
00:42:38.360 --> 00:42:42.280
be very careful with the small things in your finances

840
00:42:42.320 --> 00:42:45.159
because it's the small expenses. It's the ten dollars here

841
00:42:45.199 --> 00:42:47.480
and the twenty dollars there that it's going to add

842
00:42:47.559 --> 00:42:50.559
up to hundreds of dollars every month. I have a

843
00:42:50.599 --> 00:42:53.519
great story in that I share with people about that

844
00:42:53.559 --> 00:42:55.719
how I learned that. That thing, and you know, ten

845
00:42:55.800 --> 00:42:57.920
or fifteen dollars, twenty dollars here and there can add

846
00:42:57.960 --> 00:43:01.159
up to hundreds of dollars. And if you're not careful.

847
00:43:01.239 --> 00:43:04.719
So that's another really habit that I would do is

848
00:43:04.719 --> 00:43:07.719
I would be I would be diligent with where your

849
00:43:07.719 --> 00:43:12.039
money's going. And that's to me, that's huge. And then

850
00:43:12.159 --> 00:43:14.519
and then the third thing I would say is spend

851
00:43:14.599 --> 00:43:17.400
time to educate yourself, because as you educate yourself and

852
00:43:17.440 --> 00:43:21.719
become more financially literate, your confidence will increase. Right now,

853
00:43:21.760 --> 00:43:23.760
some of the problems that you're having is because you

854
00:43:23.840 --> 00:43:26.400
don't know what you don't know. And if you just

855
00:43:26.519 --> 00:43:28.440
would learn a few things, you'd be like, oh, wait

856
00:43:28.440 --> 00:43:30.159
a minute, I could do that. You mean you mean

857
00:43:30.199 --> 00:43:33.239
I could do it this way and have a better result.

858
00:43:33.440 --> 00:43:35.280
Like most people think that there's only one way to

859
00:43:35.280 --> 00:43:38.480
get out of debt. I've got, like I know of personally,

860
00:43:38.559 --> 00:43:40.719
like eight or nine strategies that work to get out

861
00:43:40.719 --> 00:43:42.159
of debt. I don't use them all because some of

862
00:43:42.159 --> 00:43:45.519
them are really weird, But I've helped people with two

863
00:43:45.639 --> 00:43:47.360
or three or four, and we pick and choose, and

864
00:43:47.400 --> 00:43:49.960
we sometimes we implement and create our whole new strategy

865
00:43:50.039 --> 00:43:52.440
just because we pick them for pieces. So I think

866
00:43:52.440 --> 00:43:55.800
the small things about one, it doesn't matter how much

867
00:43:56.000 --> 00:43:59.519
you invest, it's the habit of investing and saving. Two,

868
00:43:59.679 --> 00:44:03.920
it's making sure that you're diligent with you with your expenses,

869
00:44:03.960 --> 00:44:06.639
because every ten dollars here and there can add up quickly.

870
00:44:07.079 --> 00:44:11.039
And then three is education. Every day, take fifteen or

871
00:44:11.079 --> 00:44:14.000
twenty minutes and just learn something new, watch a YouTube video,

872
00:44:14.480 --> 00:44:16.760
get a book, read a book that you know that's

873
00:44:17.119 --> 00:44:19.199
and read one chapter a day or something like that.

874
00:44:19.320 --> 00:44:21.559
Just do something every day to become more financially literc

875
00:44:21.639 --> 00:44:24.280
is that will increase your confidence and you begin to

876
00:44:24.320 --> 00:44:26.079
know things that you don't know now that will help

877
00:44:26.119 --> 00:44:28.880
you and increase and everything will accelerate as you as

878
00:44:28.920 --> 00:44:29.719
you get that education.

879
00:44:31.639 --> 00:44:34.440
Well, and with that, we need to wrap this up,

880
00:44:35.639 --> 00:44:38.480
so I want to make sure that everyone realizes that

881
00:44:39.760 --> 00:44:44.000
on the podcast website there's the bonus downloads and information

882
00:44:44.079 --> 00:44:46.039
on how to get a hold of Paris will be there.

883
00:44:47.320 --> 00:44:50.400
And so I would love to just thank you so

884
00:44:50.480 --> 00:44:52.280
much for being here with us. This was such an

885
00:44:52.320 --> 00:44:56.239
important thing. Most people need to you know, maybe they're

886
00:44:56.239 --> 00:44:58.599
already on this road, but they need to rehear this

887
00:44:58.840 --> 00:45:03.039
in a different way, from a different perspective. And so

888
00:45:03.320 --> 00:45:05.599
thank you so much for joining us today on the

889
00:45:05.639 --> 00:45:07.280
Ask Good Questions podcast.

890
00:45:07.760 --> 00:45:09.639
Thank you so much for having me. It's been a pleasure.

891
00:45:09.719 --> 00:45:12.360
All right, thanks for being here.

892
00:45:15.760 --> 00:45:19.360
Today's episode is over, but we did ask Good Questions again,

893
00:45:19.480 --> 00:45:23.159
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894
00:45:23.159 --> 00:45:27.119
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895
00:45:27.280 --> 00:45:31.159
at W fourcy dot com. Joined Banina Bellen. We're saying

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897
00:45:36.079 --> 00:45:40.599
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898
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