March 25, 2026

Master Your Growth: The Habits, Mindset, and Daily Choices That Change Everything

Master Your Growth: The Habits, Mindset, and Daily Choices That Change Everything
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Season 2

If you’ve ever felt stuck between knowing what to do and actually doing it, this conversation is for you. Agi Keramidas joins us to unpack the major themes of Personal Development Mastery, with practical wisdom on purpose, emotional mastery, gratitude, mindset, and living well. At the heart of the episode is a deeper discussion of chapter 8, where we explore how sustained self-awareness and intentional action can help you grow into the person you’re meant to become.

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six pm Eastern Time on W four CY Radio at

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w four cy dot com. This week and every week,

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we will reach for a higher purpose in money and life,

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as well as a focus on health and wellness. Now,

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let's join your host, Anita bel Anderson, as together we

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start with Asking Good Questions.

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Hey, and welcome to the Ask Good Questions Podcast. I

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am your host, Benita bell Anderson, and I am so

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happy that you have joined us today. We have got

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a fantastic show with a real pro in the development

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personal development field that is just going to be a

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fascinating thing. Here for us. So with that, I would

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like to invite doctor Aggie Karamides. Oh boy, boy, I

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hope I said that right?

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Yes?

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Did I pronounce that right? Ai?

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Very nice, very nice, well done.

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So I'm so excited to have him. I met him

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because of a group of people that do podcasting and

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it's called Podmatch, and I met him because of him

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doing a training like a webinar training for people that

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do podcasts, and so I was so excited. He's actually

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in the U. We were playing with time zones today

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because I'm still in Hawaii. My engineer is in Florida,

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and Aggie is in the UK. So with that, let

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me tell you a little bit about him. He's originally

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from Greece and based in the UK since twenty ten,

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so you've been there for a while now, sixteen years.

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So he's the host of the Personal Development Mastery podcast,

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which has over five hundred episodes. You've been doing it

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for a while, and he ranks in the global top

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one percent. He's had the privilege of interviewing more than

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three hundred thought leaders, including Brian Tracy and Mark Victor Hansen,

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who I have done a lot of things with, and

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doctor John de Martini as well as inspiring individuals from

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all walks of life. Interesting random fact about him is

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he once guarded a willbarrow full of hot calls at

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a Tony Robbins event. I know that I did. I

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did the hot call walking on hot calls at a

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Harvecker event one time back in the day.

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Mm hm hmmmm. It's a great experience.

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Yes, I was very surprised. So do you want to

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add anything to that?

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Thank you for the introduction, and it's great to be

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here if you're asking me to add something to the

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will barrow food and full of hot coals. It was

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part of my I was volunteering as a crew at

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that time and we were responsible for organizing setting up

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the firework, which means, you know, the hot coals that

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people walk on. So it was my responsibility that time

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to guard that will burrow because there were lots of

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people around and it could become dangerous if I got

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this tame. So that's the story behind it.

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Wow, well how long did you do that?

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How long? The pharaoh lasts a few hours to three hours,

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so something like that. It took me up. Yeah, I

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was doing that for about a couple of hours.

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Yeah, yeah, well, okay, so we are going to talk

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about a book you've written. That book is called eighty

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eight Actionable Insights for Life, Discover the Secret Shared by

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Experts on Personal development Mastery. So I feel like you're

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a little bit of like Napoleon Hill going out and

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interviewing people.

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Thank you very much for the analogy. It is quite

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I understand that, and I will go past your very

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flattering comment about Napoleon Hill. The viewing people is one

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of the best ways to gain knowledge about a topic

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that you want to gain knowledge about. You're already doing it,

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Bunita with the podcast, and so was I with my podcast.

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So it was only a matter of time before all

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these interviews at that time started to create the needs

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inside me that I need to do something else with

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them rather than just the audio content. So then I

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took the time to organize some of that content, put

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it into categories, and eventually turn into a book.

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Right, awesome, Well, what first led you to this whole

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idea of personal development work and why did you feel

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you know, so, did you feel like you were starting

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to get something that needed to get out there?

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As a matter of fact, it started because I needed

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answers for myself. It was not about getting anything out there.

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It was about me trying to understand what was happening

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with me. And that was about ten eleven years ago.

