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Welcome to to Ask Good Questions Podcasts, broadcasting live every Wednesday,
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six pm Eastern Time on W four CY Radio at
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w four cy dot com. This week and every week,
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we will reach for a higher purpose in money and life,
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as well as a focus on health and wellment. Now,
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let's join your host, Anita bell Anderson, as together we
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start with Asking Good Questions.
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Welcome to the Ask Good Questions Podcast. I am your host,
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Bonita Bell Anderson, and I am looking forward to this
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episode because we're going to do something a little bit different.
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We're going to have some object lessons. We're going to
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try to teach something that people can take home and
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share with families. And so I have a young guest
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with me today and I'd like to invite him to
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the podcast stage right now. Hello. His name is Skyler
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Fleming and he's a certified he's a financial planner and
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a candidate for the CFP certification. How far are you
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on that? Are you getting close to taking the test
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for that?
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Yeah, I've taken in past the test. I have about
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six or eight months of experience hours left.
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So that's awesome. That's a great designation to have. So
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his mission is to help young adults like himself understand
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personal finance and his goal is to help everyone see
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that financial planning doesn't have to be complicated and only
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for the wealthy. So he has been hosting Money Talk
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for over four years now. That's great, Skyler, and two
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hundred plus episodes is great. He realized the opportunity that
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other young adults and young professionals have with their most
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valuable asset, which is time, because time is something you
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just don't get back. But most of the time people
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are bombarded by terrible advice and predatory salespeople and too
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much misinformation and too much doctor Google is just terrible.
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So this led him to launch financial planning for you
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adults and become a financial planner that he felt like,
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you know what, people would be able to relate. So
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he's living these strategies in real time with his own
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finances seen firsthand what works for young professionals and navigating
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student loans and four one ks and maybe the biggest thing,
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the temptation of lifestyle creep. So he speaks the language
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of his generation because he is part of it. His
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superpower is making financial planning feel less like homework and
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more like a conversation with a trusted friend who generally
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wants to see you win. Is there anything else you
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want to add to that?
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No, that was really cool and fantastic intro and everything
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I've been doing. But yeah, just excited to help people
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realize that this doesn't have to be a big complicated mess.
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And like as many of you know, I am, I'm
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still in Hawaii. I'm actually in Hawaii still until May.
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We're doing a service mission for our church here. And Skuyler,
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didn't you say you're in Twin Falls, Idaho.
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Yep, that's exactly where I am.
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Yeah, So I'm always amazed at the technol I'm out
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in the middle of the Pacific Ocean and this is great.
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So I'm gonna first we're going to like set the
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stage on this because we're going to talk about how
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to maybe ingrain in ourselves a little bit better some
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of these concepts, but then also how to share them
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with with your family. And so when you think about
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financial legacy, Skyler, you know, what do you hope your
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kids and grandkids? By the way, do you have any
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kids yet?
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Nope? Nope, My wife and I have no kids. So
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this is this is something we thought about before though,
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like how do we pass on how we we were
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taught and how do we pass it on? Yeah?
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Yeah, what are you thinking? What do you think about?
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How how do you hope your your kids or grandkids
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are going to remember about how you handled money?
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Yeah, our real big goal is making sure there's not
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a sense of entitlement, right, That's everyone's worry. As you
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start doing better with your fine nance, as you figure
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out how to handle your own money, and the hardest
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thing is saying here's money to help you. Like, I
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want to help you. I want to make sure you're
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living a good life, but I don't want to extend
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it so far that you feel like you don't have
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to still work. So for my wife and I, it's
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really been identifying some of those key moments that taught
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us about money, like paying our own way through school
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while it was a big expense, making it our own
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expense helped us realize that, hey, maybe it didn't need
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to be the most expensive college out there. It could
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be a more affordable state school or going to somewhere
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where I have a scholarship. So it's just planting in
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those little seeds is really what we're looking to do
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of say, hey, here's what helped us learn how to
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manage money. Let's keep that have it going.
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Yeah, and that's going to be so valuable it's killing
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kid you not. So what do you wish grandparents and
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parents talk more about with their kids.
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Yeah, I really wish that like my parents or my
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grandparents maybe talked about how they were handling money, especially
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when there was something that like as a kid, we
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noticed that maybe we needed to get a new furnace
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or something, maybe we needed to get a new tires.
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Just talking through like, hey, here's how this impacts us financially.
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And I've even had one person on my podcast talk
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about giving kids a piece of your budget right over
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the summer. They get to manage the snack's budget. Every
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time you guys out to the grocery store or to
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the gas station or whatever, right, they get one hundred
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dollars that last them the whole summer or whatever the
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number might be. That way, they have some ownership and saying, hey,
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if you spend it all right away, it's gone, right,
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the budget's gone. And a little bit so I just
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I wish that there'd have been a little bit more
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of an element of saying, hey, here's one tiny aspect
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of our financial life, and here's how it's being impacted
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by these different things, because it can be it's overwhelming
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to adults right to take the entire picture and actually
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understand it. So for a kid, just take those little
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small pieces. I think that would have been extremely helpful
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for me.