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I had just finished a master's degree. My professional what

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I trained to be with a dentist. So I had

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just at that time finished the master's degree in dentistry,

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and I found myself in a very strange position where

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after two years of studying, lots of expenses and so on,

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I didn't feel like I wanted to do any of

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that sophisticated advanced dentistry. I had lost my motivation. At

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that time, I was just entering my forties. So I'm

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sure that this also had something to do with it,

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this midlife rization. Yes, so I tend to personal development

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to find answers for myself because I wanted to understand

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what is happening with me? Why am I not content

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and happy with what I've been doing? What is it

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that I want to do? And you know, I started

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reading books, I went to seminars. One thing led to

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the other, but it was in the beginning. It was

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an inner quest, desire to understand what was happening within me.

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Way before it turned into you know, podcast or expressing

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those things outwardly.

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Wow, that's that's quite something, because, you know, being a

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financial advisor, I've worked with a lot of datas and

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I've actually seen just I don't know, I maybe want

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to just call it the ankst. I mean, there can

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be a lot going on with that profession. Well, let's

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turn a little bit more to you know, just this

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whole idea of just people and what they want to do.

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Why do you think so many people know what they

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want but they still struggle to achieve it.

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I think knowing what to do and doing it are

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two different things. So I think the answer to your

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question lies in the second bit. Many As you said,

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many people, if not most people know what to do,

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but they don't do what they know. There is the

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struggle immediately, because knowledge without the application of the knowledge

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does not progress one's life. Or, to use a phrase

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that I like very much, to know and not to

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do is really not to know.

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Yeah, right, that is so true. Well do you think

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you've found that people often as underestimate how much they're

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energy or their habits. I think probably habits and their

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physical well being affect their mindset and their progress.

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I suppose they do. Sometimes they do underestimate the habits,

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the energy level. All these things play a big role

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in how we think, and how we think affects how

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we feel. How we feel affects what decisions and actions

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will take, and the latter really affects the results that

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we will have. So if we start our day, for example,

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being tired because we didn't sleep well, and that's because

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perhaps we had two three glasses of wine in the

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previous night, then inevitably the results that we will produce

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in that day will be inferior to the same day,

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all the other factors being equal well, but having the

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top energy, mental, energy, clarity, all these things that come

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with health would generally like that to do stuff and

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be more inspired. It's it's a combination of accent. I

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think it's a cornerstone being healthy, being energetic, having this

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kind of a clear mental and physical position. If I

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can that from which we can operate.

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Right, well, I totally get that. I feel like, if

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I don't feel right, I am not going to be on.

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I'm not going to be the best at whatever I'm

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doing that day.

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No, I'm just not.

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So there is Actually, as I have been reading your book,

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I was completely drawn to chapter eight, and so that's

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where we're going to spend We've we've already we're already

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eleven minutes into our podcast here and so but we're

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going to spend most of the rest of the time

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on chapter eight and those principles. So what is it

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really and so the name that the chapter heading is

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master your Personal Development? What does it really mean to

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you agi to master your personal development?

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This is a It's a great question to start with,

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because my understanding of what this is has changed over

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the years. Initially, I thought that mustading personal development would

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be like mustered in something extended, like mastered in a

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musical instrument, or mastered in a foreign language or something

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like that. In other words, reaching a stage or a

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level where your comprehension of understanding and ability to practice

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that is at a superior level. What I realized after

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a point in my own journey, and that is my

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understanding up to now, is that the mastery of personal

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development is not a destination. It is not an end point,

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It is not something to be achieved as such. Rather

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than that, it is a constant, continuous perhaps rather than constant,

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a continuous art of improving ourselves, perfecting towards a vision

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that we want or we have said.

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It is not a destination. It is a journey. And

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that journey consists of every single day, really every passing hour,

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I would even say every moment that constitutes the journey.

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So master in the personal development. Our personal development means

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breaking it down and master in the day, master in

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the hour, master.

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In the moment, through every moment. Right, Well, you kind

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of start that chapter with reprogramming your subconscious mind. I

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think that what you just said has a lot to

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do with reprogramming yourself so that you keep going, right.

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I think you know, in order to reprogram, as you say,

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there is before that. Before we reach that level, we

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have to understand first what is happening and how our

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subconscious mind operates, and how it influences, if not commands,

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but certainly influences everything that we do or the decision

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we make, all the even the things that we speak,

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the all the things, all those things are directed by

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the subconscious mind. And to the very large extent this

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happens well as the world says subconsciously, we are not

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aware of it. In such so we think we are

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and we think that we are being aware in you know,

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doing an action or saying a comment or whatever else

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it is. But more often than not, this is not

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the case. We're not aware of it. It happens automatically

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without the you know, the intervention of our conscious mind

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at that moment. So I think that is the fundamental

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level what we need to understand before we even discuss

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about reprogramming it or anything like that.

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Right, well, so let's start with that minimum morning routine.