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Well, why do you think families avoid money conversations? What's
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the biggest thing that comes to mind.
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I think it's because parents are worried there doing it right,
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like they're already they're already struggling enough. Yeah, I mean, yeah,
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it's totally possible. Maybe you really aren't sure what you're doing.
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But I even think teaching some pieces of it, whether
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it's saying, hey, we don't always fill up our gas
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tank because right now we're living on a very tight
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budget and we don't have the money to just make
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sure everything's topped off all the time. So I think
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little conversations like that can plant seeds to say, oh, well,
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that's really interesting. Maybe there's there's times where you can't
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afford everything you want, and then sometimes you notice that
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your parents did fill the gas tank full, so maybe
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there was a bonus at work or something.
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Right.
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I think just having those little conversations can be super helpful,
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whether you're doing everything right or not right.
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Well, you know, because one of the motivations way back
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in the background for me doing my podcast is the
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mistakes I made in my life and how that impacted
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when I became a financial advisor twenty five years ago.
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And what do you think about grandparents using their life stories,
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you know, wins and mistakes too. Yeah, that you know what,
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I think that that can be valuable.
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Yeah, that's the perfect thing to tell people about. Right.
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That's why I host my podcast, money Talk. That's why
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I've had that going for over four years, is to
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take my experience, and the guests on the show is
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experience and say, hey, here's how this situation played out
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for us. Let's talk about both sides of the equation.
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What did we do right? What do we do wrong?
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Because being able to share those mistakes helps people avoid
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them in the future. Right, Like, if you're as a
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parent or a grandparent, you say, I took out way
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too many student loans, I highly recommend avoiding that because
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they were this big giant weight and stress coming out
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of college and getting my first job. Sharing those mistakes
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is going to just again plant those seeds. That's going
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to allow the future generations to avoid that same mistake,
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or at least maybe not make it in such a
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big way. They may just be able to stop before
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they get into a ton of credit card debt because
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you told them that you spent twenty years trying to
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get out of credit card debt because you were never
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had a system around it or whatever, So they can
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stop at one thousand dollars instead of twenty five thousand
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dollars of credit card debt.
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Well, when I started my podcast, the very first question
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I was asked was what do you want to call it?
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And I've known for a long time. What I would
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if I ever did a podcast, what I would call
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it would be asked good questions, because all of the
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financial mistakes that I made in my life were because
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I did not ask good questions or I didn't think
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about what's the worst thing that could happen. So yeah,
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you know, it's just something that I think this can
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be beneficial for a lot of people. So we're going
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to do something that I hope can land a little
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bit differently for people. We're going to use object lesson.
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We're going to like show you some ideas, and we're
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going to unpack what it means to number one, pay
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yourself for We're going to go through each one of
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these one by one. We're going to talk about how
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to turn a four to one K match into free
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money and how to think about that, and we're going
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to talk about why putting the big rocks in your
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life first changes everything. People may have heard about the
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big rocks story before, but you know, if there's some
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out there you know it's not it doesn't hurt to
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hear it again. So my goal today is that people
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will walk away with practical conversations and stories and hands
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on ideas that they can use with their kids, grandkids, whatever,
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and you know, do it this week. So so the
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way we'll do this is, I'm going to ask you
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a couple of questions. We'll kind of set it up,
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and then we'll do the object lesson. We'll show the
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little props and stuff. So number one is pay yourself first.
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How you explain that, Skyler to a teenager or a
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young adult who's just getting their first job or their allowance.
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Yeah, I think the way you explain it is going
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to be with this object lesson. I think that's such
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a good way that it sticks. But you just teach
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them to say, hey, all of this money isn't necessarily
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exactly what you're going to have to spend. You're going
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to have responsibilities, you're going to have requirements, things that
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you have to pay, and your money will be so
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much easier to manage if you commit yourself to making
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sure your bills are taken care of and making sure
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your savings or paying yourself first is taking care of.
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And then once you can whittle that down, you put
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yourself in such an easier spot to be able to
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spend money. Because that's what we want to do. Right,
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we want to enjoy life. We want to be able
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to go hang out with friends. I think that would
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be a huge one for teenagers, especially as they have
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money now to pay for movie tickets, They have money
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now to go out to eat. So saying you can
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spend that money however you'd like, as long as you
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make sure the other things are taken care of first.
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It gives you a more realistic boundary to keep yourself
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within instead of that lifestyle creep like you mentioned in
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the very introduction. If you're using all of your money
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to enjoy life, right, it's just going to keep ballooning
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and ballooning. But you have to make sure you take
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care of those requirements and responsibilities very first.
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I'll never forget the day I don't know, it's been
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probably ten years ago and somebody that's about sixty years
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old comes into my office and they look like a
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deer in the headlights because they've never really saved. And
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it's like and by then it's like what we talked about.
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The very first thing we mentioned was time, and that's
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the thing that you can't get back. And so if
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I can just pound this in to use the if
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you're young and you have the time and you can