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What's your minimum morning routine when you first wake up?

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What's what? What? What do you think?

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I like the term like minimum morning routine, and that

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came because for many people morning routine meant and also

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for me in the beginning, a huge list of tasks

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for activities that need to be done in the morning.

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So meditate, do this, do that, exercise, journaling, gratitude, blah

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blah blah, which could take easily over an hour, which

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is fine if you have an hour in the morning.

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Most people don't have the luxuries, i well say, of

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having one hour in the morning completely to themselves to

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do whatever they So a minimum routine. The concept of

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the minimum routine means for me that yes, I could

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do all these things and spend one hour. And actually

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sometimes I do. When I have the time, I do it,

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but often I don't have the time, so I do

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compress or eliminate some elements and only keep the bear

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essentials for that particular day. And if you were to

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ask me, which are for me the better sense? So

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one of them is meditation that has been a cornerstone

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of my morning routine for many years, many years over

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a decade, journaling where I write down a few things

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about how I'm feeling or what I'm grateful for, or

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even look through my day so that I am prepared

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in a way you know, I'm aware, I'm prepared of

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what I need to do, and some form of physical exercise,

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which depends on on the time. It can be as

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quick as a ten minutes yoga practice, which I can

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do and it really helps, or it can be you know,

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if I have the time, I can go out and

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have a run for half an hour. So it all depends.

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But the minimum are some things that are in a

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way non negotiable for me that even if I only

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have ten minutes or fifteen minutes available, I will squeeze

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those things in to the best way that I can.

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Well you, I mean, it looks like you have ten elements,

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so you've mentioned what three of them? What are the

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other ones then if you know besides that, if you

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had the time.

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Yes, ten elements. One of them now I'm trying to remember.

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One of them was to hydrate, have water, which.

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they wake up, which is wrong for many reasons. But

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let's not go into that yet. One other thing on

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another element, very important? What else is it now, I'm

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trying to think which runs I've said, Oh, the very

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very first one, which I believe it's very important, is

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when the alarm goes off, get out of the bed,

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do not snooze, do not press the snooze button, do

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not do anything like that. And there is a very

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simple reason for that. This is the first decision you're

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making the day. So if the first decision you make

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the day is one of comfort, let me snoos for

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another ten minutes, like you need ten minutes after a

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seven hour sleep, which it doesn't make sense. We do

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it because it is a matter of comfort, you know,

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and warm and comfortable. But that decision sets the tone,

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whether we are aware of it or not. It sets

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the tone for other decisions that we will take. So

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when we start a day like this, then further down

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the line, when we are more tired in the day,

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it's easier to take the decision that is comfortable rather

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than the right thing to do.

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Okay, interesting, Well, another concept that you talk about is

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expose yourself to the worst case scenario. Is that, like,

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what's the worst thing that could happen today? What does

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that mean? AIGI?

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I remember that particular chapter from the book was from

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a guest that I had who was he had a

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starter and he was a TEDx speaker, which is, you know,

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on many levels this doesn and he was actually he

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delivered the speech while having the stutter, and he was

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telling me that exposing himself to the worst case scenari

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and I'm using his as an example because that's how

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I have written it in the book, was to actually

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speak to people that he didn't know and say, look,

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I have a stuted and being exposed to the potential

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ridicule that they might have, or if there were you know,

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young people they would laugh at him or things like that.

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But what he realized was that after he had done it,

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he felt empowered because he didn't die, nothing bad happened

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to him. The only thing that really happened afterwards was

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that he felt better about himself that he could do that,

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and he would not care, or at least he would

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not care to such an extent about what other people

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would tell him. So that is, you know, a practical

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example that I mentioned in my book, But it can

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be more theoretical if you want, I mean, if you

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want to visualize. And actually, now that I say visualize,

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that was also one of the ten elements that you

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asked about the day. You could visualize the worst case

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scenario or something bad that might happen, and that is

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not you know, to attract it and make it happen.

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If only we could do that like this, it would

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be a very different situation. We can't anyway, but we

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can prepare mentally for something bad that might happen. So

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if that happens, it does not cuts as it does

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not grab us by surprise. They're not catch us by surprise,

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so we have more had the opportunity to process it

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and think about some potential outcome from some potential responses

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that we might have.

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Yeah, so you're you're a little bit prepared. Well, you say,

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you talk about changing your life with a simple five

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minutes a day tool. What might that five minutes a

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day too? Will be?

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Bonita will have to help me out here now, because

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it is something specifical on the book that I don't

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remember which five minute tool you mean. There are many

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five minute tools.

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Five minute tools. Okay, Well, you know, I think the

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one thing that stops people a lot is limiting beliefs.

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And and basically one of the things you said is

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look at your limiting beliefs rather than look through them,

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which I think is interesting because my belief is that

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sometimes we don't even know what our limiting beliefs are.

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That's true. And the best analogy that I can think

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of limited beliefs, it's like a pair of glasses of

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spectacles that we look through them, and most of the time,

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and anyone who wears glasses, or perhaps if you wear

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sunglasses or anything like that, most of the time you

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are not aware that there. You just look through them.

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You see whatever it is that you see, and you

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take that as the you know, your visual perception to

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your your image. You do not look at the actual lens,

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at the frame. So this is a similarity that are

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limiting beliefs or I believes in general, have because they

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filter or they change the way that we see things

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depending on what kind of beliefs there are. So if

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there are glasses, for example, if I have these glasses,

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or if I put a pair of dark glasses, all

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of a sudden, everything will look dark, and that's probably

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the time that I realized that something has changed. But

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if I keep on wearing my sunglasses day in, day out,

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sooner or later this will become the normal for me.

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I will forget that there are sunglasses there, and I

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will believe that this dark tint that I see everywhere

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around me is how things are. So that is a

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great analogy to consider when we're thinking about our beliefs

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and our limited belief in particular. There is one example

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that I have that in the book as well, and

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it makes me I would say that because I think

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it is very clear. It made a big impact on

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me the first time I heard that. And it is

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two people, two friends, walking down the street. One of

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them loves dogs, the other one is terrified of dogs,

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and they're going around walking chatting about something, and all

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of a sudden a dog starts running towards them. So

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the situation, the external situation, is objectively the same. There

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are two people and the dog running towards them. Subjectively, though,

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those two people who have a very different experience of

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reality and the experience of that situation. One person would

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feel really happy that there is a dog come in

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and perhaps he wants to you know, pet him or whatever.

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The other person will be scared, terrified, and not only

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in his not only mentally, also his body. If he

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feels scared, then there will be a physical response to that.

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different beliefs. There the same exact situation, two completely different

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internal representations or internal understandings of reality or experiences of reality.

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Well, if that person who's freaked out about the dog,

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how do they begin if they become aware that they

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want to change that? What would you say? Say? It

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would be the first thing that they would need to

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do to start changing that. If they're realizing, Okay, this

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is stupid, don't I don't want to be scared like this?

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How would they start changing that? I guess basically, another

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another thing from this chapter is overcoming. You're limiting beliefs.

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For sure, and I wish there was some simple answer

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that I could, you know, share right now in one

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minute and say this is how you reprogram your subconscious mind, Bonita.

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When I find that very simple and effective models, I

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will get back to you and share it with the world.

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But well, it is I think awareness. Many awareness the

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first is the first step.

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Awareness the first step for sure, because if I become

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aware that I'm afraid of dogs and I want to

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change that, that would lead me to look for solutions.

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If I'm not aware of it, or if i don't

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mind it, or if I accept that as part of

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who I am, that this is who I am and

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I'm afraid of dogs and period, then there is little

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chance of you know, taking some action in order to

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change that belief.

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Well, talk to me about self sabotage, because I think

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probably if you have those limited believes, you're going to

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self sabotage yourself. You're not going to take some actions,

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You're not going to do some things that can move

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you forward. Isn't that correct?

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For sure? And self sabotage happens, I think to most

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of us, or at least it wants to happen, and

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that's it. It reminds me of what I said earlier

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about you know, putting the present the snooze button before

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when the alarm goes off. That is, in a way

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a form of self sabots provided that you know, you

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had some plans for your day and that's why you

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set your alarm at a certain time, so you wanted

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to do it, but you are not doing it by snoozing.

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Therefore you are self sabot dozing. And you know with

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self sabotize what comes up now that you're asking me

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about this is a tendency to stay in our comfort

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zone one way or another, or a tendency to avoid

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doing something that will be uncomfortable or be fearful, or

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be potentially you know, could be It depends on what

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it's person's limiting beliefs are that will be challenged or pushed.

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So the self sabot dosing is a very nice disguise,

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because I'm saying disguise because we don't usually call it

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self sabots. So if we do something that prevents us

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from growing or taking some kind of action out of

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the comfort zone, we don't necessarily call it self subbort

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as we find our mind has a way of rationalizing

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it very well and giving us a great you know reason,

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or it presents them as regions even though they ex

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chooses really but it presents us real solid revisions why

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what we chose to do is the right thing to do,

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and we won't be in trouble and we can carry on.

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But when you look at it objectively, or perhaps when

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someone else helps you to see it objectively, because it

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is more difficult to be objective about ourselves. So when

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we look at that from a different perspective, then we realize, yes,

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it is self sabotage. Because you know, I had the opportunity,

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for example, to go to a guest go as a

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guest to a podcast like this, and I didn't right

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at the time, but I felt and I don't know

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why I'm giving this example, but anyway, it is probably

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because we're both podcasters. But any similar situation where we

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avoid doing something that would challenge us in a way

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or another, and instead we do what is familiar, what

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is comfortable, what is not challenging us. This is, you know,

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in a simple form, the self sabotage. I mean, it

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can go way much deeper than that. But I feel

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more prone to share this more subtle expression of self

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subotage rather than you know, something that is very clear,

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like an intend heavy drinking. That is a different form

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of self which is more easy to observe, perhaps, but

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there are more subtle levels than that that it would

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be useful to be aware of.

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Right, Well, there's another I think there's a related concept,

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and that is something else you'd mentioned about noticing your

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autopilot response. I think that we can have an autopilot

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response towards avoiding discomfort, you know, self sabotagy, or or

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if you feel like you want to move yourself forward,

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maybe your autopilot response is going to be, Hey, I'm

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going to try that. So what's your what's your feeling

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about this whole idea of an autopilot response.

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The autopilot response goes back to we were talking about

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subconscious and that is how I perceive the autopilot response

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is something that happens habitually. Response or a habit or

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an action that we do that we do not take

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the time or they have the awareness in the moment

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to process it and filter it before it is expressed,

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before it is taken as an action. So I don't

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know if that answers answers your questions. Rather well, it's

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a complex thing and I'm trying the best way to,

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you know, describe it as simply as I can.

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I'm just I'm just going to encourage everyone to read

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this book because there is a lot there, and basically

468
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we're kind of skimming the surface. But I think one

469
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of the things that I completely agree with that you

470
00:33:54.279 --> 00:33:58.279
say in this chapter is your beliefs and perceptions create

471
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your reality. I think that is like one of those

472
00:34:03.319 --> 00:34:11.199
foundational things that whatever you believe, whatever you perceive, that's

473
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going to be a reality. Right.

474
00:34:13.400 --> 00:34:16.079
It's that example with the dog again, isn't it. I mean,

475
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what you perceive if you perceive that dogs are evil

476
00:34:21.920 --> 00:34:25.440
creatures that want to hurt you, and that you might

477
00:34:25.519 --> 00:34:29.039
have some really good reasons for doing that, because perhaps

478
00:34:29.119 --> 00:34:31.559
there is a dog bait you as a child, and

479
00:34:31.639 --> 00:34:36.440
you keep on carrying that. But that is a clear

480
00:34:36.519 --> 00:34:40.599
example of how our perception and our belief our beliefs

481
00:34:40.960 --> 00:34:46.039
determine our reality or how we experience our reality. Because

482
00:34:46.119 --> 00:34:51.639
reality is something completely individual to its its person. It

483
00:34:51.760 --> 00:35:01.760
is not one objective reality. Our reality is very very subjective. Right.

484
00:35:02.119 --> 00:35:04.920
Well, one of the things I'm thinking about the whole

485
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thing with getting out of bed and getting your day started. Right.

486
00:35:08.840 --> 00:35:14.519
Another concept there is the power of proximity. So using

487
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the power of proximity to your advantage. I'm thinking like, well,

488
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if you have your running clothes out and your shoes

489
00:35:19.840 --> 00:35:21.960
are laid out and everything's ready to go, then you're

490
00:35:21.960 --> 00:35:24.599
more prone. Is that kind of like what you're thinking

491
00:35:24.760 --> 00:35:29.920
is the power proximity would be set yourself up to

492
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do the things you want to do.

493
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That certainly helps. I think in the context that have

494
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in the book about the power of proximity was the

495
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proximity with other people like peers or mentors or coaches,

496
00:35:47.159 --> 00:35:53.239
this kind of proximity. But to go back to your example, Yes,

497
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if you plan on running, for example, the next day,

498
00:35:58.039 --> 00:36:02.119
having the running shoes the clothes right next to the door,

499
00:36:02.639 --> 00:36:08.400
it's a very great facilitator of that, right, because it

500
00:36:08.559 --> 00:36:13.119
removes an excuse that you could use now I need

501
00:36:13.159 --> 00:36:15.199
to find my shoes. I need to do that, so

502
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it removes that. And I will add, since you mentioned that,

503
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I will add one more trick, if I can call

504
00:36:21.599 --> 00:36:25.239
it like that. Let's say that the previous day you

505
00:36:25.320 --> 00:36:29.679
were planning to run three miles or five kilometers or

506
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whatever it is that you had planned to run, and

507
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then the next day, despite having put the shoes next

508
00:36:35.960 --> 00:36:40.079
to the door, you don't feel like it. And I mean,

509
00:36:40.079 --> 00:36:42.840
I'm raising my hand here because I have been there

510
00:36:42.920 --> 00:36:47.920
many times, really don't feel like it. The trick is

511
00:36:49.079 --> 00:36:52.199
to say to yourself, Okay, I'm just going to go

512
00:36:52.239 --> 00:36:54.800
out and run. I'm not going to run the three

513
00:36:54.840 --> 00:36:57.039
miles that I had said I would do. I will

514
00:36:57.119 --> 00:36:59.880
only going to run once around the block and go back.

515
00:37:00.559 --> 00:37:04.800
This really lowers the threshold of resistance because running for

516
00:37:06.039 --> 00:37:10.039
three or five minutes is something that the mind finds

517
00:37:10.079 --> 00:37:12.519
it more difficult to say no, no, no, you can't

518
00:37:12.559 --> 00:37:18.280
do even that. And what happens, from my experience usually

519
00:37:18.440 --> 00:37:21.519
is that once you are out and you have tricked

520
00:37:21.599 --> 00:37:24.199
your mind into you know, I'm just going to go

521
00:37:24.320 --> 00:37:29.760
for half a mile or whatever, then you find because

522
00:37:29.760 --> 00:37:32.679
you start to feel good, you end up doing what

523
00:37:32.719 --> 00:37:35.440
you had said that you would do. Yeah, maybe you

524
00:37:35.480 --> 00:37:37.880
have to trick a little bit. Our mind tricks us

525
00:37:37.960 --> 00:37:39.880
all the time, so it's good to be able to

526
00:37:39.920 --> 00:37:42.800
trick it back with some techniques like this.

527
00:37:43.000 --> 00:37:47.679
Yeah, that is absolutely true. I have found that so

528
00:37:47.840 --> 00:37:51.599
often and if I just get started, then I'll do Oh,

529
00:37:51.679 --> 00:37:55.960
I can keep going, right. So you you talk about

530
00:37:56.000 --> 00:37:58.199
a mastermind, And one of the things I got to

531
00:37:58.239 --> 00:38:02.159
tell you, Agie, is that I started my podcast in

532
00:38:02.239 --> 00:38:07.079
twenty twenty four, and before that I had a limiting

533
00:38:07.119 --> 00:38:10.760
belief that, oh, I can't do that, And then I

534
00:38:10.800 --> 00:38:14.960
actually had a mentor who said, well why not you,

535
00:38:14.960 --> 00:38:16.719
you know, and look at all the experience you have

536
00:38:16.800 --> 00:38:19.480
and all that, and so I just decided to start.

537
00:38:19.679 --> 00:38:21.920
And it's one of those things where I just kind

538
00:38:21.920 --> 00:38:27.119
of kept going one step at a time. And now

539
00:38:27.320 --> 00:38:29.239
the reason that I met you was because of the

540
00:38:29.280 --> 00:38:33.159
Mastermind group that's within pod match and other people that

541
00:38:33.239 --> 00:38:37.000
are doing this sort of thing. So what has been

542
00:38:37.039 --> 00:38:41.079
your experience with mastermind groups?

543
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What comes to my mind now that you ask that

544
00:38:45.960 --> 00:38:53.039
and think for the question is that then there's some

545
00:38:53.639 --> 00:38:58.679
I will use a quote, now there's some The is shorty.

546
00:38:58.800 --> 00:39:01.880
I want to say the again, the total in this

547
00:39:02.000 --> 00:39:05.679
case of the intelligence of the people in the mastermind,

548
00:39:06.400 --> 00:39:10.400
the total is more than the sum of each individual,

549
00:39:11.840 --> 00:39:14.480
of the sum of the people. And what I'm trying

550
00:39:14.519 --> 00:39:17.880
to think, I'm a bit confusion. Now, what I'm trying

551
00:39:17.960 --> 00:39:21.599
to say is that and that has been also my

552
00:39:21.719 --> 00:39:27.639
experience with mastermind groups that often there are things that

553
00:39:27.760 --> 00:39:33.239
are said, all solutions that are being presented that people

554
00:39:33.320 --> 00:39:36.480
look at each other and say, wow, okay, this was

555
00:39:36.679 --> 00:39:39.760
Where did that come from? Yeah, and I think it

556
00:39:39.880 --> 00:39:43.559
comes from You mentioned Napoleon hell In in the beginning,

557
00:39:43.599 --> 00:39:49.360
who talks about the concept of the mastermind groups, and

558
00:39:47.920 --> 00:39:54.679
he was saying that when a group of people coordinate

559
00:39:54.840 --> 00:39:59.639
for you the best of all, then they tap into

560
00:40:00.079 --> 00:40:03.639
He called it the infinite intelligence, or something that is

561
00:40:03.920 --> 00:40:11.440
beyond the minds of the individuals. So that has also

562
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been my experience. And as a matter of fact, now

563
00:40:15.199 --> 00:40:18.880
that I would give an example many years ago, the

564
00:40:19.000 --> 00:40:23.840
idea of starting a podcast came from a mastermind group.

565
00:40:24.039 --> 00:40:27.639
Someone else said a comment and a thought, wow, I

566
00:40:27.639 --> 00:40:30.360
had never thought of that. Yeah, let's start a podcast.

567
00:40:32.280 --> 00:40:36.920
That was back in eighteen So okay.

568
00:40:37.000 --> 00:40:43.920
So, and like normal, these interviews seem to go really fast,

569
00:40:44.639 --> 00:40:47.159
and so I want to start winding, you know, kind

570
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of bringing it all together here. You talk about improving

571
00:40:52.480 --> 00:40:56.519
those two stories that you tell. What are the two

572
00:40:56.599 --> 00:40:59.920
stories that you tell?

573
00:41:01.079 --> 00:41:04.320
Again, you're referring from a chapter on my book that

574
00:41:04.880 --> 00:41:09.239
there was a guest that he was speaking coaches, that

575
00:41:09.320 --> 00:41:12.480
he was talking about stories, and the one story the

576
00:41:12.559 --> 00:41:15.199
stories that he refers to it was the story of

577
00:41:16.480 --> 00:41:21.400
our past. In other words, what has happened to me?

578
00:41:21.639 --> 00:41:25.440
What is the journey that has led me here? And

579
00:41:25.480 --> 00:41:28.159
the other words, the story was all about our future.

580
00:41:28.400 --> 00:41:32.280
And this again we were talking about the subconscious and

581
00:41:33.000 --> 00:41:38.519
autopilot responses often, and I will invite someone listening or

582
00:41:38.559 --> 00:41:43.320
watching us now to think, what is their own experience

583
00:41:43.519 --> 00:41:46.559
of that, What is the story of their past that

584
00:41:46.679 --> 00:41:51.079
they're carrying with them to the present moment. For example,

585
00:41:51.280 --> 00:41:55.000
for me, before my before I started my personal development journey,

586
00:41:55.119 --> 00:42:01.159
I was, or at least I believed that I was shy, introverted,

587
00:42:01.679 --> 00:42:08.360
uncomfortable in social situations, that my words did not appeal

588
00:42:08.440 --> 00:42:10.760
to people or people they were not interested in that.

589
00:42:11.159 --> 00:42:15.159
So that was a story that I was telling myself,

590
00:42:15.760 --> 00:42:20.000
not necessarily consciously, but I was telling that story at

591
00:42:20.000 --> 00:42:22.760
the back of my mind, and that story was influencing

592
00:42:23.280 --> 00:42:27.400
how I would show up in social events or in

593
00:42:27.440 --> 00:42:31.760
conversations or you know, meeting a stranger. So that is

594
00:42:31.800 --> 00:42:34.400
the story of the past, and that story of the past.

595
00:42:34.880 --> 00:42:37.480
It is up to us to look at it and

596
00:42:38.000 --> 00:42:43.599
rework it in a more empowering way, which you know,

597
00:42:43.639 --> 00:42:47.280
it's a big topic. The other is the story of

598
00:42:47.320 --> 00:42:51.960
the future. When we look at ourselves ahead one year

599
00:42:52.000 --> 00:42:55.000
from now, five years from now, twenty years from now,

600
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what do we see? And the thing is that Bonita

601
00:43:01.719 --> 00:43:05.599
or me or anyone we don't really know. The best

602
00:43:05.639 --> 00:43:09.920
we can do is guess. So might as well guess

603
00:43:10.079 --> 00:43:13.719
something that empowers us or something that inspires us to

604
00:43:13.760 --> 00:43:18.079
go there, rather than guessing that the next ten years

605
00:43:18.079 --> 00:43:20.480
of my life will be exactly like these ten years.

606
00:43:21.400 --> 00:43:25.440
I mean, it is a choice to use and say

607
00:43:25.480 --> 00:43:29.519
that story, and also it is a choice to change it.

608
00:43:31.440 --> 00:43:34.119
Well, I you know, we're going to have to wrap

609
00:43:34.239 --> 00:43:38.960
up here unfortunately, but I have so appreciated having Augie

610
00:43:39.000 --> 00:43:43.400
as my guest today. The book again is eighty eight

611
00:43:43.679 --> 00:43:48.960
Actionable Insights for Life, Discover the Secret shared by experts

612
00:43:48.960 --> 00:43:53.199
on personal development Mastery. Personal Development Mastery is also the

613
00:43:53.280 --> 00:43:56.320
name of his podcast, and you will be able to

614
00:43:56.360 --> 00:44:00.320
find all the information about Aggie on my website. I

615
00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:04.000
have a little flyer about guests and what you know

616
00:44:04.119 --> 00:44:06.920
when they've been there, and the link to the episode,

617
00:44:07.800 --> 00:44:11.440
So argue, if there was one thing that you would

618
00:44:11.480 --> 00:44:18.639
tell people, one practical idea from you know, from your book,

619
00:44:18.679 --> 00:44:22.239
what would it be to have people maybe you know,

620
00:44:22.559 --> 00:44:25.360
do a little bit better in this arena.

621
00:44:26.360 --> 00:44:29.840
The one that comes up right now is to take

622
00:44:31.239 --> 00:44:36.599
small but deliberate action towards something that you are curious about,

623
00:44:36.719 --> 00:44:39.559
or something that intrigues you, or something that you have

624
00:44:40.159 --> 00:44:45.679
been you know, entertaining an idea but not really done

625
00:44:45.760 --> 00:44:49.119
anything about it for you know, probably the reasons that

626
00:44:49.159 --> 00:44:51.880
we were talking about earlier, rather limited beneath short of

627
00:44:51.920 --> 00:44:55.639
story that you would be saying, or the autopilot or whatever.

628
00:44:55.960 --> 00:45:02.519
So my invitation would be too think about that thing

629
00:45:02.960 --> 00:45:08.719
or that idea that you feel curious about. Perhaps it's

630
00:45:08.760 --> 00:45:12.360
not enthusiasm, but there is some curiosity, something drawing you

631
00:45:12.559 --> 00:45:18.280
towards that, and take one small step or one small

632
00:45:18.360 --> 00:45:21.840
action towards it. It doesn't have to be anything massive

633
00:45:21.920 --> 00:45:25.960
or anything that you commit to do anything. It can

634
00:45:26.000 --> 00:45:28.239
be as simple as picking up the phone and calling

635
00:45:28.320 --> 00:45:31.519
someone you know and asking them about it, or going

636
00:45:31.599 --> 00:45:38.199
into the web and researching about it. But take some

637
00:45:38.440 --> 00:45:43.320
kind of action towards it. Do it now if you can,

638
00:45:43.760 --> 00:45:47.000
or if you were not able because you're driving or

639
00:45:47.039 --> 00:45:49.719
something else. Do it as soon as you have a

640
00:45:49.880 --> 00:45:54.800
chance and see that this little action has the potential

641
00:45:55.599 --> 00:45:59.159
to bring another action, and another after that and so on.

642
00:46:00.039 --> 00:46:04.119
That is my invitation, take some the live, small but

643
00:46:04.320 --> 00:46:08.960
delib reaction towards something that intrigues you or you are

644
00:46:09.000 --> 00:46:09.760
curious about.

645
00:46:11.559 --> 00:46:15.480
Awesome. The name of this podcast is Ask Good Questions

646
00:46:15.519 --> 00:46:17.519
and I always try to do that and I always

647
00:46:17.559 --> 00:46:22.320
try to leave people with something. So think about what

648
00:46:22.360 --> 00:46:26.719
Aggi has said, Think about what small action you could

649
00:46:26.800 --> 00:46:29.559
take to move you down the road towards those things

650
00:46:29.559 --> 00:46:33.000
that you would most like to accomplish. And with that,

651
00:46:33.599 --> 00:46:36.559
AGI thank you so much for being my guest today.

652
00:46:37.440 --> 00:46:42.960
I so appreciate you. And with that we are we

653
00:46:43.000 --> 00:46:45.760
are finished for today. Thank you for joining our episode

654
00:46:45.800 --> 00:46:49.880
today on the Ask Good Questions podcast. See you next time.

655
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